Cold stick education may make children feel inferior and confused.
Ma Bao said that her son Xiaoyu had poor academic performance. He often doesn't listen carefully and do his homework. No matter how much he beats and scolds, he just won't listen. Moreover, his children are introverted, a little withdrawn and their grades are getting worse and worse. Originally he wanted his children to go to a better school. Now this achievement can only be wishful thinking.
Xiaoyu himself said that he felt useless, that he was a waste, and that he wanted to study hard, but he couldn't learn well. The child is slowly losing his vitality, which makes him feel inferior and confused.
After getting to know my counselor friends, I come to the conclusion that there is something wrong with family education. Xiaoyu's parents' education method is simple and rude stick education. If Xiaoyu does something wrong, his parents just beat and scold him, saying that his children are useless and he can't do such a small thing well.
Over time, children really feel that they are useless and become inferior. As a result, children become timid, introverted, afraid to contact with people, and even feel confused about life, which makes my psychological doctor friends very worried. I feel that if it is not early, tragedy may happen in the near future.
Finally, my counselor friend summed up a sentence: "A really good family education should not be cold, but full of love"! I am deeply touched when I hear this.
Although "stick education" has existed since ancient times, some people have made some achievements by using stick education, but stick education is not the best and most effective education method. Many times, stick education brings children not positive educational significance, but helps them learn violent problem-solving methods, as well as negative emotions such as terror, worry and fear.
There are actually many ways to educate children, and stick education is just one of them. It is the laziest and most negative way of education, too simple and rude.
As we all know, family education is very important for children's growth. Family education should not only be a cold stick education, but also educate children with love. At the same time of education, children should be given more love. Children should be respected by their parents, and children should enjoy equal rights from an early age.
So what can be done to better educate children and let them feel love?
A really good family education should be kind and firm, and pass on more love to children.
Respect for children
Parents hope that their children will become promising people in the future, but when educating their children, they often adopt an authoritarian approach. In front of parents, children can say that they have no human rights, and they are what their parents say. Sometimes they may invade their privacy, peek at their diaries and secretly check their schoolbags and bookcases.
Although it is euphemistically called for the good of children, it may be considered normal in the minds of some parents. What privacy can children have in front of their parents?
In fact, this is completely disrespectful to children. You know, as children grow up, they also have their own privacy and need to be respected.
You know, generally speaking, if children get enough respect from their parents, then children will be more confident and more determined to pursue their dreams.
Don't abuse provocation.
Some parents abuse incentives when educating their children. They always use other people's children to educate their own children, saying how useless their children are and how excellent their children are. They always think that this can make their children better.
As we all know, when children are repeatedly attacked and belittled by their parents, parents' provocative ways may backfire, making children lose self-confidence, truly believe that they are useless and think that they are useless, thus accepting their parents' comments with peace of mind, thus giving up on themselves and indulging themselves.
Be more patient with children's mistakes.
It is normal for children to make mistakes. You know, geniuses are rare, and most of us are not geniuses. Therefore, the growth of ordinary people also grows in repeated mistakes.
When a child makes a mistake, what parents need to do is not to criticize the child, but to be more patient, seize every opportunity for the child to make a mistake, educate the child to grow up step by step, and let the child grow up step by step after making mistakes again and again.
to tell the truth
Compared with the simple and rude stick education, in fact, using the education method of love, mastering more education methods and comprehensive application can better educate children and make them become excellent people in the eyes of others step by step.