Suddenly I received a classmate who invited me to a hotel for a drink 46 years ago, and I was at a loss.
At eleven o'clock that morning, the monitor of that high school classmate called and said that he had arrived at the gate of my community. I hurried downstairs and arrived at the gate of the community. I saw him with five high school classmates.
A group of five of them went to my house for a while and asked me if there were any good restaurants nearby. My wife is a warm-hearted person. She immediately contacted a restaurant with her mobile phone. After drinking a cup of hot tea, the classmate monitor will go to the restaurant contacted by my wife and wait for two classmates on the way.
No sooner had we sat down in the dining room than two classmates arrived. For forty-six years, it is rare for nine students, including me, to sit in the box of a restaurant and drink.
Everyone sat together and greeted each other warmly. I know the details of eight students: four students retired from the police, and the director of the police station with the lowest position retired; Three students are retired middle school teachers; The classmate monitor retired from the power grid, and my husband and wife retired from laid-off workers. They all mix better than me.
When I drink, they are very enthusiastic about me, and I can't see what they mean. Everyone had a good time drinking this wine, and they were a little drunk. For the next few days, I have been thinking: monitor, in the memory of the happy and carefree students who passed away, I only spent a few hundred dollars, so please let us get together with some students who are better at school.
1978 A female classmate who had never contacted me suddenly called me not long ago and claimed to have a reunion. As soon as I listen, this is a good thing! However, considering my special relationship with her (mainly worried about my wife's misunderstanding), I asked how many people would attend that day. She said that she would come as long as she was free in Xi 'an, and the stone in her heart fell to the ground. I took this opportunity to catch up with them and maybe expand my business, so I expressed my willingness to keep the appointment.
After work, I arrived at the appointed hotel on time. After I came in, my eyes glanced around. I didn't find my classmate sitting at a table. I wonder if I am in the wrong place. I quickly took out my mobile phone and walked to the door. Suddenly, I found her sitting in a chair against the wall at the door, with her back to me. She was the only one in the seat, a couple, and no other students.
The more you think about it, the more wrong it is. Actually, I quit. She turned to look at me and looked at me. She stood up and waved to me. I had to bite the bullet and walk over and sit opposite her.
After sitting down, I found that she was beautifully dressed, which was a bit more mature than when she was at school. I don't believe it, but I just stay in appreciation, so I dare not think much, because I know she has a family, too.
After a few pleasantries, he asked the waiter to order and open the menu. She specially selected a few dishes I like to eat and smiled and said, "Look, after all these years, I still remember what you like to eat."
That doesn't sound like what a married woman should say. These words are full of ambiguity. Plus sitting face to face, I can't help blushing and my heart beating. I can only smile and choose not to say anything.
After ordering, she took the initiative to talk about how happy she was at school. Me, like a comedian in a cross talk, she added a sentence during the pause.
Suddenly she changed the subject and talked about her family. Tears welled up in her eyes without warning. She told me sadly that her husband had a woman outside behind her back and beat and scold her when he came home. He put up with it for several years and divorced last year.
Her facial features are tall and delicate, and the pear flower with rain is even more charming. It is estimated that no matter which man, he will arouse the desire for protection, but reason still prevails. All she can do is hand her a tissue.
When the waiter began to serve, she put away her tears and apologized to me: "I'm sorry, I didn't say sweet words to anyone after the divorce, which made you laugh."
I waved my hand: "Nothing, it's comfortable for people to say something. We have been classmates for so many years, and no one laughs at anyone. "
She: "Thank you."
Me: "You're welcome. All the dishes are served. Eat while it's hot. "
To tell the truth, I feel even more puzzled psychologically. Calling me out wasn't just a complaint, and she didn't say anything about rekindling the old relationship. At that time, I became a confused monk and simply ate quietly.
When I was eating, she kept putting vegetables in my bowl, and the idea came up again. She doesn't really want to get back together with me, does she? She made a fuss about not catching the fox, and deliberately removed the bowl. To ease the embarrassment, she said, "I can handle it, don't worry about me."
She pouted and smiled: "Your wife has never done this to you!" "
Her sudden joke made me blush to the neck, and my heart affirmed my previous thoughts. In order to dispel her thoughts in advance, I said seriously, "Although we talked at school, it's all in the past. I have a family now. "
As soon as her voice fell, she smiled more brightly, but she soon recovered her seriousness, and her face was more serious than mine. I realized that she showed her true colors. Sure enough, she turned her head and looked at me with begging eyes, saying that she had some trouble doing business with her friends. The best-selling goods were suddenly unsalable, and all the money was in them. She was once short of money.
