For women, they always want to marry rich people, but they will be sad if they can't get married. It is a sad thing for a man to want to marry a daughter-in-law but have no money to marry.
Yesterday, a friend asked such a question in the group, "Is a poor man like me who has no house and no car eligible to get married?"
Some people's answers are pure comfort, some people's answers can be regarded as suggestions, and some people's answers are realistic and sharp.
A woman replied, "Yes, a poor man like you really doesn't deserve to get married." Although it hurts to say this, which woman is married now and doesn't want a house or a car? You have no money, why should a woman marry you? Few women are old enough to get married and help the poor. "
A man questioned the woman's statement. "Women talk about marriage and have a house and a car, but you can't marry such a rich man, can you?" Is such a woman qualified to get married? Women can't treat marriage as poverty alleviation, but do men have to bear all the pressure? "
In this case, group conversations will inevitably attack each other and will not be sent. In short, both men and women insist on their own views while suppressing each other's views.
In fact, neither can be strictly measured by right or wrong. After all, different people have different understandings and needs about marriage, especially between men and women. It is difficult to solve this problem with a fixed standard.
A Peng was deeply moved by this difference in marriage views. His marriage experience made him understand: "Marriage needs to talk about money, but not just money."
"Let's get married, my parents agree to hand over the house!"
Peng had a girlfriend who talked for three years, and later married his present wife.
He has always had a good relationship with his girlfriend Xiao Yao. He thought that true love could break through all obstacles, but he didn't expect serious problems when talking about marriage, which led them to break up eventually.
Before talking about marriage, A Peng always thought Xiaoyao was a sensible woman and an understanding woman from the bottom of her heart. However, when two people discuss marriage, she is uncharacteristically not so "considerate".
She put forward many marriage conditions, the key is to buy a house and a car, and there are hundreds of thousands of bride price. These conditions are very stressful for Peng. To put it bluntly, he doesn't have that much money and he doesn't have that much money to sell.
Xiaoyao knows what Peng is. She knew that his conditions were not good, but she also raised so many high conditions. Peng felt that she might have forgotten his family's poor conditions, so she reminded her and begged her to be a little considerate of his difficulties.
He thought Xiaoyao would be as considerate as before, but this time she didn't give in, still insisted on her marriage conditions and said something that made A Peng feel very hurt. "I am married, not helping the poor. If you can't meet my requirements, you can't marry me. "
At that time, A Peng felt very embarrassed and helpless. According to Xiao Yao, they won't get married.
Unable to think of any way, he went home to discuss with his parents. Their family conditions are limited, and they can't come up with that much money through negotiation. His mother decided not to face for mercy and wanted Xiaoyao to lower some conditions.
Peng didn't want his mother to help, but she insisted on going, so he went with her. However, the result is not satisfactory.
Peng's mother actually likes Xiaoyao very much and wants her to marry Peng. She even thought she was her daughter-in-law, so she took the word "daughter-in-law" directly when she spoke. "Daughter-in-law, my family can't afford a house, and I don't have that much money. You can lower some conditions slightly or ask your parents to give some money! "
Xiaoyao didn't give mother Peng any face. She bluntly said: "I'm sorry, you can't meet my requirements, I won't marry!" " "
Xiao Yao's words deeply hurt Peng. He couldn't bear to ask his mother for mercy and took her away.
Afterwards, Peng thought a lot and finally decided to talk to Xiaoyao again. If she never gives in, she will have to break up.
The little devil didn't give in. She even said, "I have no problem breaking up. Anyway, we can't get married, and it's not good for both of us! "
The breakup hit Peng hard. He gave up the little demon and felt it was unnecessary. He has no right to miss it again.
In addition, he has an unwilling idea. He doesn't believe that all women will be like fairies. He chose a blind date and made a decision in his heart. "If the blind date proves that all women are like her, then I will never get married in my life. I really can't get married! "
However, it turns out that not all women are like little demons. He met a woman who is not demanding and willing to share a house with him. This kind of woman makes Peng happy. She only thinks she is younger than Yao Qiang. Because two people can understand each other, hit it off and got married.
At this time, the little demon regretted it.
After breaking up with Peng, she has been waiting for Peng to come to her later. But while waiting, she panicked. She refused to bow her head and admit her mistake, so she went on a blind date, but after many blind dates, she found that no man could accept her marriage conditions, so she decided to lower the conditions and marry a Peng.
She sent a message to A Peng, "Let's get married, my parents agreed to hand over the house!"
She thought she could marry Peng as long as she lowered her conditions, but the reply was "sorry, I'm married."
She didn't believe it, pestering Peng to ask questions and blacking her out. She missed her marriage before she realized what she had done before. But it's too late to regret. Some people will never get it once they miss it.
It's not a bad thing to be considerate of each other when getting married!
Comparing the men and women in the above cases, the final result is the tragedy of women. But it's nobody else's fault. She has only herself to blame.
If she doesn't fall in love with Peng, it is understandable to put forward those marriage conditions only when she is single. However, when she clearly has love and knows that the other party's conditions are not good, she still needs so many high conditions, and that is breaking up.
If she doesn't regret breaking up with Peng in the end, then she is not wrong. But when she finally regretted it, it showed that her unyielding attitude towards marriage was wrong.
In the face of marriage, mutual understanding is not a bad thing. Especially like the lovers above, mutual understanding is good for each other, and there is no need to regret breaking up.
Women can make demands and conditions for marriage, but you should consider whether your conditions are practical. If you don't know yourself, it must be wrong to ask many conditions. If your conditions are not targeted, you don't know how to adjust flexibly, and you don't know any man at all, that is also problematic.
There is nothing wrong with the purpose of a woman's marriage conditions is to get married. But if your marital status seriously hinders your marriage process, then you should stop blindly insisting. It's no problem not to stop until you reach your goal, but if you can't keep it up, it's better to adjust your marital status a little.