There is an old saying in China: "The power of a horse can be seen from a distance, but the man can be seen for a long time." It takes a long time for two people to become friends from the initial acquaintance. Only after the test of time can you find a true friend. There are many people who think they are unsociable and can't make real friends, and they are envious of watching others speak loudly. In fact, a true friend doesn't care how eloquent you are. What they care about is whether you can help them when they are in trouble. As long as you lend a helping hand to your friends when they need help and help them sincerely, then you will deeply touch your friends and your mood will be very happy.
A singer was depressed before he became famous, and no record company was willing to help him make a record. So life is very difficult. We often don't have enough to eat, and even rely on the relief of our parents and friends to make a living.
One day, when he was about to pass a crossroads, an old man stood in his way. His back is so bent that he can't even stand up. Then the old man asked him to help him cross the street.
At that time. He is too upset to do anything. Seeing the old man, he really wanted to ignore him. However, he saw that the old man was really pitiful, and finally he crossed the busy street arm in arm.
"Do you feel better now, young man!" The old man asked him with a smile.
"oh! Yes ... I feel better! " He has to admit that he really feels much better after helping others.
At this time, the old man suddenly straightened up and became tough. The young man stammered, "What are you, old man?"
"In fact, I am very healthy. I just saw you with a sad face, so I decided to help you. A frustrated person will feel better if he helps those who are more frustrated than him, so I just pretended to be like that. Remember, when you are depressed, there will always be someone in a more difficult situation than you. Help them and you will get more happiness yourself. "
After listening to the old man's words, he suddenly realized.
Then the old man said to him, "Don't worry too much! Everything will pass, and God is fair to everyone! " Say that finish, the old man disappeared in the vast sea of people.
Don't lose heart when you encounter difficulties and setbacks. Try to help people who are more difficult than you first, and you will get happiness and joy in your efforts. After that, your mood will definitely change greatly. If you help others, you will be happier.
I think everyone is familiar with Mencius' book "Where there is a way to help, there is no way to help". Mencius advocated the way of helping others.
When a neighbor is in trouble, reach out and try your best to help him, so that when you ask him, he will try his best to help you. There is a saying in China that "a drop of water returns a spring", which is the reason.
Similarly, when dealing with people, we should also master the basic principles of dealing with people, and know how to sacrifice ourselves for others and benefit others at the expense of others. When we do this, people will be persuaded and you will get more help.
If we don't communicate with our friends at ordinary times, it is absolutely not advisable to "cram for the Buddha's feet" and get close to them only when we need someone. Because then others will think you are utilitarian, start flattering others when you use it, and kick it away when you don't use it. Many friends think. Asking for help is a transaction. Why make a marathon emotional investment? This is completely short-sighted. As the saying goes, "burn more incense at ordinary times, and someone will help you in a hurry", and "be kind in sunny days and borrow an umbrella in rainy days". This is the long-term strategic vision of people who really know how to ask for help. Take precautions and prepare in advance.
A friend used to be the general manager of a company. At the end of each year, gifts and greeting cards come like snowflakes. But when he retired. There are only a handful of gifts received, and even a New Year card has not been received.
There used to be many tourists, but this year there are few. Just when he was lonely, a former subordinate came to visit him with a gift. During his tenure, the clerk did not attract his attention, but it was this man who came to visit, which surprised him and moved him to tears.
A few years later, this friend was hired as a consultant by the original company, which naturally promoted the employee. Because he was able to take the initiative to visit his home without interest, his actions deeply touched each other, left a deep impression in his mind, and even made him think that "one day, once I have the opportunity, I must repay him well."
Good interpersonal relationship is the basis of seeking help from others, but the establishment of good interpersonal relationship is not achieved overnight, and it must be accumulated from bit by bit and rely on daily accumulation. The ancients said: "Accumulated soil is a mountain, and wind and rain are proud; The water drops merged into the ocean and the dragon was born. "... Only through continuous construction and consolidation can interpersonal relationships become stronger.
There are countless examples in real life. Help others and master the way of employing people, and you will get more help. Looking back at history: Zhou Wuwang and Ji Fa crusaded against Shang and Zhou Dynasties and got a lot of help; At the end of Sui Dynasty, Yang Guang had no way to go, and farmers everywhere revolted, and the Wagang Army got help from many sides and won. At the end of Yuan Dynasty, the Red Scarf Army led by Zhu Yuanzhang got help from many sides and finally won. During World War II, Germany, Italy and Japan lost their ways to help, while anti-Japanese countries such as China, the United States and Britain gained more help. In the war of liberation, the People's Liberation Army got a lot of help, but the Kuomintang lost it ... All historical facts tell us that we are willing to help others. A kind word can help many people.
Help and charity will make their own values better realized. Many times, your little help and charity to others. This will be a treasure that you can be proud of all your life.
A beggar came to the door and begged from his master. The beggar looks pitiful. He has only one arm, and the sleeve of his left arm is empty, which is really worrying. Maybe everyone thought that the hostess would give generously. Surprisingly, the hostess pointed to a pile of bricks in front of the door and said to the beggar, "Please help me move this pile of bricks to the back of the house."
The beggar was very angry after hearing this: "Isn't this a deliberate humiliation?" He said angrily, "I only have one hand, and you still have the heart to ask me to move bricks." If you don't want to help, forget it. Why embarrass others? "
Instead of getting angry, the master bent down and lifted the brick. Moreover, she deliberately moved it with only one hand. After a trip, she said, "You see, one hand can work. You can do what I can, you are still a man. "
The beggar was stunned. What medicine is sold in her gourd? Monk Zhang Er can't get it. He looked at her with strange eyes. In order not to lose face, he finally leaned down and lifted bricks with his only hand, only two at a time. Until all the bricks were moved, he was panting with fatigue, his clothes were soaked with sweat, and his messy hair stuck to his forehead.
Then the host handed the beggar a white towel. The beggar took it and wiped his face and neck carefully. The white towel turned into a black towel. Then she handed the beggar 20 yuan money. The beggar took the money and said gratefully, "Thank you."
The host said, "You don't have to thank me. This is the reward you deserve. "
The beggar said, "Good-hearted man, I won't forget you." So he bowed deeply to his hostess and continued on his way.
In the future, whenever beggars come to beg, the hostess will give alms in the same way. Because she thinks that although it is simple physical labor, it is of great significance to beggars.
A few years later, a very decent man came to your door. He is distinguished by his suit and tie, and he can tell at a glance that he is the rich boss of the family. But the only fly in the ointment is that the boss has only one right hand, and his left hand has empty sleeves and swings back and forth. Holding the hostess's hand in one hand, he leaned down and said, "Without you, I would still be a beggar;" Because you taught me to move bricks, I can become the boss of a company today. You made me realize that my life can only be changed by my own hands. Although you didn't give me direct charity at first, it is more valuable than direct charity. "
The host didn't have any abnormal reaction, but simply said, "You did it yourself, and I don't have any credit." The boss insisted on moving the hostess and her family to the city to enjoy a good life. But she never promised, because she believed that with love and hands, they would be happy. The boss finally failed to convince her and had to leave.
This kind of charity is different from what we see in our daily life. At first glance, it seems cruel and unsympathetic, but in the end, it can improve our own value. It can be said that this kind of help and charity has not only achieved others, but also raised ourselves. No matter how you help others, it is the true response of your beautiful heart, and you will become greater because of it. So friends, when you see others in trouble, lend us a hand and give them a hand, and your life will be more exciting.