Anonymous user
The following view is based on the fact that there are almost no friends of the opposite sex in the problem description, only roommates often chat with the opposite sex online, inferring that the subject has too much contact with same-sex friends, so that he loses the ability to communicate with the opposite sex.
First of all, the best way is to refuse to be together!
Unless you are really eye-catching, you are the most eye-catching among girls and the most attractive to boys. The girls next to you are all green leaves to set you off. But the boys who pursue you can't love you, and pursue you at the cost of several times that of other girls.
Think about it, if you meet among girls every day, and a boy takes a fancy to you and decides to pursue you with confidence, what should he do?
First of all, he wants to please both you and your friends. As we all know, when you get a girl, you must please the people around her, so that you can put in a good word for her and not say that this person can't do it behind her back.
Then every time I get along with you, countless light bulbs shine around me. I can hardly find the opportunity to get along with you alone and enhance my feelings.
It's best to buy n gifts at a time and invite n people to dinner. Not everyone likes to find n girlfriends, but also the kind that can only watch but not eat!
Then, as a girl, I think it is unlikely that a boy likes a group of girls who have no contact. And it is difficult for a group of girls to have too much contact with other boys every day.
In the meantime, advice to girls?
Forget it. ...
A group of girls with little experience in love, or girls with immature views on love, generally can't help you.
-Today, he ... I'm so sad, woo hoo ~
-What? He did this to you? You must not tolerate it! Just argue with him and break up! The man who really loves you is willing to give everything for you! He can do this little thing, I don't believe in love anymore!
Their love view is based on the relationship between parents and the description in novels and TV plays. It's basically an armchair strategist.
And I'll talk about my point of view from a girl's point of view.
I am in a pure science university, and the ratio of male to female is 5: 1.
There are also many boys and girls around who like to get together. There is indeed a phenomenon that most boys and girls who like to get together are single. And even if you take off the bill, you are not alienated from your original friends, or you bring your own light bulb on a date and break up within three months.
I don't like to get in touch with boys who get together.
First, boys get together every day to talk about learning, as if I only love learning and don't love you. Either you study hard and have a strong voice with him to make him realize that you are his soul mate. Only when you can't find the second person will he leave the big team and fall in love with you. Either get along with his team without any sense of disobedience, so as not to disturb his study, understand and support him to ignore you for the sake of study.
Second, some boys get together to play games every day. Either you love playing games, and you don't drag your feet when you play often. Either you have enough charm to attract him to give up the game and gay friends will come to you.
Third, boys get together for dinner, class and self-study. I can't just sit next to him in class and talk with him about study and life. Boys get together for dinner, so naturally I can't sit next to him and talk to him. After all, not everyone has strong social skills.
Fourth, I don't like the feeling of having many light bulbs around me. Some ambiguous words can't be said and some ambiguous things can't be done. Talk about Han?
Fifth, boys who often get together are generally boring and have low emotional intelligence. (speaking from experience) I'm completely uninterested!
6. I like the kind of boy who has many friends. Everyone has a good relationship and has many really reliable friends, but I never spend every day with a few of them! Because I think the mature way of making friends is not based on the companionship of staying together every day, but on the basis of congenial feelings and interests. Another point is that I have a crush on your personality, and I think it's great to be friends with you! An attractive person will not get bored with a group of friends every day, which will affect his understanding and make more interesting people, and will strongly affect the efficiency of personal actions! Don't you think a person's action efficiency is particularly high? )
And some friends who like to get together usually just rely on the word "friend" instead of forming a feeling of appreciation for you. Once you don't contact for a long time, you will probably be no different from strangers. I'd rather not have such a friend. Why should I spend a lot of time with him? My friend has always been a good friend and said nothing even if he didn't meet or chat for a year.
So "deal with a man as he deals with you", I like the opposite sex like me, and I don't like conformity.
As for the method?
1, get rid of the crowd.
2. Cultivate your hobbies. Make more like-minded friends.
There should be no gender difference in making friends, and the conditions for choosing friends should be the same for both men and women. Treat it in a more consistent way, and naturally you are not afraid of what others think.
4. You can meet some friends of the opposite sex more appropriately. After all, only boys know the way of thinking of boys better. Prevent yourself from being at a loss when you meet a boy you like. Don't think, "Oh, I'm a sister. Will people think I'm a bitch if I have too many friends with the opposite sex? " Or "isn't it just to want to associate with the opposite sex?" I can only say that you are really naive! Can I understand your tendency to be a bitch? Hanging out with the opposite sex just to have fun and cultivate spare tires and boyfriends? (heavy)
4, spend more time on improving yourself, rather than thinking about why you can't get in touch with the quality of the opposite sex. I am good enough, and naturally more excellent people want to know you.
