Family is the earliest contact point between children and the world, the beginning of all education, and the most lasting and extensive place for primary school students to receive education and influence. Education experts at home and abroad believe that in today's era, teachers can no longer solve many urgent educational problems independently, and now schools need the active participation and work of parents. How to communicate with parents is very important and has become an inevitable topic for us. There are four ways to communicate: ① telephone interview; 2 letters and visits; 3 home visits; ④ School visit. If our teachers want to do these four things well, they must be sincere and do the right thing, so that they can "kiss their teachers and believe in their ways."
One. As a school teacher, we must cooperate with the tutor's work, concentrate on our work, encourage each other, tolerate each other and never undermine each other. It can really be said that "people are the same, people are different, people want what they want, and benevolent people want it." For example, the typo happened in a primary school, when we were all in class. At the entrance of the second grade, a parent pointed to the class teacher and asked, "Is this word written by my child right or wrong?" The teacher took the homework and looked at it and said, "The child wrote it right." The parents' voice rose to 8 degrees: "Yes, how did you make a mistake? Can you write? Can you teach? " I heard the noise, strolled out of the classroom, came to them, took the homework and looked at it carefully. The children did write correctly, and the teacher did make an "X". I want to know. At this time, parents are more like winners. My back is to the sun and my homework is to the sun. In the sunshine, I finally found out what the problem was. The child showed signs of turning over a new leaf I quickly invited the child out and said in front of my father that I changed it myself, but I changed it. The children are frank, the teachers are calm and the parents are not angry.
This incident shows that teachers are a family, and we should be sincere among ourselves, but outward. Only by forming a joint force with the tutor can the educational effect be better.
Another example is "parents beat other students at school", which happened in a primary school. Two children had a fight between classes, and the younger one suffered, but he was close to home, just across the road, so he went back to move "reinforcements". When my father came to the campus, he was aggressive and kept asking, "Which one? Which one? See if I don't kill him. " I saw the momentum of the parent, so I rushed over and said it was too late. At that moment, the parents slapped the child, and I stopped it with my palm and landed heavily on the back of my hand. There is a saying in Disciples' Rules: "Persuade people by force, not by heart. If you convince people by reasoning, you will be speechless. " This is worth a thousand words.
"Get close to your teacher and trust his way"-it means that you can get deeper education and more benefits with your favorite teacher. For our teachers, that is, elderly female teachers, they are teachers in teaching and mothers in life. For example, Girls Concerned about Adolescence should say what it should do and do it sincerely. Teach girls how to use sanitary napkins, talk about the role of holidays, don't be afraid, and narrow the distance with children and parents.
Some things should be ignored and put aside, which is much better than urgent needs and will have better results.
Last year, Teacher Cai Jinli said that there was a little girl in her class who especially liked to take other people's things, other people's money, phone cards, mobile phones and so on. The child admitted at school that something was found in her schoolbag, but her mother took the child home for one night and retracted her confession the next day, saying that the teacher and classmates had wronged her child and threatened the teacher. Such things should be put aside, cold and cold. Children's problems are not acquired overnight. As the saying goes: "Illness comes like a mountain, and illness goes like reeling." Her children will still be in other people's homes, friends' homes and relatives' homes. Her mother will find out, and before long, her mother will take the initiative to ask the teacher to explain everything. Communication with parents should be avoided. For example, if the elderly have few wives, don't ask and talk to other parents less, which will cause unnecessary conflicts in other families.
Some things just don't say. When it comes to this matter, it is sharp. Once our teacher wanted to do a census, and the students had classes in the morning, but this morning class gave the children fresh life. We were all immersed in the work in the office when suddenly an outsider rushed into the office and shouted, "Your student was hit by a car!" " "The teachers rushed out of the office and rushed to the road. I took the opportunity to pull a coal tractor. I was the first to run in front of the accident child Guo Ruipeng. The child raised his right hand slightly, opened his mouth slightly, and made a slight voice: "Old …" The teacher didn't call out, covered in blood, all over his face and head. I quickly took off my new coat and wrapped it around the child. I took my car to the orthopedic hospital. The injury is serious and the rescue is invalid. The child went, the child went, and the child covered my coat. It was not until his parents cremated the child's body that they discovered that according to the rural custom, the child did not wear his parents' clothes. I'm a teacher. I don't care so much. Let parents think. As teachers, we just do things sincerely.
Two. Teachers should not lecture their parents in a condescending manner. Different parents have different ways of communication, so it varies from person to person. Teachers should be good at listening, so as to listen more and talk less, seize the opportunity, explain things in simple terms, talk about big things, talk about small things and talk about big things. Don't forget not to reprimand your parents and perfunctory them. Everyone has a period of psychological disorder, sometimes emotional or in a bad mood. A parent once said, "Teachers are fiercer than tigers." If the communication method is not appropriate, the result is what you want. There are no restrictions on communication and methods, but no matter what methods and skills are adopted, we should be sincere and work hard for the long-term development of students.
So as a teacher, it is not enough to have only one kind of love, but also to have the ability to love. Practice has proved that the educational effect can only be added when the family and school form a joint force.
We pioneers have gone through ten years and started from scratch. What I said is just my personal experience. All this will be in the past, and it's time to put an end to it. When the period is large, it becomes zero. So I will start from scratch and do everything well in the future.