Before that, the question "What's your dream?" was the most rewarding thing that David gave me. The internalization, thinking and discussion on this issue are the most precious parts. I have also had the experience of being consulted by astrology, and I also reflect on why I feel bad about this consultation. How do I feel? What did the counselor say to do? What should I do when consulting?
We do consultation, the content is the content of the conversation, but what happened during the conversation, what are your feelings and experiences. What happened in this consultation is the most crucial thing. For me, it means a lot for a Gemini man to go to a counselor for experience. On the one hand, I am integrating my childhood and past experiences and difficulties; On the other hand, I am experiencing what the consultant has done.
My counselor, for the first time, felt good and established a relationship. It was only a 50-minute 1 hour consultation, and I talked to her once a week for the next few weeks. Soon, in my conversation with her, I felt as if light had entered a place where I was "dark", "invisible" and unclear. The counselor doesn't have a star map, but she is as effective as me. What happened made us talk and work for me.
This is a multiple learning for me. 2065 438+08-2065 438+09 While studying and consulting, I began to work, began to reflect on the interpersonal relationship between my parents and the past, and began to change. This is a very important stage in my life.
Story 3 "I am trembling", at this time. I received more inquiries. Most of my clients are recommended by friends and old customers, and visitors who have established a trust relationship continue to introduce other friends.
I also thought that I would not expand my audience too soon. You see, I was sick and cried. If I don't do my internal work well, how can I receive more consultation? I need to expand myself and do it within my ability and digestion, so don't be in such a hurry.
On 20 16, I began to meditate on Buddhism. For me, a person with strong change energy, it has a good "anchoring" effect. This is another topic, about how consultants do their internal work well.
20 19 I know I am "wavering" in the consultation. In the consultation, I feel that my heart is like this: lean forward for a while and then retreat. What is this?
Just now I mentioned that the counselor is also an ordinary person. As an individual, I have my own defense mechanism, narcissism, fear and projection. What makes me waver in consultation, so that I can't be in the middle? While thinking about this problem, I took part in a small class supervised by teacher David and brought this problem to the supervisor.
In the first ground class, David demonstrated the consultation with a classmate, who played the role of consultant. I thought she was so stable and firm at that time. For example, no matter what David does, what do you think I should do? Why didn't you say anything? Aren't you an astrologer? You should tell me what's wrong with me and what I should do. I just came to ask you for help. The "consultants" all said firmly and gently: Astrology consultation is not like this, we can discuss it. ...
Looking at this demonstration, I was a little shocked. I think this is the problem I am facing now. I can't be so stable. When David and I were discussing in class, I asked him out. David smiled and gave a sentence: each of us has our own self.
The word ego comes, and the ego, the ego that protects itself, will think, "Am I right?" Is this good? Am I wrong in this sentence? I feel fine ... "
Personal, are you going to fire? number
The period from 20 19 to 2020 is an interesting process, which spans this stage. You saw yourself. How do you get along with the ego? Can you accept yourself? How can your ego cooperate with yourself without destroying the consultation? This is also a process of stabilizing oneself through a series of awareness, experience and reflection.
When you know and understand that part of yourself, after practice, you will gradually have some boundaries and settings, find ways to deal with them, and your inner sense of integration will also appear.
On this point, let's see what the master said. Jung said: "Therapists should not only know patients, but also know themselves. It can be said that to treat patients, this treatment should start with the treatment of doctors. Only when doctors know how to deal with themselves and their problems can they teach patients to deal with their problems. Doctors must learn to understand their own hearts and take them seriously. If he can't do this, the patient will learn nothing. "
"I have learned a lot-not only knowledge, but also my understanding of my own nature-and contacted the spiritual reality presented to me by visitors through countless images. This is the most important thing. "
Why did I say that what really helped me become a consultant was my inner ripples, the things that kept bothering me during the consultation, and other minor troubles, such as someone sending WeChat for help very late? What should you do? When someone bargains, they feel uneasy; Some people criticize, others worry; Some people doubt and worry. ...
What is really true is that after experiencing those big and small ripples, I have a better understanding of what I have to do and how to deal with it.