What is brave is to know others and say hello to them. Participate in various activities such as clubs, occupy a position in a group (probably the kind that needs to contact many people), and communicate bravely with strangers. Personally, I like to eat in the canteen, study in the library, and have simple communication with people next to me during class in the classroom. Sometimes I accidentally make friends I can talk to! ) teamwork is more. Try not to team up with people you know, but try to find people you don't know ~
6. You can be more cheerful and smile more. I think I like the open way of making friends with foreigners (here, the personality is open rather than sexual), and I also like to associate with people with such personality. At the same time, people with this personality have the opportunity to know more people.
This suggestion is based on the topic that the subject wants to know more about the opposite sex, not that extroversion is better than introversion. )
Finally, there is another disadvantage of getting together in love, which is easy to lose balance in love. Unless your friends who are clustered together have less contact, their friendship will not fade.
Edited on 2018/04/09
Put it away?
Sponge (Questioner) 20 16- 10-06
Thank you for your answers. I will try to get together as little as possible. Ha ha ha ha Happy National Day!
Anonymous user (author) replies sponge (questioner) 20 16- 10-06.
Thank you ~ I hope you can also find a friend-making model that suits you! And secretly tell you that almost all the boys around me are looking for beautiful women on the surface and looking at their faces; In fact, they all say that getting along with people, getting along with people is the most important! Girls who have talked about several relationships around them also said that it is very important to show their true character in love. And when you feel uncomfortable with the opposite sex, the other person doesn't want to associate with you. I hope you can finally find a suitable "suitable" love ~ the happiest in love, O(∩_∩)O~~
Open the app to see more comments.
Continue to browse the content
Almost know
Discover a bigger world
open
Huawei browser
continue
More answers
Shiroko
Consultation plus: swx0926
First, short-term: online dating
Take off the order in a short time, or make friends online.
In recent years, social software has emerged one after another, from stranger to exploration to Soul.
All to solve the social problems of strange men and women.
Our life is getting faster and faster, but there are fewer and fewer opportunities to meet new friends.
There are too many young people, not because they don't want to take off their bills, but because they really don't have time to take off their bills.
It is increasingly unrealistic for you to ask them to spend a whole period of time making friends and getting to know the opposite sex.
As a result, social software appeared.
On the way to and from work, I know the opposite sex through time fragmentation and "sliding left and right". Isn't that sweet?
Meeting again after chatting well also reduces the "uncertainty" of social interaction.
This is the selling point of social software, pointing directly at human nature. How can it not be popular?
But it also has a big problem,
On social software, there will always be some people with poor quality who say something explicit.
Even if the conversation was good at first, it would end in discord later.
Why?
This is an almost inevitable problem for many social software.
Although it breaks the "social gap" established by "social class", it makes you aware of many people you can't contact at ordinary times.
But it's really possible that you are from two completely different worlds.
On the Internet, you can take off your mask and speak freely.
But when the passion fades, you will find that you are so "out of place" Two people don't have much * * * language, nor are they from the same class, nor do they have * * * circles and friends.
Love will eventually become a reality.
However, you may also ask, "Since online dating is so unreliable, why do you recommend it?"
Because being single is a state.
Whether you want to enter a state or change a state, it is not easy.
If you have been single for a long time, it is definitely not difficult to get rid of the bill within three months.
What should we do?
In a short time (3 months), we still have to rely on social software.
However, what kind of social software to use may be another subject.
A principle: social software with a threshold
Exploration, stranger, soul and so on, as long as you fill in a message and put a few photos, you can start the software of "sliding left and sliding right", no need to consider it.
Although you may meet the "Mr. Right" on this, the probability is too low after all.
The so-called threshold means that you must meet certain requirements before you can use it.
For example, there are already some dating software with academic qualifications, and you must upload your academic qualifications to register.
To some extent, this is the second screening of users, and the quality is much better.
Therefore, this is also a good way to take off the order in a short time.
Second, the medium term: join a circle.
Online, never offline.
This is what I have repeatedly suggested:
If you want to talk about a high-quality love, you'd better meet someone offline.
You come together through a circle, and naturally get to know each other, know each other and love each other. This is love at its best.
Even in most happy marriages, this is how two people met.
Circle is the guarantee of quality.
Why?
Because it will appear in a circle, it shows that your's hobbies, social status and values may be close.
This is the guarantee of high quality love.
It is not unreasonable that ancient marriages were very particular about "matching the right family".
Because if the two companies are too different in all aspects, even if they are barely together, there may be many hidden dangers.
For example, if one family has difficulties and needs the support of the other, they are all in-laws. Can you not support it?
But what if there is support? There may be a second time or even countless times after the first time.
In the end, this marriage ended not because of the discord between husband and wife, but because of other factors.
Then, love is naturally impure.
The three views converge, the interests and hobbies are the same, and the social status is almost the same. With these as a guarantee, love will go further, and each other can have no worries, boldly love and ride the wind and waves together.
Therefore, good love begins with making friends in the circle.
But it is not easy to find "organization".
Don't you dare, you just entered a circle yesterday, and today you are thinking about how to seduce handsome guys and beautiful women in the circle, which will only make everyone hate you!
What should we do?
If making friends with social software is a one-off business,
Pay, deliver, and then you may never see it again in your life.
