Shu in the Three Kingdoms period appointed Jiang Wan to preside over the state affairs after Zhuge Liang's death. One of his subordinates is Yang, who is withdrawn and speaks slowly. When Jiang Wan talked to him, he only answered. Someone couldn't get used to it and muttered in front of Jiang Wan: "It's outrageous that Yang is so rude to you!" Jiang Wan smiled indifferently and said, "Everyone has his own temperament. It's not in Yang's nature to praise me to my face. Let him criticize me in front of everyone, and he will feel ashamed of me. So, he had to keep silent. In fact, this is his valuable place. " Later, some people praised Jiang Wan that "the prime minister can punt in his stomach".
Offer a birch and ask for whipping ―― Humble and sincere apology.
Lin Xiangru was named Shangqing for his feat of "returning to Zhao safely", ranking above Lian Po. Lian Po defy spirit, threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru face to face. Lin Xiangru learned that, as far as possible to avoid, tolerance, not conflict with Lian Po. Lin Xiangru's minions thought he was afraid of Lian Po, but Lin Xiangru said, "The State of Qin did not dare to invade our State of Zhao because of me and General Lian. When I tolerate and succumb to General Lian, I will put the national crisis ahead and personal grievances behind! " When Lian Po heard this, there was the story of Lian Po's "offer a humble apology".
Renyi Hu tong
Dong was a native of Jiyang, Shandong Province, and was an official in Beijing during the Ming Dynasty. One day, he received a letter from home saying that his house was built to lay a foundation, and he had a quarrel with his neighbor, hoping that he could use his power to solve the matter. Dong immediately wrote a book after reading it, saying, "A thousand miles to send books is just for the wall, and I can't help laughing and breaking my heart;" You are very kind to me and close to me. Why not give up both feet? "After the family saw it, they felt that Dong made sense. When building a house, they voluntarily gave up a few feet of land. Neighbors saw Dong Jia's behavior and felt something, so they followed suit. As a result, the two houses were eight feet wide, and after the houses were built, there was an alley called Renyi Hutong.
Legend of Liuchi Lane
During the reign of Emperor Kangxi in Qing Dynasty, Zhang, a native of Tongcheng, went to Wenhua Hall as a university student and a minister of rites. The neighbor is another big family in Tongcheng, and the owner is Ye Shilang of the same dynasty. The two families had an argument over the courtyard wall. Mrs Zhang wrote a book for Zhang Ying. Zhang Ying was deeply worried after reading the letter. She replied to the old lady, "A letter thousands of miles away is just a wall, so what's the harm if it makes people three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "So Mrs. Zhang ordered the family to step back three feet and build a wall. Ye Fu was so moved that he ordered his family to move the courtyard wall back three feet. Since then, Zhang and Ye's two governments have eliminated barriers and become family friends.
Peng measures magnanimity.
More than 30 people, including Peng, commander-in-chief of the Third Army of the Red Army, inspected the terrain ahead, and the messenger shouted out of the way while holding the red flag. Only one soldier sat still. Peng shouted a few words when he saw someone in the way. The soldier stood up and gave General Peng two punches. Mr. Peng told him to hurry. Later, the messenger tied up the soldiers and went to see General Peng. Manager Peng immediately told him to go back to the Great Xia, knowing that he was in trouble. He's scared. He was deeply moved to see Peng Zong's indifference. Later, he said to everyone, "The commander-in-chief is really generous!"
Premier's anecdote
Once, when the barber was shaving Premier Zhou, the Premier suddenly coughed and the knife immediately scratched his face. The barber was very nervous and at a loss, but to his surprise, Premier Zhou didn't blame him, but kindly said to him, "It's not your fault. I didn't say hello to you before coughing. How did you know I was moving? " Although this is a trivial matter, it shows us the virtue of Premier Zhou-tolerance.
Liszt accepts students.
There is a girl who is going to give a concert. The poster says that she is a student of Liszt. Liszt appeared in front of the girl the day before the performance. The girl was frightened and sobbed, claiming that she had no livelihood and asking for forgiveness. Liszt asked her to give him her bullet and give him some advice. Finally, she said brightly: "Come on stage and act boldly. You are my student now. You can announce to the theater manager that the teacher will play the last program of the party for the students. " Liszt played the last song at the concert.
Novel:
piglet
A pig, a sheep and a cow are kept in the same corral. Once, the shepherd caught the pig, and he shouted loudly and resisted fiercely. Sheep and cows hate its howling, so they say, "He often catches us, and we don't bark." The pig replied, "catching you and catching me are two different things." He only wants your hair and milk, but it's killing him to catch me! " "It is difficult for people with different positions and different environments to understand each other's feelings; Therefore, we should not gloat over the setbacks, setbacks and pains of others, but should have a feeling of care and understanding. Have a tolerant heart!
"Remember" and "Forget"
Ali, a famous Arab writer, once traveled with two friends, Gibb and Martha. The three of them went to a valley and Martha slipped. Fortunately, Gibb pulled him hard and saved him. Martha then wrote on a big stone nearby: "On a certain day in a certain year, Gibb saved my life." The three men walked on for a few days and came to a river. Gibb quarreled with Misha over a trifle. Gibb slapped Misha in the face, and Misha ran to the beach and wrote, "On a certain day of a certain month, Gibb slapped Misha in the face." When they came back from their trip, Ali asked Martha curiously, why did you carve Gibb's rescue on a stone and write Gibb's beating on the beach? Misha replied, "I am forever grateful to Gibb for saving me. As for him hitting me, I will forget all about it with the disappearance of the handwriting on the beach. "
Harmony makes money, and wisdom is high.
