Is this how you take care of your children?
Kiki gave birth to a baby soon after she got married. Because the career is booming and the expenses are huge after giving birth to the baby, Kiki doesn't want to give up her job. After discussion, the couple decided to ask her mother-in-law to help take care of the baby for a while.
The arrival of her mother-in-law really lightened Kiki's burden, helped to take care of the baby, helped to cook, and even helped to clean up the house. For this reason, Kiki was very grateful to her mother-in-law, but later the change of the child made Kiki discover the abnormality.
I don't know when the child became particularly fond of crying, especially when Kiki came home. Children cry the most, as if crying for Kiki. Her eyes were still fixed on her mother-in-law when she cried. Kiki felt that there was a problem, but she was afraid to ask in front of her, so she planned to come back early the next day.
The next afternoon, Kiki deliberately asked for leave to go home early. When she got home, there was no one there. She went back to her room to hide. Soon, my mother-in-law came back from outside with her children. She only heard her mother-in-law say savagely, "You go out to buy a dish and come to trouble me. You know how to cry every day. If your mother didn't go to work, would you still cry? " Stop crying and come into the house! Hearing this, Kiki came out of the room and said, "Mom, is this how you take care of your baby?" "When her mother-in-law saw Kiki at home, she immediately changed her face:" Oh, why are you back so early? The meal is not ready yet. I'm going to cook. Please a little faster. I miss you. Kiki returned to her room with her child in her arms and asked, "Does Grandma often do this to you?" Mom wronged you, and mom will take you there later! "
Most old people can't stand the pain of their children. Even if they are old, they will help them according to their abilities. But some old people are different. They only consider their own face and gains and losses, so there is a situation of "fake baby".
"Fake baby" has a great influence on children's growth.
1, inferiority complex
An obvious feature of the "fake child" old man is that he has two faces in front of his children. They will be kind to their children, but once the children are not at home at work, they will swear at them and even beat and scold them. This contrast will make children feel that they are not accepted, and it is easy to have an inferiority complex, and communication will also be affected when they grow up.
2. Impaired health
Helping the elderly take care of the baby means that the child will be with the elderly most of the time every day. If the elderly "take care of the baby" and often vent their emotions to the child, then the child's physical and mental state will have problems. There is a certain correlation between human health and emotional changes. If children are in negative emotions every day, their health will naturally be affected.
If you need the help of the elderly to take care of your baby, how can you avoid the phenomenon of "fake baby"?
Considering the life pressure of young people at this stage, most families need the help of the elderly to take care of their children. In order to avoid the appearance of "fake babies", parents must communicate with the elderly more emotionally, build trust and remember to be grateful. When the elderly feel the recognition and understanding from their children, they are naturally more willing to pay sincerely psychologically.
So, parents, have you ever encountered a "fake baby" in your life?