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Luffy
Some people say that feelings need to be managed, so that the life of daily necessities will not become dull and you will not care about me.
Brother Fei is here today to share some advice about love and help you learn how to "water and fertilize" a relationship.
Advice for men in love:
1 Learn to trust, and don't be suspicious and suspicious for no reason.
The most important premise of a relationship is mutual trust. Since you have chosen her, you should give her enough freedom while loving her. Respect each other's inner small world and learn to give each other enough free space. A lot of love that you think is "deep" is nothing more than a shackle in her heart.
Don't be indecisive, indecisive.
Boys who are too indecisive sometimes give people a seemingly weak appearance. Therefore, try to suppress your hesitant personality and actively express your opinions while respecting girls in dating.
3. Enough sweet talk
It is true that in love life, sweet words are like a touch of sugar, which is the sweetener of feelings, but we should also learn to stop. Too much sweet talk will become glib, giving girls a feeling that they are not reliable enough.
You can only promise what you can do and try your best to do it.
Sometimes, a man's promise is really like a reassurance, which will give a woman a certain degree of security. But exaggerating some unrealistic promises can easily make women's trust in you greatly reduced. Learn to change "I will handle everything" and "I will handle everything" into "I will do my best for you."
5. Don't do what you say.
For example, women may mind men smoking more, so if you make a statement, try to give up smoking for her. You must show such courage and boldness. It's hard to quit, but at least try to smoke as little as possible so that women can see the changes you've made. At the same time, don't be too stubborn about what you decide, and learn to listen to women's thoughts and opinions.
Advice to women in love:
1. Don't always test men, let alone threaten to break up.
You must have heard the story "The Wolf is Coming". Breaking up easily in love life is like a child who keeps shouting "Wolf". Over time, it will be seen as a psychological hint in a man's heart, and his feelings will be very fragile.
2. Don't be arrogant.
Of course, occasionally coquetry and selling cute to boyfriends is also a prop to increase emotional interest. But if you are too arrogant and expand your privileges indefinitely, it will make your boyfriend feel disgusted.
Don't kill men's patience.
Many women always think that it is natural for men to wait for women, so you are always late for dating, eating and watching movies. Patience is not infinite, it will only wear away with the superposition of one thing after another, so learn to manage your time well.
4. Learn to express your thoughts more.
Don't blindly believe the nonsense "If you love me, you will know what I am thinking", not to mention saying it often. Everyone has a different way of thinking and thinking. No one close to you can know exactly what you are thinking, so learn to express your thoughts.
5, learn to "forget", don't always hold on to a small thing.
All saints make mistakes, not to mention mortals. So sometimes men make small mistakes and let bygones be bygones. Don't take it out every time you quarrel.
6. Learn to respect, understand and trust men.
Give your boyfriend enough space to deal with things other than you. After all, a person's energy is limited. Just because you are his girlfriend, he should put all his energy into you. Therefore, we should learn to tolerate his occasional solitude. At the same time, no matter how close you are, please don't joke about his self-esteem and don't hurt him at will.
7. Have confidence in yourself and don't always compare yourself with his predecessor.
Since he chose you, he should cherish the present and don't dwell too much on past emotional experiences. At the same time, never expect men to bow to you. He is your boyfriend, not a slave who loves you.
To run a relationship, learn the following:
1, clean the house together every once in a while, cook a big meal, and then sit down and talk while eating. Speak out what you want to say. These words can be dissatisfaction, dependence, future planning, and learn to express them to each other. Learn to listen and speak.
Remember: No matter what you do for the other party, don't use it as a bargaining chip afterwards.
3. Never mention unpleasant past events, and never poke each other's wounds, no matter how tense the situation is.
Learn to keep a tacit understanding, in which one person does one thing for two people, such as cleaning, cooking or arranging a trip, and never complains even if it doesn't suit the other person's appetite. Make a mild suggestion at most. Respect each other's efforts for this relationship, even if sometimes they don't work hard to that extent.
5. Reject cold violence, not cold war. In fact, the cold war has no benefit except hurting each other's feelings and killing each other's feelings. No matter what conflicts there are between the two sides, try to learn to calm down and talk in one day. If the other person can't pull his face down, then you should take the initiative to make peace.
6. Don't be angry and don't tolerate any dissatisfaction or opinions. Instead, let the two sides be quiet for a while, and then sit down and talk frankly and peacefully. Never do anything to hide your emotions, and then get angry and resentful because the other person can't guess his mind.
7. As long as the other person doesn't want to talk about the other person's emotional changes, then don't continue asking questions. When dealing with such things, we can neither ignore nor impose our worries on each other. If the other party needs it, listen to the other party at any time. If the other person doesn't need to talk, just stay with him quietly.
In fact, feelings are never a person's business. The quality of a relationship requires the joint efforts and efforts of both parties.
Some people always think: I understand the truth, but it is difficult to handle this relationship well. In fact, sometimes I think that many things are difficult to control when I am emotional, but looking back, I can't even remember why I was angry and why I quarreled. So let's live the present from now on, learn to cherish it, and at the same time try our best to act.