Su Xiaoxiao dares to fight, anger, speak, love and hate. But Wu Hongmei is completely different from her. She resigned herself to fate and didn't want to make progress in her work, but she didn't want anything.
Wu Hongmei and her lover Xiaobei got married hastily and lived a simple life in a rented house. In order to save the down payment, Xiaobei put forward various restrictions and requirements for her consumption. Until one day, Wu Hongmei was ridiculed by her boss that her dress was out of date. Wu Hongmei went home and asked Xiaobei to buy clothes, but Xiaobei gave him another meal. Under her strong demand and resistance, Xiaobei had to take her to the mall to buy special discounts. When she proudly and happily walked into the workplace in her newly bought clothes, she was ridiculed by her boss again.
Wu Hongmei is looked down upon by her boss and colleagues in the workplace. At work, I was found critical and embarrassed by my boss everywhere. So in the workplace, she has no warmth and happiness. The only thing is that I can work with the same system. Two people spit on each other and comfort each other.
After working for four years, she has never been promoted or raised. Seeing that college alumni are small, their positions are rising, their salaries are much higher than their own, and their positions are higher than their own. I have a great sense of loss and inferiority.
The great sense of loss made her feel more inferior. In the workplace, she dare not argue, dare not resist, resign herself to fate and act cautiously. Even so, it was rejected and excluded by the boss.
During the annual meeting, everyone was singing and dancing and drinking in the warm and lively conference room. She was arranged to stand alone outside the door to welcome guests, drinking the cold wind and shivering with cold. This scene happened to be seen by Chairman Zhao Xiankun. Seeing that she was huddled with cold in short-sleeved business clothes, the chairman took off her sweater and put it on her.
Wu Hongmei's eyes lit up when the chairman took off his sweater and put it on. Throughout the annual meeting, so many people went in and out, and no one found her shivering in the wind. Only the chairman saw her and put on her clothes. Never cared about, suddenly cared about, this moment of warmth came too suddenly, but also from the chairman, which made Wu Hongmei feel warm and happy.
Wu Hongmei's cautious personality cultivated her sensitivity and carefulness. When she wears the chairman's sweater, she is afraid of leaving a smell. She washed the chairman's sweater all night and dried it with a hair dryer. Unexpectedly, she blew the chairman's sweater. When the chairman returned the sweater with trepidation, the chairman was surprised to hear that she had been blowing the sweater for three hours and took another look at this special girl.
Perhaps, in the eyes of the chairman, there has been such a person since then. But Wu Hongmei didn't take it to heart or think about it. This matter will soon pass.
Family of origin in Wu Hongmei has parents and a younger brother. Because the house at home is relatively narrow, she has never had her own independent room, so she didn't go back for four years. But when she went back, she wanted to use the money saved by her mother to make a down payment with Xiaobei, but she was told that her mother took her house money to buy a house for her brother. Not only did her mother not give her a penny, but she also asked her to help pay back her brother's house.
She refused, she resisted, but when her parents scolded her loudly, she gave in and became weak. In the original parents' home, there was no warm care and understanding.
Back home, she was forced by her lover Xiaobei to ask her parents for money to pay the down payment. In life, Xiaobei asked her to be frugal to the extreme, and dressing also asked her to be frugal. Hongmei is exhausted by work and life and can't breathe. When Su Xiaoxiao, her best friend, found out, Xiao Dafang lent her a down payment of 300,000 yuan, and told her that she didn't have to pay it back in a hurry.
Finally, with the down payment, she and Xiaobei quickly paid the down payment. With the help of his good friend Su Xiaoxiao, Wu Hongmei joined the reform team, and his salary increased by 2000 yuan. Wu Hongmei was so happy that her boss stopped picking on her and her salary went up again. Wu Hongmei is in a good mood.
The anxiety in her heart was put aside for the time being. Wu Hongmei happily went to buy a dress, but Xiao Bei criticized her for spending money indiscriminately. Xiaobei told her that although the house was bought, it still needs to be renovated in the future, and there are a series of places that cost money, such as weddings, having children in the future, and educating children to go to school, so we still can't spend money indiscriminately. The fun of buying clothes is gone.
