Mr. Sun, a visitor from Wei Qing, told about his marriage. The following contents are private letters, which are published with the consent of Teacher Sun.
Teacher, I really don't know what to do now.
My wife is my childhood sweetheart, and we grew up together. Our kindergarten, junior high school and senior high school all study together. At first, I didn't do well in school. She went to college, and I worked in the city where she went to college.
At that time, many men who were better than me pursued my wife, saying that I was just a wage earner and had no future, but my wife was still dead set with me.
I am grateful for her trust in me. I am glad that I am her first choice and her last choice. We're married.
On our wedding night, my wife said to me, "I am willing to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you and trust you wholeheartedly, but you can't betray your family and me, or we will divorce immediately. "
In 20 10, I took advantage of the wind of the internet era and made several niche mobile games with very high user viscosity. The company has been stable for ten years.
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20 18 I met a woman while drinking with some friends who started the company together. This woman is very affectionate and has a high emotional intelligence. I have a good impression on her, but I love my wife and I know I should keep my distance from her, so I didn't add any contact information.
On my birthday in June this year, my friends dragged me out of the house in the name of the Brothers Bureau and invited the woman to have dinner together.
Later, I drank too much and had a relationship with her in a daze.
At first, I was afraid that my wife would know about it, and I hardly contacted those friends. But they often come to me and say to me:
"Why are you so afraid of your wife? Not like a man at all. Don't be afraid. This is just a love affair. Don't worry about it. "
"I have a lover, too, and my wife never knew."
"Don't worry, even if your wife knows that you are cheating, she won't divorce you. She is willing to part with you, reluctant to part with children! "
"Even if your wife says she wants to divorce you, she won't divorce. She's been with you for so many years, how can she just leave? As long as you have a good attitude towards your mistake, she will forgive you. "
After listening to my friend's persuasion, I gradually relaxed and secretly vowed to sever contact with that woman.
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But men are really animals with lower body thinking. That woman sent it on her own initiative, and I couldn't refuse it at all.
In this way, I am afraid that my wife will know about my affair, while maintaining a lover relationship with that woman.
I never use my private number to call that woman or chat with her on WeChat. I go home on time at night. I thought I could hide my feelings for that woman, and then I could completely separate myself.
But my wife found out about my affair last week, and she asked me for a divorce directly.
I thought she was just trying to scare me like my friend said. I knelt down and begged my wife for mercy and vowed to cut off contact with a third party. I will promise anything she asks me in the future, as long as she stays with me well.
But my wife didn't want to listen to my explanation at all, so she packed up and went back to her parents' house without responding to my apology and admission.
Yesterday, my wife contacted me. I am glad that she is willing to make up with me. As a result, she gave me a divorce agreement to sign and divide the property. Go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce next month.
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I really regret it now. I regret that I can't control my lower body, and I regret hurting my wife. I really don't want a divorce at all. What should I do?
A brief analysis of marriage counselors in Uygur love;
People must be careful before they do something irreversible.
In 2006, something happened in my neighbor's house.
This man is the captain of a local traffic police team. He often sighs after giving birth to his daughter. Because his family is said to have three generations, he really wants a son.
He gave birth to a son at the risk of his wife Unfortunately, the news that he gave birth to a second child was known by his competitors. After reporting to the superior, the man was opened.
Later, at home, I often saw him scold his second son as a Sangmenxing, and his hateful eyes made me shudder.
Some people may think that having a second child at the expense of being double-opened must be a painful child. How can love hate?
Well, it's hard to understand and easy to understand.
Someone stole fish from a fish pond at night and was electrocuted by a video game. Does this mean that they love fish more than their own lives?
In fact, the man who was electrocuted for stealing fish has the same psychology as my neighbor and Mr. Sun.
People who steal fish and get an electric shock feel that they will not be so unlucky and will not touch the power grid;
Neighbors feel that they secretly gave birth to a second child and will not make it public;
Mr. Sun felt that he was cheating secretly, and his wife wouldn't find out and he wouldn't divorce.
But the fact is often much more cruel than the ideal state, so don't overestimate your ability. Many actions are just impulsive and may not bear the consequences.
I hope everyone will take a warning and cherish their families.
The marriage counselor suggested that Mr. Sun:
First of all, those who come near Zhu Zhechi are black. Keep your distance from your friends as soon as possible. You can be partners, but you can't talk to each other anymore.
Secondly, you have a good emotional foundation. Express your sincerity to your wife as soon as possible and let her know your determination to repent thoroughly.
For example, if the property is transferred to her name, it means that if she cheats again in the future, she will run away from home cleanly; For example, in the future, actively cooperate with her to do housework, let her test you well, impress her with sincerity, and try to make her change her mind.
Finally, if your wife is still unwilling to respond positively to you, then she may be really disappointed in you and don't want to continue this marriage.