What about social circles? This is a matter for regular customers.
Did you suffer some losses today? Never mind, maybe he will make it up to you next time.
Therefore, the core rule of dozen circle field is: "learn to endure hardship"
Or: constantly "providing value",
Can't you get a taxi home now? -Never mind, I'll walk you ~
Today, everyone said to have dinner with AA-I am happy today, and I will pay the bill!
No venue? -It's okay, I'll help contact!
This is "providing value".
Let everyone in the circle try to "owe you one" and your position in this circle will naturally rise.
Then at that time, you said which handsome boy and beautiful woman you like, and everyone will naturally help you.
Playing social circles is the basic skill of social interaction.
Third, long-term: form your own circle.
Your territory, your decision.
If you join other people's circles, it's like going to work. If you set up your own circle, you will set up a mountain with a flag.
In your own circle, you are the absolute leader, and you have the priority to enjoy all the resources in the circle.
If someone wants to join your circle, they have to get your consent, and others will naturally look up to you.
Having your own social circle will also improve all aspects of your life.
But building a circle is not an easy task.
Why?
Do you think it's really that easy to start a company?
You have to have someone, money, a venue,
More importantly, you have to have what you can get.
For example, if you have expertise in a certain field, everyone will believe you.
You have to be KOL (key opinion leader)
You can unconditionally support people in the circle at critical times, otherwise why should people play with you?
This requires that in addition to some hard conditions, you must also have a good personality, a sense of responsibility and a sense of responsibility.
Therefore, leadership has never been so easy to do.
So how do you build a circle?
1, creating advantages
As mentioned earlier, leaders in the circle cannot be persuaded without excellent technology.
No matter what circle you want to build, you must have at least 80 points in this field.
Therefore, you must stay in this field for at least a few years.
Otherwise, don't try to fool people with the ability of half a bucket of water. After all, you have to deal with it for a long time.
Therefore, before building a circle, think about what advantages you have. Can you convince the public?
2, a hero and three gangs
A leader, if there is no one around, is an army of one person.
Before building a circle, see if there are 2 or 3 good friends around you.
You are not fair-weather friends or plastic girls, but people who can stand up at critical moments.
If you are in trouble, I will help you.
I have something to ask you, and you will never refuse.
This is your inner circle.
Liu, Guan and Zhang are not vegetarians.
Liu Bei, the blood of the royal family, raised the flag with confidence, and Guan Yu and Zhang Fei were bursting with force.
If your inner circle is full of mediocrity, the upper limit of the circle may not be high.
So, you should think twice about what kind of people these two right-hand men really want.
The formation of social circles cannot be completed by one person.
3. Introduce talents
Circles are built to attract talents.
Focus on the core social circle and start to attract friends around you.
Try to organize some activities every week, as long as the other party is willing, you can attract them.
At first, you may not attract people with particularly good quality, but it doesn't matter. There will be people in the early stage, and then you will continue to screen like a big wave.
Stick to it, there will be more and more people in the circle and the quality of personnel will be higher and higher.
In the end, it is your thoughts that determine the size of this circle.
There will be many people in your circle who you can tolerate and accept.
Finally, do you think you can't get to know the person you like by then?
Read the full text?
Boy 04- 10
Excuse me, what are the softwares that need to upload academic certificates to register?
Teacher Wang replied to the boy 04-20
I also want to know
Open the app to see more comments.
Continue to browse the content
Almost know
Discover a bigger world
open
Huawei browser
continue
Zhihu users
All kinds of high-quality young men, professional introduction objects. We are seriously short of girls.
-
Supplement, mostly architectural structure siege lions. There are seven or eight in Chengdu.
-A lot of people came to see me. I've been busy recently, and I don't often go to Zhihu.
2016165438+1updated on October 30th.
Today, a girl came to me to introduce someone, and then said she wanted a handsome one because she was not bad-looking.
Then I said, I'm so confident. The photo exploded and I made an expression.
Then my sister called me rude and deleted me.
I'll go, so blx.
-I won't introduce it.
Read the full text?
Hu 20 15-06- 13
Is this your second job?
Zhihu user (author) replied Hu 20 15-06- 14.
This is the third occupation, and the second occupation is development.
Open the app to see more comments.
Continue to browse the content
Almost know
Discover a bigger world
open
Huawei browser
continue
1307 Li diu diu
Love gold and silver, but also be laughed at by a stone.
First, visit the forums in your school, such as Baidu Post Bar. Making more friends is your first step, both men and women.
Second, firmly believe that friends of friends are friends, and hang out in large groups, talk more, attend more parties and peek more. There will be what you call a good man or a good man's friend.
Third, it is not too difficult to make an appointment. It doesn't matter how the other person is, what matters is that you will know each other's friends. The bigger the circle, the more choices.
Of course, if you don't accept the gift from the suitor, a clear refusal is affirmative. The relationship between men and women should be innocent and ambiguous. With such a big circle, people's words are always awesome.