The story of Gillian Lynn? Gillian Lynn is a problem student in the eyes of the teacher. Her homework is not only messy, but also often affects the progress of the class. She either walked around making noise or stared out of the window, so the teacher had to stop teaching and draw Gillian's attention back, but she began to disturb the children around her. The school has always believed that Gillian has some learning disabilities, and suggested that Lynn's mother transfer Lynn to a special education school. Later, mom took Lynn to see a psychiatrist. The doctor left Lynn alone in the clinic. After leaving the room, she turned on the radio behind the desk to play music, and then she was outside with Lynn's mother, watching Lynn's every move through the visible glass window. As time went on, Lynn slowly relaxed her vigilance and walked around the room with the music. The doctor and Lynn's mother were very surprised to see Lynn's behavior. At this time, the doctor turned to his mother and said, "Mom Lynn is not sick, she just has a talent for dancing. What you need to do is not to find a psychiatrist, but to take her to a dance class. " Because Lynn's rhythm and music are natural. Later, Lynn, who had been abandoned by the school, finally became a world-renowned contemporary choreographer, and created several most successful musicals in history, Cat and Phantom of the Opera.
If Lynn has been labeled as a "learning problem" and has not found an adult who can understand her, I think she will only take medicine for the rest of her life to suppress it.
Xiao Doudou is a naughty boy.
? In Little Doudou by the Window, Doudou, who was only in the first grade of primary school, was dropped out of school. In class, Doudou will keep opening and closing the lid of the desk for nearly a hundred times. He would suddenly stand up and stand by the classroom window. He will talk to the road from time to time, or ask the swallow loudly, "What are you doing?" ... always bothering the teacher, but letting Doudou drop out of school, because he can't sit quietly like most people. At the same time, he was also labeled as "naughty". What are the standards of "naughty" and "naughty"? Are you obedient? Do you follow the rules? Can you sit for dozens of minutes and listen to the teacher quietly?
Is it possible that every child has his own unique temperament, but we don't know children.
Xiao Doudou, the protagonist of Little Doudou by the Window, is just like Lynn. Fortunately, Xiao Doudou met the headmaster who understood her, President Sousaku Kobayashi, and entered the People's Action Party College, a school that understood her.
Every child is a good boy. Generally, it is a standard mode for adults to ask questions and children to answer them. When they meet President Kobayashi for the first time, Xiao Doudou will talk to him for four hours. When adults see Xiao Doudou digging a cesspit for his wallet, they will only say angrily, "What are you doing? Or step in and help, "don't do it, let me help you. But President Kobayashi only said, "Remember to put things back when you are finished." "; Generally, adults only allow children to swim in swimsuits, but President Kobayashi asked the children to take off their clothes and play naked in the water just because they felt more comfortable swimming naked. When adults eat, they generally ask their children to "stop talking and eat well." But President Kobayashi said to the students, "You must be in a good mood when eating, and everyone can talk while eating. "
Principal Kobayashi is different from ordinary adults, which makes Xiao Doudou fall in love with this school deeply, just because President Kobayashi thinks that "every child is a good child."
The concept of "every child is a good boy" allows President Kobayashi to see the uniqueness of each child, find the most suitable way to deal with children according to their nature and personality, and listen to Xiao Doudou for four hours, which makes him feel at ease and warm. Remind Doudou to dig a cesspit instead of stopping or interfering blindly, so that Doudou feels trusted and satisfied; Principal Kobayashi let the children swim naked and chat while eating, which made Doudou feel very comfortable and at ease.
When reading the book "Little Doudou by the Window", I thought to myself, if my child met a teacher who could make him feel at ease, warm, trusting, satisfied, comfortable and comfortable when he was a student, how happy my child would be, and he would never forget this teacher when he grew up.
"The Little Doudou by the Window" has a feeling.
It is easy for us to put a frame of right and wrong on a child, and we will not think that he is a good child until he gets the standard answer we want. Frankly speaking, many times, he is either different from most people, or wrong, or he is wrong if he doesn't do what adults say, or he is wrong if he doesn't get the standard answer and framework of right and wrong correctly. If we exclude the standard answer and framework of right and wrong, we may be able to really understand the child and understand him. This is also the little peas by the window.
Only by letting children feel that we are accompanying him, trusting him and appreciating him, can our relationship with children remain trust and eternal, and can children grow up confidently and happily like Gillian Lynn and Xiao Doudou.
There is no label, no preset framework, only listen to children, understand children, understand children, let us get along with children and create our own Pap Academy together. Every child will definitely like a happy world.
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