How to change the good education for children with violent tendencies in Hubei Province?

Generally speaking, in preschool children, we can often see some aggressive behaviors of children, such as hitting people and damaging other people's property. Some parents and the elderly regard this behavior as a prank, but there are limits to pranks. If this behavior is not stopped and corrected, the result of letting it develop is that children will easily become arrogant and irritable, which is not only not conducive to the healthy growth of children themselves, but also harmful to families, schools and society.

If parents have found signs of violence in their children, they should pay more attention to their daily study and life, especially at school. Parents can't supervise, so they should communicate with teachers more, supervise and educate their children at school and at home at the same time, and get rid of this bad habit as soon as possible. At the same time, we need to see if it is caused by the following reasons.

1. Imitate the behavior of others.

Children have strong imitation ability. In the past, there was a video in which the child was brought up by her grandmother. Because of her age and hunchback, the child learned to walk with her hunchback. If parents in the family can't control their emotions, often quarrel or fight, or often educate their children by beating and cursing, then children will become aggressive in such an environment for a long time. In addition, the content spread by the internet and various media is mixed, including some familiar mobile games that often contain violent content, and some movies, TV dramas and cartoons that children often watch, which children can easily learn to imitate.

2. Frustration caused by setbacks.

Today's children are mostly only children, who have long been cared for, loved and cared for by their parents and elders, and have strong competitiveness and self-esteem. If something is not achieved, it is easy to have psychological frustration. Dollard, an American psychologist, once put forward the "frustration-aggression" hypothesis, and thought that there was a correlation between frustration and aggression. Therefore, if children are always frustrated because of setbacks and can't get their parents' care and understanding, they will release their pressure through violence and other behaviors.

3. Parents' wrong educational methods.

If parents can't form a correct educational concept, it will encourage the development of children's bad atmosphere. For example, children and children compete for toys. After one party gets toys by pushing or hitting others, if the teacher takes a soothing attitude and the parents disagree, the children will think that their behavior is correct. Once such behavior habits are formed, it is difficult to change.

If you find the cause of your child's violent behavior, you must correct your child's bad behavior as soon as possible. You can try the following methods.

1. First of all, parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Parents should set an example for their children and create a harmonious family atmosphere at home. Simple and rude beating and scolding education will make children feel depressed, which will lead to violent behavior;

2. Improve children's frustration ability. Whether in study or in daily life, if the child fails to achieve his goal for some reason, he may be psychologically hit. To teach children to eliminate the adverse effects of setbacks through normal channels, they can seek the help of parents and teachers instead of transferring them through aggressive behavior.

3. Be more reasonable and forbid using force. Let children realize that solving problems by force will only aggravate problems, and attacking others will not only hurt each other, but also hurt themselves. When encountering controversial issues, we must first solve them through communication. If you can't solve it, you must ask for help instead of resorting to force.

Sometimes, boys often have conflicts because of playing games or playing small games, and there are fights between classmates. If it is at school, the teacher will definitely intervene and educate the children. If the child has a conflict outside, parents should calm down first, let the child calm down, and then let the child come up with a solution. If parents are not around, we must tell them to protect themselves first, but we must not take the initiative to use violence to solve the problem.

Although some children are violent or aggressive, they are not hopeless. No matter how old they are, they cannot give up. Parents should cooperate with teachers and schools, actively guide their children and get rid of bad behavior habits as soon as possible.