Feeling:
When I was a child, my mother said: children, be obedient, be a good boy, and don't let adults worry;
After school, the teacher said: students, study hard, be a useful person and make more contributions to society;
After work, the boss said: So-and-so, you should work hard, be a valuable person and create more profits for the company.
Nobody asked me: What do you want? Do it according to your idea!
Freud believed that the ID was a beast and needed to be tamed by the superego, first by parents and then by society, in order to tame this wild horse!
But Winnicott said: If we can only be normal, it would be really terrible!
Wu Zhihong believes that parents, teachers and other authorities, especially parents, should encourage children to live out their ID and wildness, because ID and wildness are life, and superego will never be life.
Thinking: After knowing that the ID is life, how should we raise children?
1, believe that every life is different, and respect children's nature; Be a 60-point parent, give recognition in good times and provide support when frustrated;
2. Living high is the best example of improving one's consciousness and exerting one's instinct;
3. Get in touch with the energetic people in high live, feel their instincts, and let this energy flow between you;
Ok: self-awareness is the premise; Only by ensuring that everything outside serves me can I live a high-impact child.