Cheating is cheating, and there are so many "we are not suitable" that people are worried. According to my opinion, it's not too bad that a boy can directly tell you "we are not suitable" and then turn around and have a new love. The worst thing is the boy whose heart has long run away. He hasn't said a word to you, consuming your feelings, stepping on two boats and two spare tires.
I'll show you the data. What are the performances of boys cheating?
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Any one of them may cheat. If all four of them succeeded, it should be that they didn't escape. If there is only one single person, it may not be an affair, but your's relationship has definitely experienced a minor crisis.
Falling in love, falling in love, not even talking about it, where is love? Let's see what boys are indifferent to:
1) Before, your messages were all seconds, but now your messages are reincarnation.
2) He used to add a lot to everything you said, but now it's "hmm", "oh" and "good".
3) I used to go shopping, eat, drink and have fun with you, but now I find a "busy" excuse not to accompany you.
4) When I just chased you, I was on call 24 hours a day and took care of you 360 degrees a day. Now you say you have a cold, but he just says: drink more hot water and take medicine on time.
Maybe his indifference is because he is really busy and has no time and energy to care about his feelings. For example, he has no time to care about you because he has an emergency at home or he is too busy at work. At this time, what he needs more is your care and care for him. If you ask him for your feelings at this time, he will even escape and even think that you are not sensible.
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But! If he is not busy and just gives you the cold shoulder, then you should pay attention. It is very likely that he has cheated or is about to cheat. At this time, you can find a suitable time to talk to him about your problems, calmly ask him why he is suddenly cold to you and what he is dissatisfied with, and try to find a feasible way to change the status quo. If the other person only wants novelty and you can't give it, enough is enough.
It is said that couples should respect each other's privacy, don't look at each other's mobile phones, don't look at each other's diaries and so on. This is absolutely correct. But when a boy's mobile phone is always with him, he should avoid your eyes when watching the news around him, that may be what it is.
About privacy:
1) He changed from ringing the bell to being silent all the time.
2) Whenever you get up and leave him, he immediately takes out his mobile phone to watch.
3) You were obviously typing, but as soon as you came in, you quickly put your mobile phone in your pocket.
4) When you don't listen to music, take your mobile phone in the shower and lock the door.
If the other person has a lot of work news, there is nothing to doubt, and the mobile phone will not leave him, but his expression is unnatural when he looks at the mobile phone, it must not be work news. Go back to work. As for avoiding you? !
Couples should respect each other and be honest with each other. We really shouldn't look at each other's privacy, but if you really can't help wondering why the other person is hiding, you have to look at it in front of him with his consent. This is a decent thing.
If he is not a picky person when he is with you at first, then he becomes such a person after a period of time, then you should be careful.
1) You gave it to him before, and he was grateful and excited; Now no matter what you give him, he always says, "Can you have some?" .
2) Because I am too busy at work, I have no time to tidy up the housework. In the past, he said, "I don't pick up after a hard rest." Clean it up another day. " Now: "Why are you so lazy? Your family is a mess, and you don't know how to clean it up. How will a girl like you get married in the future? "
3) You used to cook him a meal once a week. No matter what he does, he says it's delicious. Now, "Why did you eat takeout again today? Don't you know that eating too much takeaway is not good for your health! " "How can this dish be made by you? It tastes terrible. Why don't you learn to cook! "
When he loves you, you fart in front of him, and he will say "it smells good". When he doesn't love you, you are useless. No matter how hard you try, you can't catch his eyes.
After the love period, you have lived a tepid life, without sudden surprises, well-prepared gifts, constant care and consideration, and ubiquitous companionship; But one day, the other person suddenly treats you well for no reason. It's not an anniversary, it's not a birthday, it's not a bonus, it's not a promotion and salary increase, but it's a sudden kindness to you. Pay attention to this. Maybe he did something wrong, felt he owed you something, and wanted to make it up to you through some good performance.
Guilty performance:
1) You obviously don't have the habit of soaking your feet, but he suddenly brought you foot bath water at night and said, "After a hard day, soaking your feet is good for blood circulation and helps you sleep."
2) You told him before that he didn't know anything about cosmetics, and he never gave you cosmetics, but suddenly he bought you a lipstick with your favorite color number, saying, "I watched Li Jiaqi live, and everyone said that this color number was beautiful, thinking that you might like it, so I bought it."
3) In the past, when he had menstrual pain, he always said, "Drink more hot water and bear it." Now remember your menstrual period, cook brown sugar for you and watch you stay away from cold water.
Boys with this kind of performance still have a little conscience and are unlikely to establish intimate relationships with new lovers. However, a man who wants to establish a close relationship with another person is not in the mood to feel indebted to you and wants to make up for it.
So at this time, don't startle him, don't pester him to ask him why he did it, and don't force him to ask if he did anything wrong to you. Observe his every move, see if he has any other behavior while making up for you, and consider clearly what you need in this relationship, what you can do for him, and what he can do for you. If he is satisfied, he will have no other deviant behavior. I suggest cherishing this relationship. If he still has deviant behavior, it is recommended to stop the loss in time.
Some boys don't take you out to join them the first time they meet you, so it's not easy for you to judge such boys. But at first, when we were together, the boy who took you to parties, big and small, suddenly stopped taking you to see his friends, using the usual trick:
1) are all colleagues at work, and you have no topic to talk to them when you go. How embarrassing.
2) My best friend is lovelorn, so I'll take you to stimulate him ~
3) They are all men. What can I say if I go alone?
It's time for such a boy to think about why he doesn't take you out. Are the reasons he said true, or are you ugly recently, or is he taking other girls to attend ~
Occasionally, when I find some suspicious little moves, I will find various reasons to cover up and lie. He is always angry with you and has no patience. He always feels that this is not good for you and that is not good. Actually, it's just that his mind is not on you.
1) He rushed to do it before you asked him for help. Now, "Why are you so annoyed? You can't do so many things yourself! "
2) Before you got sick, he gave you medicine and water. Now, "Why are you always sick? Won't you pay attention! "
3) You used to tease him, but he always spoiled you. Now, "Honey, are you ... free tonight?" "I have something to say, I am very busy!"
Anyway, the performance is that he is not the gentle and considerate person when he first got together, but he will lose his temper with you when he is disturbed.
Needless to say, when I'm with you, I don't care if my beard is long or if my pants are rolled. Suddenly he began to pay attention to his appearance, indicating that he must want to attract someone's attention.
I have a boyfriend who is very fat when he is single, weighing about 200 Jin. We all advised him to lose weight. Being too fat is bad for his health. He said, "You don't understand the happiness of fat people."
Then one day, he stopped eating at noon and asked him out for a drink at night. Asked him why, he said he was losing weight, and we were curious. Why didn't you listen to anything before? Now he suddenly started to lose weight. He said, "I met a sister recently and talked to her several times, but she mind that I am fat, so I want to lose weight."
Did you get a look at him? Sloppy boys pay attention to their image in order to attract girls and chase them. I am unkempt about you because you got it, and he got what he wanted from you, so he doesn't care about his image.
Count how many strokes your partner has won, more than half of which are real hammers! I said this, but I can't sum up all the boys. Some cheating boys are really the best in the world. When facing you, they don't change their faces or jump. While they are making out with you, they are passionate about another girl, but not many boys can reach this level. The above seven items are enough to test whether your "he" has cheated.
I'm Chen Yu, an emotional counselor, and I know more than you think. If you are emotionally confused, you can ask for a private letter or comment.