1, reasonable self-psychological orientation
It is an important choice and turning point for college graduates to find jobs and obtain employment, which is of great significance to their future career development. As a social group with high IQ, high education and high self-worth, college students naturally have high ideals and pursuits. They often think they are favored by heaven, and many students are full of confidence in their employment prospects.
However, judging from the current grim employment situation, the situation may not be optimistic, and many graduates have not found suitable jobs. Of course, there are various social reasons, but their own psychological problems are also important factors that cannot be ignored. Therefore, it is very important to make a reasonable psychological orientation of self.
I majored in secretarial science. I applied for the position of assistant to the general manager, but the boss asked me to run a business and let me go out with those high school students and technical secondary school students every day, looking at the customers' glances and saying that I wanted to exercise. Once I went to a company to contact business, and I was so ashamed that I happened to meet my college classmates. He looks like a white-collar worker, which makes me feel ashamed. I really wanted to find a place to drill down. From then on, I felt ashamed to do this job and resigned, but I was afraid to tell my family that I had to look for a job outside every day. What should I do now? Liu
For college students like Xiao Liu, in the process of employment, we should constantly adjust our unrealistic employment orientation, don't blindly compare with others, especially get rid of the concept of "face", adapt our psychological orientation to the requirements of job hunting goals, and don't become an excessive idealist, but cultivate our psychological endurance of being down-to-earth and starting from small things.
People who have achieved something in history all started from small things and went to the peak of success step by step. If college students have this kind of psychological preparation when choosing a job, they can overcome the common problem of high ambition and adapt their job-hunting desire to the needs of society. Therefore, college students should first make a correct and comprehensive self-evaluation and have a complete grasp of their major, work ability, hobbies, advantages and disadvantages. Some college students are immersed in the ideal kingdom all day, lacking the evaluation of their own abilities, and often look down on others, which is unrealistic. Because of their high orientation in choosing jobs, they often fail to get high or low, which leads to frustration in employment.
2. Manage yourself with your own strengths.
I have a classmate two years older than me. After graduation, selling insurance in Shenzhen was very successful. He bought a house in less than two years. He said how good insurance is, and I was moved. After graduation, I joined an insurance company. But my performance is very poor, and I don't feel very good at dealing with people and making friends. Although I have been trying, the effect is always bad. Whenever the company summarizes, I feel ashamed. Am I useless? (Japanese) Oda (name); Uda (Arabia); (Germany) Aoda
Some graduates have excessive self-abasement, always think that their skills are inferior to others, and compare their shortcomings with others' advantages, so they dare not take the initiative to improve themselves. In fact, everyone has his own strengths and weaknesses, and the secret of a successful life is to manage his own strengths! I once met such a consultant. He is very introverted and unsociable. But every time he looks for a job, he always chooses jobs such as business contact and product promotion (because he thinks such jobs have high income). As a result, I was repeatedly dismissed by the company for my poor performance, and my self-esteem was hit hard!
Therefore, on the journey of life, if a person stands in the wrong position and makes a living with his own shortcomings rather than strengths, the consequences will certainly not be ideal, and he may fall into permanent humility and depression. Therefore, when choosing a career, we should pay attention to giving play to our skills. First of all, you should not think too much about how much money this profession can bring you and whether it can make you famous. Instead, you should take a career that can give full play to your personal advantages as your first choice, because if you can give full play to your strengths, money can be accumulated slowly; Managing your strengths can add value to your life, and managing your weaknesses will devalue your life!
3. Improve interpersonal skills
Zhou Xiao is a very talented graduate of a key university. His academic performance is good, but his interpersonal relationship is poor. Because everyone pays great attention to grades at school, his arrogant and narcissistic attitude didn't do him much harm. However, after going to work, he can't get along with leaders and colleagues. He has changed several departments, but he still can't adapt. Finally, he had to resign. Zhou Xiao himself felt very miserable, so he came to consult.
Modern enterprises and institutions cannot fight alone, and people's lives can never be separated from the collective and society. If you want to succeed, you must learn to integrate into your own unit, enterprise or working environment as soon as possible, play an appropriate role, and have the ability to coordinate and communicate with superiors, colleagues and other related personnel. This is a basic ability. Maybe the traditional school education didn't teach you in the past, but you have to study again! If a person wants to be accepted by a certain group and colleagues, he must find ways to accept and identify with their values. Personal heroism, arrogance and other attitudes are not acceptable.
