There is a question on the Internet: "What's it like to be comfortable chatting with someone?"
It turns out that the first key to chatting is to learn to shut up.
Hemingway once said, "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up."
Sometimes, silence is not reticent, but a sign of maturity. And learning to shut up is worth our life.
In fact, if you don't want to be annoying when interacting with people, it is enough to learn to "shut up".
Knowing how to shut up is tolerance for others.
The small department recently won a big customer. In order to boost morale, the boss rewarded all employees in the department for two days and one night in Zhou Bianyou.
As a department assistant, the task of planning this league building naturally falls to Xiao A.
Although Xiao has just worked for two years and is still a newcomer in the workplace, he is unambiguous in his work.
Unfortunately, it is the tourist season. Xiao contacted a number of travel agencies, ran many times, and finally only booked a four-star hotel with a general reputation.
To this end, Xiao Ah explained the reason in advance and apologized.
On the day of check-in, everyone was very happy, but Lao Zhang was sad. I didn't like the remote location of the hotel for a while, and then I said that the sound insulation effect of the room was not good. Anyway, I've been complaining about the poor arrangement of Xiao A.
Later, the outdoor expansion happened to meet with a thunderstorm. It's Lao Zhang again. It's so small. I didn't like the weather forecast in advance, and everyone got wet.
I have been working overtime for several days in order to plan this group building. I was scolded by Lao Zhang at the thought of trying my best and couldn't help crying.
The original happy group building ended in discord.
As the saying goes, it's easy to talk when standing, which probably means people like Lao Zhang.
Always consider from your own standpoint and never understand the difficulties of others. Such people are really too young.
Knowing how to shut up is a sign of maturity.
Some time ago, the rainstorm in Henan Province affected many cities.
Good-hearted people all over the country spontaneously helped Henan, and rich people contributed money, which was touching. Master Ye from Guangzhou is one of them.
Who knows that on the way back to Guangzhou, COVID-19 cases appeared in Zhengzhou, Changsha and other places. After arriving in Guangzhou, Master Ye realized that some cities in the route had been listed as high-risk areas.
Without saying anything, I voluntarily declared the activity track and was arranged to be isolated in the designated hotel.
Who knows, well-meaning netizens put relevant photos on the Internet, and then there was an overwhelming accusation. Someone even found Master Ye's mobile phone number and asked him why he maliciously brought the virus back to Guangzhou.
In this regard, Master Ye was very wronged and shed tears. He said that he just wanted to do his part, and only on the way back did he know that there were new cases in Zhengzhou.
These people who wantonly accuse Master Ye simply don't understand or don't want to know the whole story. They just take a few words out of context on the Internet.
They do whatever they want in anonymous cyberspace, just for a moment's lip service. However, this is a long-term wound for the victim.
You never know what others have experienced, and you can't feel their joys and sorrows, so you have no right to judge others at will.
A truly mature person knows how to grasp the discretion between saying and not saying.
If it can't be handled properly, at least, please keep your mouth shut until you know the whole truth.
Knowing how to shut up can win respect.
Gu Jiegang, a historian, is full of respect every time he mentions the story of his first meeting with his friend Feng Youlan.
Gu Jiegang once went back to his hometown by train. When he was bored, he wanted to chat with the young people next door.
He was a stutterer and stammered, "Hello, are you ... are you going to Suzhou?"
The young man just smiled and nodded, but he was silent.
Seeing that he didn't speak, Gu Jiegang asked again, "Those who went out to study?"
Young people still just smile and nod, not talking.
Gu Jiegang muttered to himself, unless he is mute, he will not speak.
When the train arrived at the station, the young man smiled and waved to Gu Jiegang and got off first.
Gu Jiegang also got up to get off, only to find that there was a note next to the luggage. It says: Hello, my name is Feng Youlan. I didn't talk to you because I stuttered, too, for fear that you might misunderstand me and think I was imitating you and laughing at you. Excuse me!
After reading the note, Gu Jiegang regretted misunderstanding each other. By the time we went out, people had already gone away.
Feng Youlan would rather not talk, making people misunderstand himself than implicate others. This accomplishment is really admirable.
Sometimes, being a listener tests a person's mind and tolerance.
It is polite and wise to shut up when it is time to be silent, and it can also win the respect of others.
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The more people who know how to shut up, the better their personality, and they can communicate with each other with confidence.
Degang Guo once said that the greatest practice in life is to shut up.
From today on, shut up and be a sincere listener.
From today on, shut up and be a measured person.
Starting today, shut up as a lifelong practice.
You will find that the world will be more friendly to you.
Authors: Snow falls without dust, writer, emotional counselor. If you encounter any emotional troubles, you can click on my avatar in the upper left corner and give me a private message. I'll help you analyze and solve it.