"Maduyun" is a familiar name. She used to be one of the hosts of TVBS and later became the editor-in-chief of the magazine. After moving from publishing house to radio host, she decided to go back to school to study her interests and career "psychological counseling" and became a consultant psychologist who dealt with all kinds of troubles in marriage for more than eight years.
Ma Duyun, with an elegant appearance and a clear voice, also stumbled emotionally. After eight years of marriage, she was shocked to find that even if she married a psychological counselor, the collision in marriage needs running-in and collision, just like any marriage in the world. The recently published Marriage Is Ill? Many situations in the book actually reflect the daily problems of her and her husband, and the other half is called "inspirational male god" by her. The following is Ma Duyun's observation and reminder of marriage as a wife and psychological counselor:
Q: Great changes have taken place in career development. Why do you want to switch from the media industry to a consulting psychologist? In the first half of my career, I worked in television, magazines, publishing and broadcasting. I like my job, and I can be like a duck to water professionally. I can play a rational professional role in my work, and my personality is full of sensibility and romance. My family thinks I am "too sensitive" and "thinking too much", and even wants me to get rid of this character. They don't want me to get hurt, but changing my personality is one thing.
The trait of inner personality is an invisible thrust. The opportunity happened when I was the host of Voice of IC and hosted the program "Rose of Love". The audience will call the host to ask questions about gender, intimacy and marriage. I find that I have done so much work, and I especially like the feeling of companionship and listening. But I answered the audience's questions with a guilty conscience. I can only give advice based on experience like a friend. Will this miss others? More and more I feel that I can't get through, so I made up my mind to resign and go to the relevant research institute full-time.
When I decided to leave the media industry and go to Jinan University to study counseling and consultation, all my classmates were younger than me 15 years old! It makes sense to feel out of place and uneasy, but finding a bosom friend and finding the same kind will give you a sense of peace of mind. It turns out that I am highly sensitive and full of sensibility. Some people here are like me, or don't think I'm particularly strange. It's very comfortable and nourishing to chat with my classmates. At that time, I was sure that I had found my own career, and changing careers was also a process of self-pursuit.
Q: As a professional marriage counselor, have you ever encountered any difficulties in your marriage? Of course there is! My husband is also a professional counselor, but he is an "ordinary person" when he comes home. When I first started marriage counseling, I sometimes listened to individual cases about my husband's fault. When I got home, I was suddenly very unhappy, because I found these shortcomings in my pillow! Unhappy in marriage, provoked, and even go home and say to the other half: What's wrong with you?
After many times, the husband said, "Do you want to continue marriage counseling? I can't stand this. I dare not bring my emotions home. Later, when I was consulting, if I encountered a case with a "very similar" personality to my husband, I would sit in the park after work, pick up emotional garbage and then go home.
My husband, too, is 20 years older than me, and he is a senior in consulting business. Before getting married, he felt as reassuring as a tree. I didn't know until I got married that the counselor is also an ordinary person and still quarrels. At home, he is either a teacher, a counselor or a husband. Since he is a husband, he is sometimes a tree, a man or even a child, or a person who just wants to fight for his rights and interests.