Practice: 100 days, do yourself a little thing worth challenging every day. For example, the little things I have challenged: don't drink milk tea, don't complain, do a new exercise, and finish everything before 9 am every day. ...
First of all, let's use "micro-derailment" to realize more possibilities.
Our life should have more possibilities. In fact, we are also looking forward to a more exciting life, which requires us to overflow our original life track by means of "micro-derailment" and challenge one thing every day, which is a good practice of "micro-derailment".
The saying of "micro-derailment" comes from teacher Wu Bofan, which mainly means that people temporarily jump out of the familiar working and living environment and enter a completely unfamiliar environment to feel, learn and discover other possibilities besides daily life. In the words of comparative literature and art, it is: to make a small and casual run away. In this way, you will experience a completely different feeling.
Einstein once said: the craziest dream of human beings is to do the same thing every day, but yearn for different results.
Many people's lives are modeled, that is, living and working according to the established model. As a result, they seem to be busy for a year, but looking back on a year, they seem to be unable to remember anything worth remembering.
To a great extent, man is the product of the environment. In a certain environment, people will gradually abandon other environments and even forget another world outside. In the long run, it will make your thinking more narrow and limited, and it is difficult to switch angles when looking at problems. It's like falling into a well, looking at the sky above and thinking it's so big. To some extent, we are all "frogs in the well". The way of "challenging one thing every day" provides us with a possibility, a possibility to unlock our thinking and explore a variety of living methods.
When we can break the existing life circle and get knowledge, inspiration and thinking from others who are completely invisible in our own circle, you will sigh from time to time: "Oh, there is such a way to live!"
"Micro-derailment" can not only enrich your life, increase your life experience and accumulate positive assets for your life, but also further open up the pattern and broaden your thoughts and cognition.
Second, break the "zero cognition" of "comfort zone"
The ideal life that many people yearn for is a state of "high position, light responsibility, more money and being close to home". This is the legendary paradise comfort state.
One interpretation of heaven in the Bible is "Eden", a carefree place with God without labor.
The feeling of heaven is similar to that of human just staying in the womb. In the womb, we don't have to work, or even eat or sleep. All the energy supply is automatic-we swim automatically in a warm little swimming pool made of nutrient solution.
The front of the uterus, heaven and Eden is "incomparable comfort", so what is the other side? On the other hand, because there is no shortage and no challenge, there is no need for any ability to understand and solve problems.
This is a very interesting equation: comfort zone = zero cognition, or the price of staying in the comfort zone is zero cognition.
This confirms the view that any gospel is a curse, or any benefit comes at a price.
The baby will cry when he comes out of his mother's body, because he is forced to come into contact with the cold and hunger that was originally shielded by his mother.
The real world is a world full of pain, and you have to bear everything to survive. So Adam, the ancestor of mankind, has to work and eat all day, and women have to endure the pain of childbirth.
Challenging one thing every day seems to be looking for discomfort, but it is an important way to enhance our cognition and survival ability.
Third, enter the study area from the comfort zone.
People's understanding of the outside world can be divided into three areas: comfort zone, stretch zone and panic zone. If three concentric circles are used for analogy, the inner layer is the comfort zone, the middle layer is the learning zone and the outer layer is the panic zone.
Everyone's most comfortable area is the comfort zone, doing familiar things in a familiar environment. Many people are reluctant to change this comfort zone even if they know that there is something wrong with it. The longer the time, the weaker the willingness and ability to change.
Just like Bruce in the movie The Shawshank Redemption, he has been imprisoned for 50 years, which is almost a person's life. When he learned that he was about to be released from prison, he was not filled with joy, but almost had a nervous breakdown. Because he is already familiar with this prison and can't live without it.
In order to keep himself in prison, Lao Bu did not hesitate to raise a knife to kill people. When he was released from prison again, he even chose to commit suicide.
For Lao Bu, although the prison environment is uncomfortable, it is his comfort zone.
In fact, many of us are this old cloth, and we have built a seemingly comfortable prison for ourselves with a model life.
Whenever we can't sleep for our dreams in the dead of night, we begin to feel the limitations of our comfort zone at that time. However, whenever dawn comes and the sun rises, we still live step by step, but we don't have the courage to take the step of change. The price of staying in the comfort zone is slow growth or no growth, and the mood is often in an anxious state. This is also the daily state of many people.