Visiting, can TA do TA? What TA can look like. Is it TA? Is this acceptable?
Theoretically, we certainly have to accept that TA can and must be TA. TA, if this is not the case, how can I discuss this matter with you?
What does "I" not accept? What is caught in my heart by such a scene? What's my trouble? How should I get along with this kind of trouble? There will be various situations in the future. You may meet a relationship that you can explore together for a long time, or you may meet a short relationship. How do I get along with these?
Gradually, I learned a lot from these troubles and ripples, such as "relationship", "trust" and "relationship boundary", what is TA's and what is mine, how my part does not affect and destroy the dialogue, and how my part examines, perceives, repairs and accepts it in time and space outside the dialogue. ...
Some troubles in the past, ripples that once appeared, now when the same content reappears, there are no ripples, and my heart is very calm. In fact, it was not time or money that hindered my visit, but my mood. Should my emotions join in? What is my mood?
This is a leading "question".
I have defined an astrologer: a map translator and a mirror holder. With the help of the star map, the consultation dialogue will help two people to carry out these cognition and perception very effectively.
Consultation is a relationship and dialogue established by two people for the confusion and challenge that one of them encounters.
The star map is a tool, and we use it. But in the whole consultation dialogue, what I want to hear and see is "you"-the person sitting opposite the consultant.
Last year, I wrote a book "Take Yourself as the Law" to Mr. Biao. I think consultants have a good way to grow up, that is, "taking themselves as the working method."
Because we are human beings, visitors are human beings. As human beings, we have challenges, growth direction, goals, my own model and difficulties. It is in the conversation, relationship and work with visitors again and again that we merge year after year, or there is a word in psychology called "repair", find our own strength and have stronger psychological endurance to bear all kinds of scenes, and this road will go on, and every small step will be full of harvest.
When we were studying humanistic astrology, we all heard the teacher ask, "Why did you become a consultant? What is the motive? " This should be investigated. Are you going to play an authority? Have you gained some sense of control? Although we can answer a little or don't know for the time being, the deep subconscious motivation behind it needs to be explored by ourselves. In modern humanistic astrology consultation, we emphasize "empowerment" rather than "power grabbing". If we tell our customers what to do, when to do it, what to do and how to do it, we will take away the growing part of TA who lives in modern times and pursues personality development. Of course, we may not have won it.
A customer who has established a long-term trust relationship, we do an exploration work together. This work is based on the star map. How to empower this kind of life, TA is the master and authority of his own life, and TA knows how to get along with his own difficulties and the uncertainty of life. This is my attitude as a consultant.
My attitude, position, beliefs, characteristics and so on. As an astrological consultant, we have good conditions because we have our own birth map. What kind of consultants should we be, involving your north intersection, your seventh house, Venus, the phase patterns of the main planets in the map, etc. , will work with our visitors in our work.
How do we operate? When do you feel nervous, tense, painful, troubled, or happy, happy and satisfied? Step by step, you will see it at work.
Listen, ask questions, give feedback, clarify, etc. I don't need to explain them in consultation. In the field of psychological counseling, you can find many teachers or courses, which is the ability to learn and cultivate immediate results.
In addition, there is "setting", which is also a very important part in the process of psychological counseling and learning. Consultation fee, consultation time and place are all set, and there are some complications. What should a mother do if she comes to us to consult her children and look at their star maps? See whose map to make for whom? Child 1, 2 years old or 20 years old. How did the counselor react to this? What did you talk to your mother about? This requires mutual discussion, identification and understanding in different situations. The preparation of consultation makes it clearer when this consultation takes place.
Notaire said: You must know what you don't know, and you must know your own boundaries. After learning a lot of astrology knowledge, we will feel that we have learned a lot. However, when we embark on the road of negotiation, we may find that what we don't know is what makes the negotiation flash and what makes the negotiation dialogue effective.
"I keep learning just to prepare for elegant dancing, so I will never step on anyone's feet." Teacher Glen said that we shouldn't step on our own feet. Instead of groping alone in the dark through study, practice, peer discussion and supervision, we should open our hearts and embrace our relationship and unknown life.