Working in a big company, others wear fashionable clothes, but she wears rustic clothes. Every girl has a love of beauty. It's really not an exaggeration to buy a dress, and she hasn't bought a new dress for a long time. Even if you buy clothes, you choose discounted products to buy.
She thought she could buy clothes by buying a house. Who would have thought that she was criticized by Xiaobei again, and her heart collapsed. In order to obey Xiaobei's concept of economy, she didn't take the subway, but went to squeeze the bus. The bus was so crowded that she was jammed by the doors.
She knows that she will live with Xiaobei all her life, and she will live like this. Xiaobei will restrict her from buying any clothes, consuming delicious food and choosing the mode of transportation.
There is no affirmation and encouragement in Wu Hongmei's life. She is pushed forward by others and always accused by others. Even though she works under her best friend Su Xiaoxiao, Zhao Zong, the deputy head of the team, forced her to hand in the report in advance. Although she resisted, she wanted to defy. However, under Zhao Zong's severe reprimand, she had to hand over the report, and was later scolded by Su Xiaoxiao.
Whether at home or at work. Wu Hongmei was constantly reprimanded and criticized. This is inseparable from her cowardice and inferiority. There is only one person in her life who has been giving her affirmation and praise, and that is the chairman Zhao Xiankun. When she first talked to the boss about the conditions of recruiting an assistant in front of the chairman, the chairman praised her.
The second time was when she helped the chairman tie his shoelaces. The chairman was glad to find that she was so cautious and clever. The chairman gave her a deep look and gave her a positive compliment, which made her feel excited. In her opinion, this little thing can be particularly affirmed by the general manager.
When the reform group was established, Wu Hongmei was affirmed and praised by the chairman for the third time. She cleaned the meeting room and put it in order. When the chairman came in and found her alone, he praised her at the right time, saying that she had tidied up the conference room well and arranged it well. Wu Hongmei knows that in this world, no one has ever discovered her strengths and affirmed her efforts. Only the chairman gave affirmation and praise.
If the president's affirmation and praise gave her a warm heart, then the president put on a sweater and sent her home after working overtime, which made her have a good impression and expectation for the president and more dependence.
When she was sure that she didn't want to live like that with Xiaobei all her life, she resolutely left Xiaobei and went to the chairman.
Wu Hongmei is not a material girl, let alone a girl who worships money. If she is a girl who worships material and money, she would not have chosen Xiaobei at the beginning, and she has suffered so much with Xiaobei.
But her lack of warmth and affirmation. When Zhao Xiankun gave her affirmation and praise again and again, it inspired her confidence to create a life on her own. She seems to have found an oasis in the desert, with hope and a goal.
Zhao Xiankun attracted her not power and money, but warmth and affirmation. Wu Hongmei's work is not affirmed. Xiaobei can't give her affirmation or warmth in life. Xiaobei only gave her the concept of restriction, how to scrimp and save.
When a person is cold for too long, warmth comes, just like meeting spring. People who have stayed in the severe winter for a long time, how can they not be happy when spring comes? How can we miss this warm season? I think this is the case in Wu Hongmei.
The last straw that crushed Wu Hongmei was not the poverty that restricted life at first sight with Xiaobei, but the warmth and affirmation. For her, she needs warmth and affirmation, and life has hope and meaning.
In real life, how many parents have high demands on their children, educating them in a critical way all day, telling them not to do this or that in front of them every day, and finally making them rebel and resist.
Nowadays, many young people are unwilling to live with their parents when they are out of society. It is also because they live with their parents, who blindly use their outlook on life, values and outlook on life to ask their children to do according to their standards, so that children can live in criticism and accusation forever. Therefore, once the child has the conditions, he escapes from his parents' life circle.
Give each other affirmation and praise in time, and let others live in a cheerful and pleasant environment. Who would run away? After Wu Hongmei fled, she chose to stay with the chairman, because the chairman always encouraged her, praised her, recognized her and affirmed her. Let her feel the meaning and happiness of life.
Giving warmth and affirmation is the best way to keep loved ones and relatives around.