I found that many women, even if they are married and have two children, still have some unrealistic fantasies in their minds, thinking about her overbearing president.
I hope my husband is rich, casual, romantic and single-minded. It is best to be self-centered everywhere and pampered like a daughter.
This is simply unrealistic, because after marriage, the focus of a man's life will inevitably shift. When he doesn't want to fall in love, he just needs to talk. After having a family, all he thinks about every day is mortgage, tuition, work and parents' health.
Therefore, it is qualified that the husband can appear in time when you need it, and can appear in time when the family needs it.
At ordinary times, I can also keenly capture some of your small emotions. I will keep whatever is good for you, which will make you a little bit when quarreling.
2. Good personality
He should be a trustworthy and reliable person.
Although you also have your own opinions and ideas, a man's personality greatly affects the future of children and families. Once you choose a man with bad character, you will be tired of raising children, taking care of the elderly and supporting both parents. Did you foresee all this?
Many times, when young people are in love, they always choose their lovers according to their own preferences. Once they get married on impulse, they find that everything in life needs to be practical and reliable, and the initial choice is not to exist. Are you embarrassed? Is it painful?
A man with good character can have a sense of understanding and respect in his heart even if his face is dead. Even if he is tired of your nagging and verbosity, he can listen patiently and accompany him seriously. His personality determines that he will not live up to and give up easily, and always stick to his original intention and choice.
Marriage is not like love. If you don't like it, separate. If you don't think it's appropriate, separate. The end of marriage will involve many things, at least this is the most indisputable: your file will become a divorce.
Just to avoid the word "divorce", we should also keep our eyes open and make a good choice.
3. Self-motivation
Men earn money, this is responsibility, women earn money, this is dignity. The meaning of the two is different.
Women can be much better than men, but men should not give up on themselves, let alone learn to take a back seat, which would be even more undesirable.
Many times, that's it. Some men think that their daughter-in-law is very capable and earns a lot. So he began to eat soft rice. In fact, his work was very good, but then his self-confidence was frustrated and he simply broke the jar and quit.
When you meet a man with this potential, you'd better avoid it. Women have many identities in marriage and need to play many roles. If you want to play these roles well, women have to choose the right people. Once you choose the wrong person, no matter how good the person is and how much you pay, you will never be able to control the happiness in this life. Just like the old man said: save, save, wait in the hole.
You are so good, you should always find a good man who is evenly matched. You can't just give up on yourself. It's unfair to you, and it's unfair to your parents who gave birth to you and raised you. They make you a flower, not for anyone who is sad or hard, but for happiness.
4. Pay attention to feelings
I must remember that this is emotion, but not affection.
Many things, once persistent, will give birth to a lot of trouble. Just like affection, if a man is too affectionate, he will become sentimental, emotional and emotional, and even do some strange things for affection. Once in real life, with these performances, it is basically not good.
Everything should be kept at a certain level, not too affectionate, but not fickle, just pay attention to your own feelings.
A man who attaches importance to feelings will respect the laws of feelings in their lives, ensure the integrity of marriage, and do everything around life, which is better than persistence and stubbornness after feelings.
Once you are affectionate, you are likely to become jealous and trapped by love. A little trouble on your side will cause trouble on his side, and even supervision and questioning will make you get along very tired.
Life, simplicity is true; It is normal to be dull, too deep and affectionate, and it is easy to get tired of each other and delay the pace of life.
Two people who are destined to be together, talk more about feelings at first, and then talk more about life and the future. If you meet an affectionate person, he will always talk to you about love and affection, you will feel bored and he will feel very tired. In short, it is difficult to keep balance.
Simple, plain, very good, don't mix too much love and hate, life needs to be practical and stable, and you don't need too much wind and rain and adventure.