In a market in the United States, a China woman's stall business is particularly good, which has aroused the envy of other vendors. People often sweep the garbage in front of her shop intentionally or unintentionally. This China woman just smiled generously and ignored it. Instead, she swept all the rubbish to her corner. The Mexican woman selling vegetables next to her looked at her for several days and couldn't help asking, "Why are you not angry that everyone is sweeping garbage at you?" China woman said with a smile, "In our country, we always sweep the garbage at home during the Spring Festival. The more rubbish we have, the more money we earn. People send me money every day now. How can I refuse? Don't you think my business is getting better and better? " Since then, garbage has never appeared again.
China woman's wisdom of turning disasters into blessings is really amazing, but what is even more admirable is her tolerant virtue of being kind to others. She forgives others with wisdom and creates a harmonious interpersonal environment for herself. As the saying goes, making money harmoniously, naturally her business is getting better and better. What if she doesn't take this approach, but tit for tat? The result can be imagined.
The Story of Tolerance: Zen Buddhism
According to legend, one night, an old Zen master was walking in a temple when he suddenly saw a chair near the corner. At first glance, he knew that a monk had violated the temple rules and went out for a walk. The old Zen master walked to the wall without saying a word, moved the chair away and squatted down on the spot. Later, a young monk jumped over the wall in the dark and jumped into the yard.
When his foot fell to the ground, he realized that he had just stepped on his master, not a chair. The young monk suddenly panicked and was tongue-tied. But to his surprise, the master did not reprimand him sharply, but said in a calm tone, "It's cold at night, so you should put on more clothes."
We can imagine how the disciples of the old Zen master felt after hearing this. In this tolerant and silent education, his disciples were not punished for his mistakes, but were educated.
The Story of Tolerance: Liuchi Lane
Zhang, the prime minister of Qing Dynasty, and Ye, the assistant minister, were both from Tongcheng, Anhui. The two families live next door, both want to build a house, and they have a dispute over the land. Mrs. Zhang wrote in Beijing, asking Prime Minister Zhang to intervene. After all, the prime minister is knowledgeable. After reading the letter, he immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A letter of a thousand miles is just a wall, why not let it go three feet?" "The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, and Qin Shihuang is not seen." When Zhang Mu saw that the book was reasonable, she immediately stepped back three feet. Ye Jia was deeply ashamed to see this scene, and immediately put the wall back three feet. In this way, a six-foot-wide roadway was formed between Zhang Ye's house and the courtyard wall of Zhang Ye's house, which became a famous "six-foot alley". What Zhang lost was the ancestral homestead, and it was indeed a good reputation of harmonious neighborhood and immortality.
The Story of Tolerance: Anecdotes of the Prime Minister
Once, when the barber was shaving Premier Zhou, the Premier suddenly coughed and the knife immediately scratched his face. The barber was very nervous and at a loss, but to his surprise, Premier Zhou didn't blame him, but kindly said to him, "It's not your fault. I didn't say hello to you before coughing. How did you know I was moving? " Although this is a trivial matter, it shows us the virtue of Premier Zhou-tolerance.
The story of tolerance: the past of marriage
On the 50th anniversary of his golden wedding, an old mother told her guests the secret of keeping their marriage happy. She said: "From the day I got married, I was going to list my husband's 10 shortcomings. For the happiness of our marriage, I promised myself that whenever he made these 65,438+00 mistakes, I would forgive him. " Someone asked, what are the disadvantages of 10? She replied: "To tell the truth, for 50 years, I have never listed the shortcomings of 10 in detail. Whenever my husband does something wrong and makes me jump, I immediately remind myself that he is lucky, and he made one of the 10 mistakes that I can forgive. "
This story tells us that in the long journey of marriage, it is not always sunny and flowers are in full bloom, but there are also summer, summer and winter, with wind, frost, snow and rain. In the face of some small contradictions in life, if you can learn to be tolerant and patient like that old mother, you will find that happiness is actually around you.
In life, tolerance is really an invincible force.
Friends who are tolerant of each other must be in the same boat for a hundred years; Couples who are tolerant of each other will have a pillow for thousands of years; A tolerant world must be peaceful and beautiful.
The story of tolerance: the story of cigarettes
Once, several buddies went to a friend's house to watch a ball game.
Men can't watch football without smoking. It was not until the end of the game that we found that we had smoked three boxes of cigarettes. My friend's wife is always with us. However, she said nothing. Just when we are not paying attention, open the window and let in fresh air. We find it strange. Why don't you just ignore him and smoke like us? A buddy asked.
My friend's wife smiled and said, I also know that smoking is harmful to health, but if smoking can make him happy, why should I stop it? I petition that my husband can live happily to 60 years old, instead of barely living to 80 years old. After all, a person's happiness can't be bought at any time and any money.
When we met this friend again, he had given up smoking. Asked why, he said with a silly smile: She can think of my happiness, and I can't let myself leave her 20 years earlier.