Many people will say, "It doesn't make sense. No matter what I do, she won't look at me again." The man who asked this question hasn't really figured out what you did wrong and whether your mistake can be corrected.
Let's take a look at three common mistakes in chatting:
1 The atmosphere is too serious.
Many men's chat records are like this:
Man: "Hello, my name is A Hao. Aunt Li gave me your contact information. I think we can make friends. "
Female "Hello."
There seems to be nothing wrong with this chat, but it looks like your serious exchange project. A woman talks about emotions. When she finds that chatting with you has no joyful atmosphere, she will acquiesce that you are a boring man, and over time she will choose to give up you because chatting with you is too depressing.
It's hard for everyone to go to work during the day, but it's not good to have more emotions and a happy atmosphere when chatting at night.
2 lack of emotion * * *
Woman: "I saw a love movie yesterday. It's so beautiful! " "
Man: "I used to watch romantic movies, but now I watch less."
This sentence is actually very disappointing, because she is telling you something she is happy about, but you throw cold water on her and tell her, "I won't watch it now." In the eyes of women, this sentence actually means "it's meaningless for you to tell me this".
She tells you an emotional story, the purpose of which is to talk and share. If you can't make her feel it, when you communicate with me, I can share happiness with you, and women will feel it. Actually, you don't understand me.
3 I'm flattered
Many boys subconsciously choose to praise each other when they don't know how to answer the phone.
What is this man doing?
Female "just came home from the gym, tired"
Man: "It's a self-disciplined girl to exercise so late."
Is the focus of this sentence fitness? If you can understand the main point of this sentence, please help me write it in the comments section. )
Men always praise each other for two reasons: first, because you don't know what to talk about at the moment, praise it first to avoid sudden disconnection of the topic; Secondly, because you think a girl likes to be praised, it will make her feel better about you.
But the reality is just the opposite. When a woman feels this man's careless praise many times, she will think that you are really of low value, and even such a trivial matter should be pushed up.
Men who die in the above three ways of chatting, love is on the other side, just change the way of thinking of chatting and start a new round of formation.
1 causes the other person's guilt and shows its value on the side.
Her feedback on your chat now is very low, even for a long time. This is actually a very rude behavior in essence, but she doesn't realize it at present. Women not only don't realize that you are a man, but also mistakenly think that you are not good at chatting. Shouldn't the other party give you at least respect? )
The first step is to let her know that she did something wrong, and then freeze our relationship at this stage, so that she feels that our relationship has not continued to decline.
How to let her know that she did something wrong?
Man: "I just got back the news. Did you just get home?"
Woman "Morning, eat"
Man: "well, I thought you had no voice for so long." Is something wrong? This is a waste of worry. "
The purpose of this is to arouse the other person's guilt and let her know that when she deliberately does not reply to the information, it actually makes others worry. Then don't reply to anything she says.
The freezing time is 1 to 4 days, but remember, you can't freeze it after every chat, or she will realize that this is your "routine".
During the frozen relationship, we can't wait for the opportunity, we also need to show male charm. There are three kinds of value displays that women see in men:
A social potential stock, good working ability: you can take photos of working late at night in your circle of friends and shape an image of being responsible and capable.
B. A wide range of hobbies can easily bring happiness to others: you can show pictures of mountain climbing, swimming or fitness in your circle of friends to express your sunny and optimistic mood.
C Wide social circle: You can take photos of eating with colleagues and friends in the circle of friends, express your popularity and make people like you.
2 establish contact and warm up the relationship.
When you contact her after the freezing period, she will feel different about you. First, because she realized that her previous behavior was biased, she felt guilty about you; Second, you have created a brand-new image, showing her that you are not the kind of low-value man who can be called at any time. So if we talk again, she will pay more attention to you.
But this time, you need to start with the same topic, such as a book she used to like. You can take a photo of her in the bookstore and say, "I watched it for two hours in the afternoon and found it really good."
This openness of * * * contact will make her feel that there is no emotional need for you to chat, and you are for the purpose of sharing, which will not make her feel pressure in the chat.
After such contact, it can effectively alleviate her previous negative impression of you and then re-establish contact. Does the partner have any other communication methods that lead to the woman's cold reply?