First, the old generation's inherent concept of parenting. My father-in-law has been scolding me since I was pregnant. The classic quotation is "doctors can't listen, doctors are scaring people!" Doctors are all 250. " How can a child grow up without eating big oil! ""children are not healthy when they are young! " "The old saying makes sense! Doctors don't know anything about "children must sleep in adult beds". My father, on the other hand, has been quietly searching for parenting theories on the Internet, keen to watch parenting lectures given by various child psychologists, and occasionally chat with me. He even knows more about the theories and methods of modern children's psychological development education than I do, and the concept of parenting will not interfere with my husband's life and choice.
Second, the way to communicate with children may be the way to control children. Pay attention to ways and means when communicating. For example, it is really strange for a child to cry in public and say what you think of others. Parents can apologize to the people around them first, so that children can realize that it is wrong to disturb others, and then what parents should do next is to calm their children's emotions. But I have seen noisy and useless children more than once, and I don't know whether some children are born perfect or because of long-term educational problems. My parents are morbidly ignorant of eating children. As long as children can eat and eat, they can't say how happy they are. They couldn't eat any more, and they all threw up. They want him to eat more and are proud of it. They preach everywhere and despise other children who can't eat. I can understand that they have been dominated by the fear of hunger, but I don't agree with their current concept.
That's what my mother does. She never listens to her children. She always interrupts them and finishes what she has to say before turning to her own business. I don't want children to play with toys, it's too messy. Children learn to read, do multiple-choice questions, and don't let him choose the wrong one. They must tell him the correct answer, so that children are not confident and dare not make their own choices. You can discipline in other ways, not this way. Even if you want to use the kind of "wait until you are wet!" You deserve it when you get wet?
? Third, learn to listen to your children, but I think it may be useless to communicate with you. Why? Because what kind of discipline you use is exactly what you value most in your heart. If you are interested in the method that takes effect immediately, then you will like to use this compulsory method; But if you value your child's mind and his long-term development, then you will spend more time thinking about other methods.
I really understand. Actually, I think the friend above is right. Raising children is often something we missed when we were young, and we want to get it back from them. Therefore, most of our generation have been ignored by their elders. I remember when I was in junior high school, I had many contradictions with my parents. In fact, I really want to communicate with my parents, but I dare not say it, so I told my parents what I thought by writing, but the parents' reaction after reading the letter was, "Children think blindly, focus on their studies, and don't do that." Then I saw that the letter was torn up and thrown away by them. I was sad for a long time. Although my child is only one and a half years old, I try my best to learn to be a respected mother. Every generation has the brand of the times, but I hope that the negative brand will be less and less, leaving more brands of happiness.
Learning to listen to children is the most important thing. In communication with children, it may not matter what we say, but what kind of tone and way we communicate with children is the most important.