Girls will be more emotional in the process of love, but at the same time, they will also pay more feelings. If they choose to let go after a struggle, it is enough to show that this relationship has made it difficult for her to support.
Many boys only realize the preciousness of their ex-girlfriends after their girlfriends broke up with themselves, but it is not easy to save an ex-girlfriend who broke up completely at this time.
Besides sincere heart and great courage, we also need some professional methods.
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First, instead of pestering and beating, it is better to calm down for a while.
Most people's first reaction after falling in love is pestering and beating. It seems that they can achieve their goals through this unreasonable way, but in fact, it is better to put themselves in their shoes at this time.
If you have been extremely disappointed in someone and have decided to let go, then no matter how stubborn this person appears in front of your eyes, you will no longer feel excited, but will only feel more disgusted.
Therefore, if you want to recover after breaking up, you must not rush to entangle, so that at least you can maintain the good memories you once had.
At this point, the best choice is cold treatment or direct diplomatic relations. Since the relationship between the two people has reached this stage, it shows that both sides have problems.
Not only do you need to calm down for a while, but the other party also needs to think hard, so you may wish to cut off all contact information at this time.
However, the choice of breaking diplomatic relations should also be analyzed according to different situations, otherwise it may be counterproductive.
Second, recognize the fact of breaking up.
Everyone has worldly desires, and a love affair is an unrepeatable memory of life. Even if you have broken up now, the time you once had will not pass away.
Even if she was so rude when she broke up, you should always believe that the deep responsibility of love may have been too great, so the final disappointment will become more and more profound.
Many people will have a very unreal time after they have just been lovelorn, and often ask themselves, is it really lovelorn? But all this will gradually smooth over time.
Wait until finally one day you can accept it flatly, yes, I am lovelorn, I am really lovelorn. Then it will never be recovered. In fact, if you really want to save a relationship, you still have many opportunities to save it in this frozen relationship.
Especially for boys with deep feelings, they are often more insecure than girls after breaking up. Maybe there will be different friends to persuade and comfort them during this period.
But knowing the truth is one thing, and applying it to yourself is another. If you are in a bad state at this time, try to divert your attention.
There are thousands of flowers in Qian Qian in the world, and you can always find another way to stop your addiction to breaking up, such as changing jobs, going hiking, or going to the gym to vent perfectly.
Only by thoroughly understanding the reality of breaking up can we adjust our mentality and get ready to get married again.
Third, analyze the reasons.
Love is also a business process, and no one can carry a love to the end at will, so if a love suddenly dies in the process of long-distance running, there must be some unavoidable problems.
If you want to save a relationship again, you first need to face up to the relationship itself and find out your own problems from the details of your previous love. Only by finding out the crux can we prescribe the right medicine. Frequently asked questions are as follows:
1, insufficient communication
This is a problem that many couples will have. Sometimes, although two people sit face to face, they don't communicate while playing with their mobile phones, or they chat on their mobile phones every day, but they never have a heart-to-heart communication.
Real communication is not to get rid of the triviality of life, but to really make the other person feel that your heart has been opened to her. Only in this way can the communication between two people be effective.
Similarly, good communication can also avoid some unnecessary contradictions and conflicts, and at the same time, it can better safeguard the feelings between two people.
Contradictions in love often form two communication modes, one is demanding communication mode, and the other is avoiding communication mode.
In the first communication mode, one party in love will constantly ask the other party to solve the contradiction, which will only make the contradiction more serious.
Another way of communication is that the other party has been avoiding in order to ease the contradiction. Although neither mode will make the conflict break out immediately, there is no doubt that boiling frogs in warm water will only make the feelings and trust between two people worse and worse.
2. Love is boring and has no freshness.
Generally, people who have been married know that when marriage loses the youth of love, it will become a deep affection. This law also applies to young couples who have no marriage hall.
But people in love don't have the red book as a guarantee like married couples, so once the novelty in love passes, the relationship will reach a certain bottleneck.
If you want to maintain a relationship for a long time, it is very necessary to inject freshness into this relationship regularly. Otherwise, there will be no contradiction between the two people, and this relationship will eventually drift away in calm.
People are curious, and no one can keep the same heat after fully understanding one thing, so the feeling needs freshness.
3. Realistic factors
Realistic factors are the most difficult to change, but also the easiest to solve. Common reasons are family reasons, long-distance love, or economic situation.
Although these problems seem difficult to solve, they are much better than two people's hearts drifting away, and they can also be improved slowly through the joint efforts of two people.
4. Attitudes towards love are uneven.
Equal love is often advocated now. However, in real love cases, we find it very difficult to achieve true love equality.
The strong party in love will unconsciously want to control everything of the other party, and once the control desire is not realized, it will lose control of emotions and make some uncontrollable behaviors, so the contradiction between the two people will rise extremely.
The weak side will gradually feel inferior because of being squeezed for a long time. In the long run, this unequal love relationship will make the feelings of two people completely collapse and go to an abyss that is difficult to repair.
And those who really know how to love will try their best to maintain the dynamic balance of two people's love state.
Fourth, open your heart and find the right key.
After analyzing the above problems, it shows that you have enough mentality to face the matter of saving money. What you need to do next is to find your own key, and then let the other person's closed heart open for you again.
1, self-investment
Self-investment here refers to making yourself a person with both internal and external skills through investment, and appearance is also very important. After all, what needs to be done to save is to re-establish secondary attraction.
Moreover, people are all visual animals, and if they look sloppy, they will only make each other feel indifferent or even disgusted. However, you don't need to clean yourself up too brightly, as long as you are clean and tidy, the sun will be fine.
In addition, it is more important to enhance your inner attraction. At this time, you can make good use of the cooling-off period and learn something.
For example, signing up for a fitness class to get in shape, or learning a musical instrument, or reading more books to enrich yourself, will greatly improve your score in the second scenic spot.
While investing in yourself, don't forget to let the other person know about your changes, so it is very necessary to establish a circle of friends. You have to show her that you are changing and making progress, and you are trying to be a better person.
2. Seize the opportunity and succeed in one fell swoop.
If all the previous work has been done, congratulations, you have successfully established a second attraction for her.
At this time, it is very unmanly to rely solely on the second communication, so you should seize the opportunity and invite her out to meet.
Be sure to pay attention to the wording when inviting each other. Never talking about breaking up is like inviting an ordinary friend out on a date.
However, you can use some caution, such as inviting her to do some projects she likes, which is both logical and reasonable.
3. Improve emotional intelligence and pay attention to words.
Now that we have reached the stage of dating, it would be a pity if we fall short because of improper language.
Therefore, in the process of dating, we must pay special attention to our words and deeds, and never make actions or words that disgust the other party.
At first, you don't need to let the other person know your real needs, just like meeting ordinary friends, otherwise it will make the other person feel strongly uncomfortable and gradually feel alert, which is not conducive to recovery.
Meanwhile, don't put yourself in a low-key position. Although the purpose of your visit is to save, too low profile will only make it more difficult to save.
In addition, don't treat recovery as repairing a broken relationship, but try to establish a new relationship, which will be much easier than recovery.
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It is better to live in the past than in the present, not to mention that your past is not all good memories, so be smart at this time and don't bring back those bad memories.
Finally, never quarrel. When former lovers meet face to face again, there may be some conflicts and contradictions for some reasons. In any case, we must avoid quarreling at this time.
Otherwise, your painstaking recovery plan will fall short.
Although a woman's heart is a needle in the sea, it is also made of meat and a very emotional animal. If they don't save enough of those disappointments, they won't leave you resolutely.
So as long as your heart is sincere enough to let the other person see your sincerity and sincerity, it is just around the corner.