People have a misunderstanding about psychological counselors, that is, looking for authoritative experts and highlighting authority. What is authority? Things that have aura, style and like scenes. When you see such people, you will easily think that this is authority. What is even more worrying is that this misunderstanding is exploited by some low-level psychological counselors, who do not talk about improving their abilities, but deliberately cultivate their authoritative style.
Authority is applied in the therapeutic relationship, for example, between doctors and patients, patients must cooperate with the treatment in strict accordance with the doctor's advice, because the relationship between doctors and patients is therapeutic. First of all, we should separate psychotherapy from psychological counseling. Psychological counselors should establish a consulting relationship with visitors. The basic principle of consulting relationship is equality. Relying on the influence of consultants, a "field" is formed to help visitors. There is no need for "authority" here If a psychological consultant always gives others a feeling of "authority", it can only show that he is superficial. The first notable feature of an excellent psychological counselor is affinity: harmonious attitude, kind eyes and gentle tone. Only in this way can they clear the resistance of visitors, establish a trust relationship and be responsible for visitors.
Second, psychological services scare people.
Maybe some friends have met some people who have been preaching to you, and some psychologists always use technical terms. I can only say that these are just concepts to scare people.
In terms of professional ability, a good psychological counselor should be clear-headed and good at expression, especially nonverbal expression. Silence is sometimes necessary in the consultation process. A good psychological counselor should use life-oriented language from a psychological point of view. In layman's terms, it is to speak the words of ordinary people from the perspective of experts, and to be good at giving examples instead of empty talk. An excellent psychological counselor should have a strong appeal and should have an equal dialogue with visitors. Your language is concise and full of wisdom, which makes the other party deeply inspired and encouraged.
Third, psychologists who call themselves "experienced"
A consultant with strong professional ability should have strong self-examination ability and be good at discovering self-problems. Only in this way can he grow rapidly in business. So some people stressed that they had done a lot of cases, and I said it was useless. The key is that their self-reflection ability is not high, and it is useless to consult more cases, and consultation is somewhat misleading. Our junior practitioners should not only focus on accumulating cases, but also clearly strengthen their self-reflection ability and provide high-quality psychological counseling services for visitors.
Fourth, experts who know are not necessarily good.
In our fixed thinking, understanding is a person's advantage, but don't forget, this is the premise. This is an ordinary person with no specific additional role. However, as a specific role, it is definitely beneficial for a consultant to be too considerate. If you are mentally confused, go to a counselor for help. If he expresses sympathy and understanding for you blindly, then such consulting service is problematic. He always said, "I understand your pain." This is not a scientific way, and you won't get any meaningful help from it.
For example, in parenting education, some people always advocate encouraging and understanding children, which is unscientific and irresponsible, because many specific psychological problems are based on everyone's different actual situation, such as personality reasons, which require specific psychological counseling and help, and cannot be generalized. In short, a good psychological counselor does not rely on superficial things such as majesty and mystery in his professional ability, but gives people the overall feeling. Your consultation should be reasonable, meaningful and enlightening. On the whole, the personality charm of psychological counselors should be "cordial and kind, approachable in style and equal in dialogue with others".