I just want to know why 90% of marriages are not blessed by the woman's family.

At the door of No.3 boyfriend's house, the adults started chatting sentence by sentence, and the scene was very harmonious. But as soon as they left, I fried the pot behind them. Mom said, you are not married yet. Dad said, what kind of marriage can you talk about under such conditions? It was just a slap in the face. Even grandma said, this is still a child, too immature. There are more boring reasons. Without spring, the year of widowhood has come. After the New Year, we will be 25 and 26 respectively. As "children", we are also helpless. Go to Ting Jie's house for dinner at noon. Her mother smiled and said, "Never mind. As the woman's parents, I can tell you that 90% of the woman's parents are unwilling. " At first, I didn't take it to heart. Looking back, it seems that this is really the case. Last year, I went to be a bridesmaid for my best sisters. She is a Beijing girl, married to a corner of Hegang in the northeast. Although both of them are college students, the man's family bought a house in Beijing, but the woman's family still suffered as much. There was no festive atmosphere in the whole wedding. That woman's mother has been telling my sisters all kinds of problems she may face in the future. It seems that her daughter will never be better off than before she got married. At that time, I also told my mother with emotion that things had already happened. That was the happiest thing in my life. Why should I make my daughter so sad and everyone unhappy? I didn't expect things to happen to me. That makes no difference. I remember some time ago, a classmate studying in Peking University complained to me that his girlfriend in Beiwu wanted to break up with him because of her mother's interference. I introduced them to each other. Privately, I always think that they are the love in the city, and they are a good match. But the woman's mother thinks that he is still a student and he has nothing. He can't help his daughter in career or life. If he marries such a person, her daughter will definitely suffer in the future. So I insisted that my daughter break up with him. A 25-year-old boy is working hard in Beijing alone. What can he have now? Is a graduate student of Peking University incapable of living a good life in the future? Then the others are still alive. Well, maybe the parents' setting is that no matter what kind of man the daughter follows, it is hard in short. Marry a rich man, you will be bullied, marry a powerful man, you will have no status, marry an ordinary man, you will sleep on the street, and you can't afford to raise children. I really want to ask this mother and all parents why you can only see the present situation and then assert that the future must be miserable. Why is it so difficult to get a blessing of "I wish you all the best in the future"? If anyone can see success, then Yu won't have a girlfriend who can't catch up, and Han Han won't have a chance to ridicule his teacher who hit him with words. Everyone always smiles happily when they hear that people who look down on others are satirized by successful people, and never think that they may be like that. No one is qualified to look down on anyone, and the person who picks up garbage in the street is also worthy of respect in personality. Maybe the person who is hit by your ridicule today will step on you tomorrow. At this time, don't blame others for trampling on your self-esteem, because in his eyes, you are no longer worthy of respect. Ok, digression, digression: During the conversation, a friend of Peking University told me another story, that is, her girlfriend's classmate was dancing in the North. Tsinghua, the girl's boyfriend, graduated and they have a good relationship. The man just started to work, and his annual salary is 200,000, but the woman's parents don't agree, asking her daughter to marry an uncle with an annual salary of 700,000, saying that this will be happy. The last two people finally broke up. I don't know if a girl will marry an uncle with an annual salary of 700 thousand, but I know that only she knows whether she is happy or not. Regardless of parents' opposition or support, no one can live for you and each other for a lifetime except yourself. Since everyone has chosen their own path, they must go by themselves. We can't predict the future now. Why are parents so unhappy now? Since today's pain can't change tomorrow's happiness, why make your eyes so nervous. Everyone is happy to face it now. After returning home, I asked my grandmother, do you have my mother now? "no! We never supported her to marry your father. " Grandma said firmly. Think about my sister and my classmates again. I can only laugh. The woman's family will never support it. It is said that menstruation failed when she was looking for her first husband because of strong opposition from her family. Later, another failed her. She found a husband that the whole family now feels useless, or my grandmother arranged it herself. But I have to spend my menstrual life with this husband myself. Can she still blame introducing her mother? Even if it's strange, does it work? Therefore, in fact, no matter how adults interfere, it has no substantive significance except adding trouble. The road of life can only go on by yourself. Think carefully and think hard. Among the people around me, I have only heard of two happy and proud marriages. A pair are seniors in their thirties, and their families are going crazy. Later, she got pregnant before marriage, and her mother was very happy and ran to Beijing to take care of her. The other pair is that my mother proudly told me that my daughter found two at the same time and brought them back for me to help her pat the board. Who did she end up with? Thought of here, I seem to understand something! It turns out that all we need is a reference, or the absolute advantage of the other side. A son-in-law who has no reference will always bring pain. Because his reference object is a god-like existence in the hearts of the woman's parents. And once parents think that their daughters are getting married, they can get married as long as they are men. Otherwise, the future husband you bring home should be not only good-looking, tall and handsome, but also capable, ambitious and smart. The family's economic conditions are much better than the woman's own, and she can buy a house anywhere in the world. Not only that, she has to be considerate and care for others. Most importantly, such a perfect man must be dead set in love with your daughter, which is not perfect at all. However, such a perfect person does not exist. Therefore, boys will always be picky by their parents, and they can't be too ugly (I am a high school classmate and a graduate senior with the same major. Her parents just saw the mobile phone photos and resolutely opposed them, for the same reason), that is, they are incompetent, or have no future, no money, are not sensible, mature, not suitable for their age, are not smart, are not gentle and considerate enough, and are withdrawn ... In short, they want to get married? Wait, we don't think so. Why do most people who have opinions are the parents of the woman? Nowadays, most families are children, and other children are not children. Is your daughter a treasure? Perhaps it is because, in the middle of sexual relations, people in China always think that the woman suffers. Because China's traditional thought for thousands of years holds that men should support their families. But confident parents and traditional men are legal three wives and four concubines. How can you resolutely oppose this? Since you ask men to be loyal and equal to men, there should be no more women who should be attached to men. Since it is free love, why are boys better than girls? Happiness is the most important thing in two people's lives I once saw an opinion poll, in which Americans choose their partners, the first is their hobbies, and the second is whether their personality is suitable, while in China, it is their family conditions, education and other hardware conditions. It turns out that the biggest difference between developed and developing countries is here! In the United States, there are many unmarried men and women of all ages, even many people in their sixties and seventies have never been married, but older unmarried women have not brought great concern to society. They don't think that women can only marry well if they are young and beautiful, but that mature personal charm is the main reason to attract their partners. Moreover, they don't have the dependency like China. When children grow up, they have their own lives and are completely independent of the economy. The woman is even less likely to think that the man's family should buy a car and a house. Writing here, I seem to understand something again! ! It turns out that the main reason for this situation is not only the deep-rooted traditional thought, but also the greatest system since the founding of our motherland: family planning! ! It makes parents lose the position and ability of empathy, and makes the woman's parents never have the opportunity to be the man's parents at the same time. A new concept has emerged: finding a partner and finding a family with twins! Or ..... let the majority of female compatriots who want to get married "have feet on both sides"! Do parents never know how to reflect? Are your father and your husband so perfect when they are in their twenties? In my twenties, I would rather go against my parents' wishes for my lifelong happiness. Have you ever thought that you will be such a parent in the future? Ahem. I will give this document to my future life and pray that I will never have a daughter. (turning)