Find yourself a goal to strive for.
Everyone's efforts are a stage of seeking self-harmony and improvement. 20 14 after giving birth to the second child, I fell into a black hole of deep depression, couldn't sleep all day, cried inexplicably, was angry, angry, blamed myself and felt guilty. Looking back, I feel deeply guilty and guilty. So I picked up the textbook again, and on the basis of having a three-level psychological counselor many years ago, I started studying again and took the second-level certificate. With the emergence of this goal, coupled with the "I finally defeated depression" I heard from Fan Deng's book club, I silently asked for help, went to the hospital to see a doctor and take medicine, and had a goal every day. After passing the psychological counselor's second-level exam, I was very busy every day and forgot for the time being.
Go out of the house, participate in salon activities and some training and study.
Completely changed your thinking and realm. When seeking help, I actively participated in the salon of psychology, including marriage, changing ideas, hypnosis experience, image dialogue, loving touch and so on. During these activities, I got to know more teachers in psychology, made many classmates with this hobby, and heard and saw their efforts and processes. Especially after attending the training of sand table therapy, I was consulted in front of dozens of sand table teachers and supervisors.
What I was doing was "scene reappearance". I put a painful scene in the sand table. I put a scene in which a person looks after the children in the dark. I shed tears silently, the children looked at me innocently, and I fell into guilt and sadness.
By supervising teachers to change characters, let them vent their emotions and change their ideas. After that day, my guilt and sadness gradually eased. At the same time, I also know that many women will obviously have postpartum depression after giving birth, and seeking help is the only way to save themselves. Here, I am very grateful to Teacher Zhang Suzhu for her help. It was her consultation that gave me confidence and improved my later efforts and self-integration.
Then, as a person who has come out of a hellish experience, I can happily introduce my way out to the consultant. If you want to develop and find a way for counselors to improve, you must make yourself harmonious and full of positive energy, so that your direction will be clear. Now, after groping, I plan to follow a professor of Lanzhou Normal University to further learn the skills and methods of counseling, and more importantly, find my own way of research and development. For example, I have studied sand table therapy and painting therapy now, so I also want to study hypnosis, cognitive behavioral therapy and family therapy.
Especially when I was studying Introduction to Psychoanalysis, I heard from my tutor that the classic psychoanalyst was Freud, on the basis of which several branches of psychoanalysis were developed. Melanie klein, who became a monk halfway, put forward the emergence of human superego when he was over one year old, which can be said to be Klein's greatest contribution. She expounded the role of early ego and superego, expressed the development foundation of personality and individuality, and introduced psychoanalytic principles, toys and games into children's psychotherapy. The therapists supervised and trained by her have also become familiar talents in the field of child psychotherapy and adult psychotherapy, such as Hannah Dingle, Winnicott and Bion.
Judging from the achievements and development of melanie klein, it is very important for a person to find the direction of his efforts. Then, as a psychological counselor with a second-class certificate, how to find his own development direction and the goal of working hard for it?
First of all, you need to read a lot of books on psychology, including various humanities and natural sciences, because an excellent psychological counselor can be said to be an all-round talent. For example, Freud can put forward the theory of psychoanalysis and strive to become a master of psychoanalysis, which is the result of Darwin's theory of evolution.
Furthermore, there should be professional psychological supervision to carry out systematic training and practice. Only under the guidance of the supervisor, like deliberate practice, your consulting level and your personal growth path will develop in the long run.
Under Freud's door, there are countless students, all of whom opened a new world of psychology after leaving his door. For example, jung put forward the collective subconscious; Anna Floyd's defense mechanism; Adler put forward inferiority and superiority and the influence of birth order; K honey, female psychology, environment and social influence; Harry stark sullivan's interpersonal obstacle theory and the concept of self-system; E fromm's concepts of escaping from freedom and human nature being the product of social culture are all put forward on the basis of Freud's theory. On this basis, Millard J. Erickson also put forward the famous eight-stage theory of psychological development-identity crisis. It has made outstanding contributions to our understanding of ourselves.
Recently, the cancellation of the examination for psychological counselors has made many people lose their optimism about this profession, and also made teachers who have obtained certificates fall into a confused period. However, through my understanding of the current situation, I found that there are many people with psychological problems in our community and family, so let us counselors who have obtained the certificate have a long way to go, and our work is broader and more free. As long as you always keep a persistent heart of exploration, your research direction is clear. Then, the problems of children, family, marriage, personality development and social adaptation are all our research topics and the reasons for our efforts.