I asked her what kind of goods she could ask her friends for help, but she refused to answer directly. She also said: "I can't lie to you as an old classmate for so many years." As long as the goods are sold, I will return the money to you immediately and get an extra 20 points. "
That sounds really tempting. If it was put in school, I would believe that she would go to the moon. But after all, we have been groping in society for so many years. What kind of scam have you never seen and what kind of lies have you never heard? Pies falling from the sky can only be used to deceive three-year-olds Besides, I haven't seen you for so many years, and you deliberately lied to me. The atmosphere is so ambiguous. After all, the real purpose is to borrow money. To tell the truth, I already hate her.
So I made an excuse and said, "My wife has always been in charge of the family finances, and this matter must be approved by her."
My wife's hands are tight, and my family's borrowing money several times has met with a rebuff, let alone lending money to a woman who once had feelings with me.
Obviously, she had expected that I would reply like this, and her face returned to the original harmless appearance. She smiled and said, "Well, when you get home, have a good communication with your sister. Whether it is successful or not, give me a message and don't quarrel with your sister for me. I will feel very sorry. "
Who is in the mood to eat any more? I'm on pins and needles. I'll make an appointment another day on the pretext that I have something at home.
He nodded in agreement. Just as we all got up, her phone rang. She walked to the cashier while talking on the phone, holding the phone for a long time, and didn't see the meaning of paying the bill. The other customers in the queue were a little impatient and shouted, "If you don't buy it, let it go first." She pretended not to hear.
Seeing this scene, I can only walk up to her, scan the code and pay the bill, and hear a "ding". She grabbed my arm from behind. She put her hand on the other end of the phone and said apologetically, "I called you today and have something to ask you." How can I make you pay? I'll transfer the money to you later. "
I waved my hand and said, "They are all old classmates. Don't be so polite. Whoever pays will not pay. Besides, there is no reason for boys and girls to pay for meals. "
She pointed to her hand and went on talking on the phone. It took her a long time to hang up. In fact, when I paid, I took a casual look at her hand. I didn't read my classmates' feelings on the telephone interface at all, so I was embarrassed to expose her face to face.
When she said goodbye at the door, she didn't forget to tell me, "Go back and discuss it with my sister and give me a definite message."
On the way home, I blacked out her phone and felt it was unnecessary to contact again.
Combined with my experience, students who haven't contacted for many years suddenly say hello for the following reasons.
First, the first thing to do is to borrow money. Many people must have encountered similar things. They usually make up lies or borrow money by hook or by crook. They will definitely pave the way in the early stage. Don't be fooled by these appearances. They did it just to distance themselves from each other. Of course, no one is stupid enough to lend money easily in a few words.
Second, I need your help. After graduation, classmate relationship is the most precious resource around you and me. This kind of resource will accumulate when you go to school. Stepping into society, some people will take up important positions, sometimes it is convenient to help. Seeking common ground while reserving differences, learning is also very common, but the premise is within your ability.
Third, I really want to meet my old classmates and catch up. Few people have this idea, so few can be described as rarity. It should be clear to everyone that the feelings between classmates are very fragile, so fragile that they are just friends. After entering the society for a long time, you will find that the friendship between classmates is simply not worth mentioning. I say hello to you suddenly, but whether I want you to help me or not depends on my own ability and whether it is worthwhile to continue to associate with this classmate.
A male classmate who hasn't contacted for many years after graduation somehow found my phone number. The first thing he asked me was, "Are you married?" God, I was in my thirties and my children were several years old. What does he mean? Think I can't get married?
But I didn't answer his question first. I asked him, "Why do you ask? Do you want to introduce me to someone? " He said bluntly: "So-and-so in our class has not married a wife. I'm thinking of finding someone for him. "
The male classmate he mentioned is kind and sincere, and he is also recognized as a good man in the class. But why don't you get married when you are almost forty? He is not a celibate. In fact, most women judge a book by its cover. His height 1.5 meters is a little over. He went bald at a young age and looked a little anxious. He is ten years older than his age. He stutters when he is anxious, and his family conditions are average, two brothers. Plus, he can't sweet talk to women, which makes him single.
It turns out that my male classmates tried their best to find my phone number just to know if I was married. If I am single, let me make do with XXX. I am very unhappy. Although I know that XXX has a very good personality, it doesn't mean that I have to get married. Other factors should also be considered. There is a very reasonable saying: every time I see a blind date, I know what kind of person I am in the eyes of the matchmaker. Am I almost forty, and no one wants me? Although there are many older women, he certainly didn't put me in the heart of excellent single women and treat me as waste recycling!