The panic zone, as its name implies, will feel anxious, fearful and at a loss in this zone, because the panic zone is an ideal place for its perfection. Compared with the skinny reality in the comfort zone, people will feel powerless and their emotional state will always be in an angry state.
Habitual anxiety and habitual anger are two common emotional States of many people today, and the solution is to put yourself in the learning area.
Being able to jump into the study area is a sign of a person's growth, and at this time, people's emotional state is very high.
The study area is an area that we seldom touch or even set foot in. In this respect, we can fully exercise ourselves and challenge ourselves. This aspect of learning is very efficient, and it is real learning.
It takes courage to jump from the comfort zone to the study zone, because it is a choice to bear the "correct distress". It is precisely because many people can't bear this kind of "right distress" that they can't walk out of their comfort zone all their lives, thus being trapped in the eternal present and unable to reach the future they really want.
To challenge one thing every day is to find something right and worth doing. Don't wait for the outside world to force you to change, but take the initiative to break through the comfort zone and keep yourself in this "correct and uncomfortable" growth state forever.
Fourth, the growth and happiness brought by challenges.
It seems uncomfortable for us to challenge one thing every day to bear the "right distress", but the longer it takes, the more happiness we can experience.
When people are under pressure, they can get strong living conditions and effective cognitive changes, which also responds to Wolf's law.
Wolf's law is a law about bone growth, which mainly means that human bones will increase bone density and hardness if they are subjected to external pressure for a long time. On the contrary, if the pressure on it is reduced, the density and hardness of bones will be reduced.
If people's cognitive state is not under pressure, challenge and trauma, it is impossible to establish a strong knowledge system.
The book Anti-Vulnerability is also telling us this truth. Because of the micro-trauma caused by external challenges, that is, non-fatal trauma, this non-fatal trauma will activate the biological overcompensation mechanism. For example, a tennis player will strain his arm muscles every day. This kind of micro-trauma will mobilize all the resources and skills of his body to heal, and it will make the place with micro-trauma become stronger and stronger, so that the hidden skills of athletes will be revealed by external stimuli and form "anti-vulnerability".
One thing we challenge every day is the important "anti-fragility" of "fragile" life state. Those who can't kill me make me stronger. Use a stronger life state to deal with the unsatisfactory life in nine cases out of ten.
5. How to start the daily challenge?
1, change from the little things you can do.
If you choose a big change from the beginning, people will go into a panic zone, and as a result, you will have an emotional breakdown because you can't achieve it.
We start with some small things that we can do, which will help us look at life from different angles. When you start to find pleasure in these small changes, big changes will naturally appear in your schedule.
Read a book of a type you have never read before; I started to change from reading the original English.
Change the mode of transportation or the route to work; (Began to give up bicycles and switch to mobike)
Wear clothes that you have never tried before; (Start trying a full set of sports modeling)
Change your hairstyle; (I decided to spend three years changing myself from an inch board to long hair)
Quit milk tea; (After discovering that I am addicted to milk tea, I decided to start a challenge)
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2. Correctly treat the pressure brought by change.
Crossing from comfort zone to comfort zone involves change, and change will bring uncomfortable pressure to people.
For example, I always like to take my students to play a little game of shaking hands with ten fingers. The first time, I shook my finger in my most accustomed way. The second time, I switched my thumb up and down and then I shook my finger. At this time, people will feel uncomfortable.
As long as there is change, there will be pressure, and accept the pressure brought by daily changes.
Step 3 cultivate patience
The rapid rise of some people we can see is actually based on the patient accumulation in the past, but you didn't see his efforts before his rise.
Patience is the most important quality we need to cultivate, because the learning of any skill has to go through the clumsy state in the early stage and it takes a long time to master it skillfully. If we lack patience, we will not be able to walk from the comfort zone to the study zone.
We are constantly stepping out of the comfort zone, expanding the study zone and turning the past study zone into a comfort zone. At this time, the past panic area has become a learning area, and so on, achieving a spiral rise.
After 100 days to challenge these little things 100, we not only established a stronger cognition, but also cultivated our patience.