Men drag their feet and never get married. Some boys have been dating their girlfriends for a long time, and it is really difficult to get married. Either boys have never thought about getting married, or they are accustomed to knowledge. Let me introduce it and see the psychology of men dragging their feet on not getting married.
For many men, the advantage of getting married is that they always have their own place. The problem is that there can only be one place forever. Therefore, men always procrastinate and don't want to imprison themselves with marriage prematurely. Either "flash marriage" or delay marriage, now men seem to be deliberately targeting women.
MengMeng and her boyfriend just broke up not long ago for a simple reason ―― the woman has reached the age of marriage, but the man has been slow to get married. I can't wait, so I'm breaking up. "He said it's not that he doesn't love me, but that if he gets married now, it's better to put a knife rest around his neck. I really don't understand why men wait until they are 30 to get married. They may want to play for a few more years and give themselves more choices. "
In this regard, MengMeng's boyfriend Xiao Peng explained that he didn't want to get married now because he was not prepared psychologically and materially. "The two of us don't have the conditions to get married. We have no house or car, so we can't get married.
Besides, I just graduated from graduate school and always feel like a child. How can I afford a family? At the same time, Xiao Peng also admitted that he and MengMeng really need more running-in time.
People who are afraid to get married all have personality weaknesses.
Either "flash marriage" or delay marriage, now men seem to be deliberately targeting women. Song Yumei made the following analysis on the mentality of men who insist on not getting married before the age of 25:
First, some of them are more mature and cautious about marriage. "They know more about the meaning of marriage to a person than people who have' flash marriage' or' flash marriage', so they will not make hasty decisions." But at the same time, Song Yumei also said that these people often show personality weaknesses such as hesitation and hesitation in their daily lives. "When this character is applied to feelings, it is easy to lose true love."
Secondly, for another part of people, they don't want to get married because they want to keep trying to find a woman who really suits them. As Xiao Peng said, "It's easy to find a girlfriend, so you must be careful when looking for a wife." It is in this process of frequent replacement that they hurt too many women, and it is often difficult to find their "the only thrill" in the end.
Finally, men's late marriage is a product of the times. "In modern society, most people choose to live together before marriage, so getting married or not is just a paper difference." Song Yumei said that many people don't want to get married because they are afraid of taking responsibility after marriage. After all, marriage means taking on the responsibilities of two families, which is exactly what many men want to escape, especially the only child.
Women don't get emotional.
In the face of age and marriage, men obviously have an advantage. So, as a woman, in the face of the man who has been unwilling to get married for a long time, are you waiting hard or pretending to turn around and leave? Song Yumei believes that a woman can't lose her mind, and love is supreme. "You need to know what kind of man you are facing and what kind of marriage you need."
"Among the interviewees I contacted, when a cynical man doesn't want to get married, some women will stick to it for this relationship that lasts for several years. In fact, it is fruitless to continue at this time, and the biggest injury is yourself. " This kind of woman is only in love, so it is better to keep her last dignity and leave with reserve.
If you are sure that this man is worth waiting for a few years, then it doesn't hurt to get married in a few years. "However, this must be based on mutual trust. Don't ignore the changes that time has brought to people." Song Yumei reminded that sometimes the killer of love is not an affair, but time.
Men drag their feet and never get married. What should my boyfriend do if he keeps putting off getting married?
1, spending money like water without planning.
For those who spend money like water and have no plans for everything in life, it can be said that this man is immature. Immature men generally like to have fun and don't know what life is, so everything in life is unplanned and casual. Such a man must be indifferent to marriage.
Step 2 avoid future planning
Men and women must get to know each other together, and when they reach marriageable age, they begin to plan their future together. But every time this kind of question is mentioned, men avoid talking or change the subject, so this man has no intention of getting married at all.
3, like freedom
There are often activities such as drinking and playing games with friends, ignoring your existence, and even having intensive contact with the opposite sex, which shows that he enjoys a free life very much now, and marriage has restrictions on these. If he gets married and has a family, he will be responsible, so he won't be so crazy and have too close contact with the opposite sex. If he doesn't have such ideological consciousness, it means that he has no intention of starting a family.
Boyfriend's procrastination about not getting married
1, on the grounds that parents are against marriage.
That's a bad reason. Is it a family feud drama in TV series? Generally, many women have only met their parents once or twice after dating men for a few years, so why should they object? If you object, why does the man continue to be with you? Using parents' opposition as a shield is actually stalling for time. When will we get married? My parents object to our marriage. I will convince my parents.
I will marry you when I have a house and a car.
Speaking of having a house and a car, this is indeed a good reason, but the problem is that you show that you don't mind marrying him without a house and a car, but he still says that you must realize your dream of having a house and a car before marrying you. Don't think that men are highly motivated. This is purely a reason for procrastination. Can't afford to buy a house or a car after marrying you? Will marrying you drag him down to buy a house and a car?
3, career rise period temporarily don't consider lifelong events.
You may think that your boyfriend is very enterprising, and as his woman, he should fully support his career, but when you think about it, it can't stand scrutiny. Will marriage affect a man's career? If there is, it means that you are a woman who has an influence on a man's career. If he has to break up with you for his career growth, if not, then he has never considered marrying you, married a woman, and his family and "nanny" who takes care of his parents have all been solved. Under normal circumstances, marriage never affects his career, on the contrary, it is more conducive to his career. Behind a successful man, there must be a woman who silently supports him.
Anyway, you are already my man, and you didn't get married until you were thirty.
As we all know, it is difficult for a woman to find a good partner after the golden age of 25 or 26. They talk about marriage at the age of 30, and women have no advantage at all, but men are different. They have stable jobs and savings. This is the golden age. After dating for more than two years, if a man still doesn't want to get married and says, "You are already mine, let's wait until you are 30", forget it and break up immediately. There is no need to waste youth on such a man.
5. Get married when you are pregnant
Needless to say, the last one, as long as the man personally told you this sentence, subconsciously waiting for you to quarrel and break up! What is pregnancy before marriage? Only pregnant and injured women. What if a pregnant man suddenly goes back on his word and doesn't want to get married? Even if a man keeps his promise and marries a woman, can he regard his woman as a "precious tool"?
The reason why boyfriends delay getting married.
1, not ready
The first reason is not ready to enter the marriage hall, which is actually a problem that every unmarried man and woman will be afraid of, and fear of marriage is one of the manifestations. Men always want to live a stable and comfortable life after marriage, so it is normal to delay marriage when money, life and psychology are not ready. He has identified you, but he wants to give you something better, which is understandable.
2. Family reasons
I don't want to make you sad or disappointed because of family reasons, or my parents are sick or living in poverty, so I have been very kind to you, but I never mentioned getting married. For this kind of man, marrying you is the biggest thing in his life. He naturally wants everything to be perfect, so wait, woman, your man will work miracles for you.
3. nostalgia for beauty
This reason is unacceptable to many women. You gave all your youth to him, but this man dragged you, refused to marry you, attached to young beauty, and his heart was completely obscene. Who can really accept such a man?
How to deal with boyfriend's unwillingness to get married?
1, you let him meet your parents, understand your parents' attitude, and put forward your expectations for marriage. I didn't see him take you to see your parents, his parents' attitude towards your relationship, or your views and expectations about the future marriage relationship.
You said that you have a good relationship, so I guess the situation of your relationship may be more because you are more eager to make him have no sense of crisis and are not worried that you will leave. The contradiction between him and your parents is easy to understand, and you can easily quarrel about it.