I can only say to him, "You called late, so my child can play soy sauce." He said: "don't just care about your own happiness, but also arrange a daughter-in-law for our old classmates!" "
I'll tell you something later. XXX stepped into the threshold of forty and finally got married. Although the woman has a history of marriage, this does not affect their congenial feelings and love each other. Facts have proved that XXX is indeed a good husband who knows how to love his daughter-in-law I sincerely wish them well, but I still hate the boy who called me.
Generally speaking, there are two reasons why students who have not contacted for many years suddenly contact you. First, he wants to tell you that he is doing well, he had a good relationship before, and he wants to be with you. Second, he wants to borrow money from you. If he is ordinary, he won't contact you.
Two years ago, a female classmate of mine didn't contact me for several years, and suddenly called to ask me what I was busy with recently. Next, she asked me to join the WeChat group in our class. At that time, I happened to have WeChat, so I gave her my micro signal. After a while, she added me to the WeChat group of our seven-seven-level ecological class. They registered before me. Immediately, several classmates chatted casually with me. In the afternoon, my classmates abroad talked with me for a long time. Three foreign students sent photos of their grandchildren to everyone. 40 years ago, my classmates were over 60 years old and wanted to be teenagers [laughs]. Mainly on the 40th anniversary of our enrollment, I was away from school because of a project, so this time we had a lively chat on WeChat.
Let me answer this question.
One day, a classmate who had not contacted for many years suddenly said hello. I think it is nothing more than the following reasons:
First, close the distance and borrow money. I have an example like this: from 2065438 to March 2009, one of my high school classmates went to the army to be a soldier, and later I heard that he transferred to my hometown county. I haven't heard from you in about 20 years. Suddenly one day, this classmate didn't know which classmate got my mobile phone number, so he called. On the phone, after talking about some classmates' friendship and work in their early years, I went straight to the point and said that I bought a house in the county and didn't have enough money. I borrowed 60,000 yuan for an urgent down payment, saying it was a temporary emergency and I would pay it back as soon as I had money.
I was a little embarrassed because my son needed money to get married in May that year. However, for the sake of my old classmate for many years, I still lent him 30 thousand yuan. My classmate said to give me an iou. I said no, although this classmate hasn't contacted for more than 20 years, I intuitively know that he won't be the kind of person who swindles money. Besides, my hometown is only 30 miles away from his home, and he is a demobilized army cadre. He won't lose his job for tens of thousands of dollars. June 5438 +2020 10, I was in urgent need of money, and this classmate returned 30,000 yuan to me.
Second, take the opportunity to show off Some students haven't contacted each other for many years, and suddenly call, just saying that life is getting better and better and showing off themselves. A classmate, who became the deputy director of the local taxation bureau of a city, called me one day and asked me to invite some college students to a party. The phone is full of arrogance and ostentation. I congratulated a few words and hung up the phone. I hate such people. Isn't he a place class? What's so showy, awesome and amazing?
I am not a classmate, but a friend or relative. I didn't have a blessing during the New Year. When I say hello, I always ask: Are you there? Then I began to borrow money, saying that I would pay it back when my salary was paid or I had money. I haven't mentioned it for years. I'll take it. I said I had to pay it back in advance. Since I asked for it, I must have something to do. Why can't I think of each other?
I received a phone call around 9: 00 the night before yesterday. It's a strange number, and the other party asked me what I was doing. I said, who are you? Is it the wrong number? He started swearing and asked who he was. I began to feel disgusted at the bottom of my heart and asked him, who do you think I am? He mumbled who you are, and when I heard it, it was my name. I asked him who he was and if he was drunk. He started cursing again. In short, I can't even guess who he is. I started to get angry and warned him that if he didn't tell me who he was, I would hang up. He was still cursing, so I hung up decisively. Looking back, I think that among the old classmates I know well, there is no such foul language. Even people I know very well, I hate this drunken way of making phone calls. In order to prevent harassment, I hacked this phone. I checked the next day, and this number was actually dialed twice.
In fact, like this, I met once. At eight or nine o'clock in the evening, a male classmate called me and asked me out to get together. I am particularly disgusted. Although he had dinner with my brother on business, to me, after all, we are old classmates whom I haven't seen for years, and I hate that he is stupid and likes bureaucratic jargon at school. On this big night, you were drinking, so you asked me this on impulse.
