Yi Hui and his girlfriend have been together for two years. The first time he saw her, he knew that she had a younger brother who had just grown up. At that time, he didn't care, because working with his girlfriend was not bad, and he also had a set of pre-marital property under his name, which was the down payment and loan given by his parents.
With a job as a pillar and a house as a guarantee, he always feels that her parents don't value boys. Although the house is not big, he also takes care of his daughter, so he feels that he doesn't have to listen to the wind and rain. Everything is so bad. After all, he still has feelings for her.
Meet your parents and talk about bride price. During this period, as long as his girlfriend's family made a request, he never said a word of dissatisfaction even if the other party said that only the bride price was given.
He faced the marriage of two people with the most positive attitude. However, just as they set the wedding date and were ready to get married, suddenly one day his girlfriend asked him to accompany her to the housing transaction service center. When he asked him why he was there, she told him that her mother said her brother was an adult and would give him the house.
"Didn't your parents buy that house for you? Your brother is still studying, so what does he do with the mortgage? " . Yi Hui felt something was wrong, and he asked his own questions.
"The house was originally bought for my brother, and he wrote it in my name when he was young. My mother said that I am a sister, so I will pay my brother's mortgage first and then pay me back when he works. " .
It doesn't matter what his girlfriend said, but Yi Hui was shocked. He didn't expect his girlfriend's parents to have decent jobs and the ability to repay the loan, but they let their newborn daughter repay the loan for her brother under the banner of helping his brother.
He thought that his girlfriend's family said that they didn't give the bride price because they had paid the down payment to their daughter and didn't want to care too much about the pre-marital property. Live a good life together. There are so many abilities at home, and besides, she has a younger brother. As long as her parents are not biased, it is not easy to think, and it is nothing. After all, men need a lot of things to get married now.
I think so, but he really didn't expect his girlfriend's parents to play this abacus. Everything belongs to his son, even his daughter's, just because she is her sister.
Yi Hui forgot how he got home that day. In a word, after talking to his parents, he broke off his engagement with his girlfriend with the idea that long-term pain is better than short-term pain. It's not that he is not responsible for her, nor that he doesn't want to be responsible for her, but that he can only shoulder his and her future, but he can't shoulder the responsibility of taking care of his brother and parents without regrets.
At the thought of breaking off an engagement, my girlfriend's family will make trouble, including my brother. Even as an adult, he still looks like an immature child. When Yi Hui said that he thought her family preferred sons to daughters, he said he was talking nonsense.
He said that his family provided schooling for his sister and didn't let her do housework, so he didn't have the idea of son preference. What happened to the mortgage my sister gave her parents when she grew up? They are a family!
What he said is both ridiculous and reasonable. More interestingly, when he said these words, his girlfriend nodded without saying a word.
Yi Hui thinks that he can meet a girlfriend who can control the direction of his life in the new era, but unfortunately, she doesn't realize that she is wasting her life for others. He felt sorry for her, but he really couldn't be with her anymore. So he said, "Let's get together. I dare not touch your house. " .
There are always people who think that "helping brothers" is gradually decreasing with the development of the times, but in fact many women are still "deeply involved".
Some netizens once said: "If a man sees a woman hiding far away with her younger brother, I am a woman and don't want my younger brother, because my younger brother didn't give me any benefits, only a burden."
In the following comments, most people are saying that she has no conscience and cares about her family. Some even hope that she will not get married.
To tell you the truth, I am very sad to see this, and I think we are too harsh on human nature. A woman who can give up on herself may not be selfish in life, but she may also suffer from it.
As the saying goes, "Don't persuade others to be good if you don't know their sufferings". My friend's brother is 24 years old. He is nearly 1.8 meters tall, has hands and feet, and is not stupid. However, he made no progress. He wanted to resign when he met with difficulties at work, one after another. There is only one son, and parents have no choice but to follow him. However, he has no money and big hands and feet. After sucking the blood of his parents, he asked his sister and brother-in-law for money every day. Every time he asks for money, he confidently says that my sister has the same surname as me and hers is mine.
My friend's parents will only persuade her to be tolerant and say that she is her own brother and can't live without him.
Over the years, she has been making up for her "brother's bottomless pit" by tearing down her own wall. Her life is unbearable, and her relationship with her husband is getting worse at home, but her parents never asked her if she could live like this. Instead, it has been oppressed by filial piety and affection.
It's not that a man is unlucky to marry a woman with a younger brother, but that if he has a son who has no bottom line and no sense of life boundary, he can't escape unless he gets divorced.
In fact, until now. The root of the inequality between men and women lies not only in the fact that what parents give their daughters is different from what they give their sons, but also in the fact that they say that I am like your brother, but he is a son, with no house, no money and no wife, and at the same time, they have to pull their daughters to "add bricks and tiles" to their sons.
In this social environment where the first-born daughter has to fight for the second-born son and the first-born child has to seal her belly, many women are warriors who fight alone, because every male opponent she meets is not one person, but three, and every man who needs to bite his sister has parents behind him.
Every woman should understand that besides the responsibility of raising and supporting her parents, it is her duty to help others or not. Your own brother can settle accounts. Your brother's getting married and buying a house has nothing to do with himself. You just need to pursue your own happiness and be responsible for yourself.
When we are disturbed by other sounds and bound by other behaviors, we can't let nature take its course. What the other person thinks is their business, and what you think is your own business. In life, there are far more people who don't like you than those who like you. There is no need to ask others to understand and agree. We just need to be responsible for our own ideas and do what we should do, without having to bear the consequences of others.
You know, the biggest task of a person's life is to learn how to "settle down" himself, instead of being his mother's sister and brother-in-law with his happiness.