Xiao Di, 24, has been with her ex for ten years, because she is going to get married soon, but the two families have never talked about the bride price, house and other matters.
Xiao Di felt very tired, so she broke up.
Less than a week later, Xiao Di felt very regretful and went to the city where the boy was, trying to make up for it. However, he didn't expect his predecessor to be surprised and then refused to get back together.
At the same time, a female colleague pursued him in his predecessor's work environment, and before long, his predecessor was with this female colleague.
In these months, Xiao Di has been using this method to force her ex to get back together with her, even at the expense of bringing out her parents.
Later, my predecessor gradually became firm and completely rejected Xiao Di's request. The three men sat down and talked for a long time, and finally deleted each other's WeChat.
Case study:
Although it seems on the surface that they broke up because of their engagement, in fact, their relationship is problematic.
For a long time, Xiao Di's feelings for two people are not firm enough. When talking about marriage, his predecessor was working hard, and Xiao Di always expected his predecessor to ease the contradiction, which made him feel very tired.
And they are long-distance lovers. Xiao Di seldom accompanied his predecessor. He took the initiative to see Xiao Di, and Xiao Di felt insecure. When he came to Xiao Di, he often looked through his predecessor's cell phone, checked his email and didn't trust his predecessor.
When they were in conflict, a former colleague had been in love with his predecessor on and off for 2 1 day. When they finally broke up, the girl was still a thorn in Xiao Di's heart.
This girl is a cancer. She may have given her companionship and warmth when her predecessor was injured, but Xiao Di didn't.
Xiao Di is a more creative person. Similarly, when he was together, he had a big temper, and his predecessor came to coax Xiao Di, so his predecessor felt that he had been looking up to Xiao Di and felt very tired.
Recovery plan:
The first step is to help her adjust her state, which is also a moderate disconnection.
Because of the ten-year relationship, I just separated and my mood fluctuated greatly, so I will always sit there crying.
At the same time, because we have agreed to separate and delete each other's WeChat, if you go to the other party again at this time, the other party will definitely think that you have broken your word and kept your word, and your only good feelings for you will be exhausted.
During this time, I will help her adjust her mood.
Because she is very insecure, and because she broke up, her sense of self-worth is particularly low, and she feels that she is useless.
In this respect, I also helped her find her self-worth and reason.
This step took about a month.
Step two, prepare for reunion.
She's in a good state now, so we started trying to get back together with our ex.
Find a reason. Because it happened to be May Day, my ex was going home. I wanted to take this opportunity to meet him, but the boy obviously resisted.
Then I made two plans for her, asking her to tell her predecessor that she needed a book urgently, and it happened to be at her predecessor's house, to see if she could bring it to her when her predecessor came home.
Of course, if it's inconvenient, you can send it by post.
The boy mailed all the books in Xiao Di without saying anything.
This is obviously impossible for the time being.
Of course, our method is also a test of our predecessor's attitude towards Xiao Di.
Then this method didn't work, so we thought of another method.
All social ways have been deleted. I suggest Xiao Di play Tik Tok, because his predecessor may also play Tik Tok, which has an acquaintance recommendation mechanism. If you send Tik Tok, you can recommend it to someone you know.
This enabled me to set up Xiao Di's Tik Tok content and build a high-value presentation.
Not long after that, my predecessor began to praise Xiao Di frequently.
Later, the former new lover also came to praise Xiao Di.
At this time, I knew that there must be something wrong with the relationship between my ex and his new lover.
Sure enough, it didn't take long for Xin Huan to add Xiao Di to WeChat, and then began to scold Xiao Di.
Xiao Di asked me for help and didn't know what to do. I said this is our good time.
I asked her to take a screenshot of the chat record, and then added her predecessor's WeChat on the grounds that she had something to tell her predecessor, and sent the chat record to her predecessor.
And wrote a paragraph to his predecessor, saying: "I don't know what the situation is. I don't know what I did to get her to scold me like that.
Have I caused any trouble to your feelings?
I quite like you, but that was a thing of the past, and I won't bother you now. You'd better convince her. "
Although this sentence is very green, it is very useful for men.
The ex struggled for a few days and then broke up with her new lover.
Later, Xiao Di pursued her victory and played games with her predecessor to enhance her feelings. Finally, they successfully got back together.
In fact, it is not difficult to get back together, depending on the right method you use.
If you use it correctly, the other person will come back to you willingly. If you use it wrong, you will push the other person into someone else's arms.
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