In fact, old classmates like this haven't contacted each other for many years, which shows that your's friendship is not so good. This sudden greeting will certainly make the other party feel a certain degree of vigilance. The most sensitive topic is naturally borrowing money. If you have no money or your friendship is not enough for you, how can you refuse? Don't borrow it After all, this so-called distant classmate friendship is still hanging there, how can you refuse? Therefore, it is basically impossible for an old classmate who has not contacted for many years to borrow money just by brushing his face. You won't borrow it. You just add trouble to your old classmates. Naturally, there are many people who disregard face in order to borrow money, and it is more difficult. I think it's better to forget the classmates I haven't contacted for years. You should have borrowed everyone you know, right? You should know very well that these unfamiliar classmates who haven't contacted for a long time have actually become strangers.
Another female classmate who hasn't contacted for many years suddenly added me to WeChat and asked me to attend her son's wedding. I just congratulated her on not going to the party. She didn't contact me when she got married, and now she hasn't contacted me for more than twenty years. With our weak classmate friendship, what reason do I have to go to the party?
Perhaps, you will say, old classmates are old classmates. Whether they are still in contact or not, as long as they find you for help, they should enthusiastically lend you a helping hand. That's why people think of you when they have you in their hearts. Yes, I believe this. If you have any questions, you will ask your classmates for help, but it must be an old classmate who has been a good friend for many years. We often get together, no matter whether we have dinner or tea together, no matter who has any relationship, our relationship allows us to talk to each other. To put it bluntly, those old classmates who haven't contacted for a long time have long been excluded from the circle of friends by the other party. If we are disturbed again, it will only increase embarrassment.
Of course, there is also a situation where you simply miss your old classmates and want to catch up. However, how to contact is a science, and I will be criticized if I am not careful. If I get that harassing call, I will be blacked out by the other party.
I have met this situation twice, and I have something to ask. I used to be a classmate in primary school. I haven't seen him since I graduated for more than 20 years, but I know where he works. One day, I got a phone call at work. He claimed to be my classmate. After hearing the name, I remembered it was him. After we exchanged a few pleasantries, he said that he came to me for his interest-free loan and asked me to be a guarantor. I certainly can't do it. Even a good friend should seriously consider this kind of guarantee, let alone a person who has not contacted for many years.
The second time, I was also a primary school classmate, but also a high school classmate. I've been together twice since graduation, that's all. This sudden contact with me also asked me to guarantee his loan. Of course I wouldn't agree, so I made an excuse and refused.
The two students met several times after this incident, but obviously they were not so enthusiastic about me. I think so, but I feel a little sorry for them! Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing.
I am a classmate in primary school, and we are still in the same village. We were deskmates in primary school and had a very good relationship. I will go to his house to find him to go to school every day!
I haven't seen you for more than 20 years, and I haven't contacted you in the middle. His parents are gone and the house has collapsed, so I seldom go home and stay at home!
In 20 18, he went back to his hometown and met my mother, saying that he wanted to go to the county for development. By the way, he asked me. As soon as he heard that I was in the city, he asked my mother for my phone number. Then my mother briefly told me about him!
My classmate is ok, and he will say that the three brothers were poor when they were young, and then they went out to work and met a girl, and their family was very rich. After they got married, the girl's family helped him a lot, both financially and at work, because his parents were gone, and they gave birth to two children after marriage. Now mixed up, don't want others. They found another woman to live with outside, and later she did the same.
A few days later, he called me at ten o'clock in the evening, saying that he was now in charge of the county market, staying in a hotel, and asked me to visit him, go out for dinner and so on. At that time, considering that the child was only a few months old and it was inconvenient to go out, I said, why don't you drop by my house for dinner? He didn't come! Later, he asked me to look for him, and I didn't go either.
There are two real reasons. I don't like a man who is fooling around outside and irresponsible to his family, especially a little ungrateful like him! Second, I don't like people who like to brag and drink. I don't think we should play together if we have different views! Maybe there is nothing to talk about when we meet, and it is even more embarrassing.
The wonderful thing is that I ignored him. He likes to play with my dad often, because my dad knows many friends and often drinks together. Then in recent years, he bought a house, got married and had children. We are classmates, and I can't help it. My father likes to give him several gifts!
Up to now, we haven't contacted each other and haven't met again. According to my neighbor, he went out again this year, and he couldn't find anyone or get in touch with him. I borrowed a circle of money before I left, as long as I often played with him in the past two years.
Therefore, people will become, especially after marriage. Since we haven't contacted each other for so many years and don't know each other, don't bother each other, lest we be blocked! Wouldn't it be better to leave a good memory!