After the consultation, Zhou Xiao said with deep feelings: "Good academic performance in school does not mean that you have good social adaptability. It seems that interpersonal skills and the spirit of unity and cooperation are also important components of the survival ability of contemporary college students. I didn't pay attention to these in the past, which is a painful lesson. "
4. How about your hands-on ability?
After graduation, I applied for a foreign-funded enterprise, feeling that my ability seems to be inferior to that of ordinary technicians. I've been scolded a lot these two days. The Korean boss said that high flyers, a computer major graduate, was not as competent as a vocational high school student, so I studied for nothing and my salary was reduced. I feel very guilty and unfair psychologically, but some problems can't be solved. The mechanic's chapter mentioned by the boss is really a ghost. Sometimes I can't work all day, but I get it from him. What the hell is going on here? I read more books than he does! In Xiao Ceng, in the past, college students trained under the traditional education system often reduced their employment opportunities because of their lack of practical ability, which was actually a challenge to our traditional education methods. Developed countries attach great importance to students' practical ability, although they also talk about academic qualifications, but it is not just academic qualifications. With the development of society and the objective orientation of the labor market, the existing concept of simply emphasizing academic qualifications and diplomas in China will be gradually corrected, and the concept of paying equal attention to academic qualifications and skills will be gradually recognized by the society.
One of the reasons why it is difficult for some college students to find jobs is that some college students will enter labor-oriented and operational positions. Employers need workers with both theoretical knowledge and high operational skills, which is what college students lack now. Therefore, they need to keep learning, improve their operational skills and strengthen the cultivation of practical ability, so as to truly adapt themselves to the requirements of society.
5. Balance your mind and be kind to setbacks.
I found that the sentence "Ginger is still old and spicy" is absolutely correct. After taking part in the work, I was appointed as the head teacher. There are many competitions in our middle school, so I feel a lot of pressure. Although I spend a lot of effort and feel good about myself, it is always difficult to compete with those experienced colleagues, who always have the upper hand. In this way, students complain, parents have opinions, and colleagues are cynical. Think of yourself as a famous talented woman in college. Who dares to despise this young lady like this? Now that I am in an ordinary middle school, I have to put up with these cowardice. I think my school and colleagues are too unfair to me. I want to transfer to another unit, but I have no ability, so I feel very painful now. I don't know how to get rid of it. Xiaofeng
Xiao Feng thinks she is a talented woman, but she can't compete with her colleagues at work. Therefore, she will naturally feel jealous and frustrated and feel wronged, which is a very common phenomenon for college students who have just joined the work. I think I am very talented, but I can't get the recognition of my colleagues. Mainly because there is still a certain distance between the knowledge in books and the requirements of the real working environment, I need to adjust my mentality in time, evaluate myself correctly and understand the mystery of how to put theory into practice as soon as possible!
In fact, reading a good book does not necessarily mean that your work will be very good! Because career success involves knowledge other than books, such as "emotional intelligence" and interpersonal communication, it is reasonable that college students will not be recognized by others for the time being when they first join the work.
Frustration and frustration are a kind of psychological experience when people's wishes can't be realized and their needs can't be met. For some college students who have been in good weather, they should be prepared for setbacks before taking up their posts! College students have just entered the society from school, and they have a lot of maladjustment to the society, and their work is often frustrated, so they may feel a lot of psychological imbalance. In fact, the so-called balance is only relative and temporary, imbalance is frequent, and absolute fairness is difficult to achieve. The key is to see how we find the balance of ourselves. Therefore, people, things and things that feel unbalanced should be treated objectively, and don't complain too much, because complaining can't solve any problems. Only by learning from setbacks can we achieve further development in the future.
6. Can you know yourself and yourself?
College graduates should constantly adjust their mentality and know each other. To know who you are is to understand the social environment and work unit where you choose to work, correctly understand the employment situation you are facing and understand the needs of today's society; A bosom friend is to evaluate yourself realistically, understand your personality characteristics, objectively understand your strengths and weaknesses, interests and specialties, and make full psychological preparations! It is unrealistic to expect to find a satisfactory job at once, such as high salary, good environment, strong stability and not too hard work.
In the whole job-hunting process, you should first have a steelyard in mind, adjust your expectations in time and set a goal first. If you don't make progress for a while, you should lower your standards and adjust your subjective needs according to the objective situation, and you can't be stubborn! The first job is sometimes not necessarily the best job for you; What job suits you best can only be determined after a period of personal experience. We also suggest that graduates take advantage of the period before graduation (or internship) to find a counterpart unit to "work", try it, find a way out for themselves in the future, find out their problems and shortcomings in time, and take some remedial measures as soon as possible.
Therefore, if you can have internship opportunities before graduation, it will be beneficial to find a job or exercise your practical work ability in the future. College students should participate in social practice more, understand the current situation of society, and lay a solid foundation for future work. (Yang Fangru, Mental Health Center of Xiangya Hospital)