1 In life, everyone will encounter setbacks, and moderate setbacks have certain positive significance.
Can help people get rid of inertia and push people forward. Frustration is a challenge and test.
British philosopher Bacon said: "Most miracles beyond nature appear in the conquest of adversity."
The key problem is how to face setbacks.
People want to live more happily, less painfully and more smoothly.
There are fewer setbacks, but fate always seems to tease and torture people and always give more.
I remember reading a story about a pupa on the grass.
It was found by a child and brought home. A few days later, a small crack appeared on the pupa.
The butterfly on her face struggled for a long time, but it seemed to be stuck and couldn't get out. Naive.
The child couldn't bear to see the butterfly struggling in the pupa, so he picked up scissors.
Cut off the pupa shell to help the butterfly shed its pupa. However, because this butterfly didn't pupate.
Before leaving the shell, you have to go through a painful struggle, so that your body is bloated, your wings are shriveled and you can't fly at all.
Get up and die. Naturally, the happiness of this butterfly will last forever with its death.
The land has disappeared. This little story also illustrates a life truth. To be happy, you must
Able to bear pain and frustration. This is a training for people and a necessary process for people to grow up.
There are many factors that cause setbacks. For example, set the goal too high, ability and
There is a gap in expectations, etc. In addition, there are psychological conflict factors. Like a college student.
I really want to concentrate on my PhD, but I'm in love; Reading and love are like fish and bear's paw.
He wants to have both, but the best thing for him is to choose only one, that is, one.
"Two-way conflict". Another example is a man and a woman in love. After several contacts, they felt they should have a talk.
We've talked about it all. What's there to talk about? Two people can only look at me, and I look at you, making it ten.
It's embarrassing, but a person will feel more lonely. This is called "avoidance-avoidance conflict"
When people encounter setbacks, they often feel insecure and it is difficult to settle down.
Work and life will be affected. Then, how should people make progress when they suffer setbacks?
Okay, what about debugging? Here are ten ways to try:
First, calm down, calm down, calm down.
Second, enhance self-confidence and courage.
Third, assess the situation and win by circuitous means, that is, the goal remains the same and the method remains the same.
It has changed.
Fourth, make persistent efforts and persevere. When you encounter setbacks, you should move forward bravely.
Our set goals remain unchanged, and our efforts are redoubled.
Fifth, replace trees with flowers and be flexible. If the initial goal is too high for a while,
It can be changed to an easy-to-achieve goal, which is also an adaptive way.
Sixth, find out the reasons and clear the train of thought. When frustrated, calm down and put the possible production in the first place.
Find out the causes of health, and then find a solution to the problem.
Seventh, emotional transfer, seeking sublimation. You can collect stamps, write,
Calligraphy, art, music, dance, physical exercise and other ways, so that emotions can be adjusted, emotions
Get sublimated.
Eighth, learn to vent and get rid of pressure. Facing setbacks, different people have different attitudes.
Degree. Some people are melancholy, others are hesitant. At this time, you might as well find one or two people who understand your closeness.
Pour out all the words in your heart From the perspective of mental health, venting can eliminate frustration.
The mental stress caused by folding can reduce mental fatigue; At the same time, venting is also a kind of self.
Psychological assistance measures can dilute and alleviate bad emotions.
Ninth, seek psychological counseling when necessary. When people are overwhelmed by setbacks,
You might as well ask for help from a psychological counseling agency. Psychologists will show you affection, reason and guidance.
By doing what you do, you will be guided by good advice, so that you can step into the willow tree from the predicament of "the road without doubt"
The realm of "another village with a bright future"
Tenth, learn humor and learn to laugh at yourself. "Humor" and "self-mockery" are both ways to vent their frustration.
A good way to balance your mind and create happiness. When you suffer setbacks, you might as well use the spirit of Ah Q to win.
Beneficial methods, such as "losing money is a blessing", "breaking money to avoid disaster" and "losing money is a benefit".
Look at your unbalanced psychology. Or "it's hard to be confused" Look at setbacks calmly and use humor.
Methods of adjusting mentality.
In this world, you can't be proud of the spring breeze and everything goes well. You can be open-minded in the face of setbacks.
Even if you are stupid, keeping a calm and peaceful attitude is also a generous understanding of life. One should
If you want to maintain a healthy mentality, you need to sublimate your spirit, cultivate your self-cultivation, save your strength and be humorous.
View. As Marx said: "A good mood can relieve physiology more than ten good medicines."
Physical fatigue and pain. "
I hope everyone's life is like a song! But who can not experience setbacks and failures? I think: success is a whole, and failure is a missing part of the whole.
Frustration and success are hard-won, so why not use them as a driving force for progress and a weapon to overcome difficulties and face challenges again? After all, the dark days always have an end, and the sunshine always comes after the storm.
Life is a long journey. There are smooth roads and rugged paths. There are brilliant flowers here, and there are also dense footsteps in Qi Jing. Everyone will encounter setbacks in this journey.
Everyone has a different view of losing. And I think the so-called loss is the frustration in life, you know, it is inevitable! Just in that confused and inaction day, I wonder if you have seen the pine and cypress standing upright under the haze and the twinkling stars on the night road; I wonder if you have ever thought that firm faith can overcome failure.
Losing doesn't mean you are worse than others; Failure does not mean that you will never succeed; Losing doesn't mean that you have come to the end of your life. Smart people tell you that the end of failure is often the starting point of success. As long as you dare to face up to failure and work hard, you will certainly pick the flower of success-the wonderful flower in the distant horizon. Life is like a rushing sea. Without islands and reefs, it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves. If you lose, be motivated by failure! Young people should have a broad mind and never care about trivial trauma.
Even if life has 1000 reasons to make you cry, you should come up with 10000 reasons to smile at life. "No matter whether it is windy or rainy, it is better to walk around." Only in this way can we maintain a balanced mentality, go through all the hardships with our own fighting spirit, and go forward with the pride of "catching the moon in nine days and catching turtles in five oceans".
Regardless of prosperity and adversity, we must face it calmly; Regardless of gains and losses, we must accept it calmly. I think this is the way of life of our young people. I think the road is right under our feet. No matter how bleak the past is, no matter how prosperous the future is, all the past is based on the present, and all the future is based on the present!
Losing is not terrible. In order to pursue our ideals, we should fly and accept the baptism of wind and rain. In order to realize our lifelong dream, we must fly to meet the spring breeze and the rising sun. Although our fragile wings may be hurt, we must fly far away.
There are many opportunities to stand up in life.
Respect heaven and love others