How do psychological counselors observe?

This part is about the observation field of psychological counseling. The first is why, and the second is what? Then what happened? Who's next? What's left in the end?

An introspective counselor can always be aware of the interaction with visitors during the conversation. Cultivate the third eye in consultation and observe the interaction between visitors and consultants.

Tourists tell us their world in nonverbal and verbal ways. Observation skill is a key tool to judge how visitors interpret their self-worth.

The description of the problem hints at the formation of the problem, the performance of the questioner in the relationship, and also hints at how it will develop next. Explain to the visitors why this happened.

The first is to observe whether there are any inconsistencies. For example, when describing happiness, his expression is sad, and when describing sadness, his mouth is tilted. Pay attention to anything unreasonable.

Secondly, observe the interaction between two people and pay attention to nonverbal information. Emotion can cause physiological reactions, and paying attention to these reactions can better understand visitors.

Finally, pay attention to the feelings brought by visitors. How did he know and explain himself, my relationship with the world and others. Decipher those key messages.

Nonverbal behavior, eye contact between counselors and visitors, body language and voice characteristics are of course very important. For example, visitors lean forward to show that they are excited about the idea, or cross their arms to end the topic.

Large-scale physical exercise may indicate a change in thinking, thinking or topic. Generally speaking, a consultation can only deal with one or at most two agendas.

In the process of processing, it is necessary to observe the state of visitors. In the counselor's view, many thoughts and words are easy to disguise, but physical reactions can't be disguised.

Then the speech. Speech expression is particularly important for counselors. At what point has the topic changed? Who caused the change? Is the conversation between the counselor and the visitor concrete or abstract?

Do visitors use "I" statements or "others" statements? With the progress of consultation, have the negative statements of visitors become more positive?

Visitors tend to use specific keywords to describe their behaviors and situations. It is useful to pay attention to these descriptive words and repetitive themes.

When I consulted a visitor yesterday, I found that the visitor used other people's words to describe his current situation. That is to say, he lives more according to others' wishes and listens to others' words than his own heart, so he is very entangled.

Talk about the need to be specific, talk about the present, talk about the present, and talk about emotions. These are the questions of the moment, and sometimes the answers are really hidden in the questions.

The next step is to avoid inconsistency, disharmony, mixed information, conflicts and contradictions, which will be shown in many dialogues. Smart consultants can identify these inconsistencies, raise them appropriately, and sometimes give feedback to visitors.

These inconsistencies may exist between the nonverbal behaviors of visitors, or between statements and nonverbal behaviors. The classic should be that the mouth is too straight.

We will often have contradictions and conflicts. In trouble, I don't know whether to turn left or right. I want to listen to myself and others at the same time

These inconsistencies will be displayed in the eyes of psychological counselors through verbal and nonverbal behaviors, which requires careful observation and in-depth understanding to understand why he is like this.

It is essential for a psychological counselor to observe the dialogue simply and seriously. What can you see, hear and feel from the world of tourists?

Counselors must pay attention to the influence on visitors: how do you change their behavior or relate to their behavior? Use this information to adjust the consultant's micro skills and conversation skills.

The longer you are a consultant, the more you can feel your influence on others. Especially in more than five consultations, I can clearly feel that I am with the other party and moving towards the destination he wants to go.

In this process, I am a mirror. Clearly, objectively and indiscriminately reflect his appearance, correct his behavior, and then better achieve the planned goals.

Observation skills are very important for all visitors, and pay attention to the differences between individuals and cultures in verbal and nonverbal behaviors.

Psychological counselors must pay attention to the fact that some actions or language applications may not be applicable to others, or some expressions are only applicable to A situations, but not to B situations. ..

Attention should be paid to the individual differences of visitors. Some words have different effects on different people. For example, if he is serious, then you can't joke with him. If he likes joking, then you can't be serious.

I also thought of a video clip. After the exam, two students said: this wave is stable. As a result, after the results came out, one was 98 and the other was 30 points.

Two people's understanding of the same word and the scope of explanation are completely different. The ease of ordinary people and the ease of experts are not a kind of ease.

Counselors must also pay attention to the consistency of actions, which can be used to explain many basic concepts of verbal and nonverbal communication.

When they talk and communicate well together, they often show the coordination or complementarity of body movements, while when people communicate badly, they usually show the disharmony of body movements, such as body displacement, shaking or leaving.

This reminds me of a trick that Luo Zhenyu taught me a long time ago to seduce male gods. As a girl, it is a matter of discretion for you to attract the attention of the male god.

It's not appropriate to take the initiative, and the male god is gone again. What shall we do? He said one way, that is, consistency. For example, the male god holds the cup, and two minutes later, you also hold the cup. Touch your nose. Two minutes later, touch your nose, too.

This is telling his subconscious that there is a person around me who is very similar to me, and the same person is nearby. Pay attention. This signal will be accurately transmitted to the subconscious of the male god. I have used it, and the effect is great.

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