Xiao Min's parents are very strict people. When Xiao Min was growing up, he was seldom praised, but whenever Xiao Min made a little mistake, he was severely criticized. There are some things that even if everyone thinks that Xiao Min is doing well, but dad will disdainfully say to her, what's the matter? Others do better than you. Over time, Xiao Min also felt that he was always worse than others.
In fact, in life, many female friends like Xiao Min suffered various blows, resulting in a lack of self-confidence, which seriously affected their work and life.
So, how can we make female friends feel confident again? The book "Her World", a series of female psychology books, has given us a lot of inspiration.
The author of Her World is French journalist Elizabeth Carducci and psychotherapist Anna de Montal Lo. In the book, the author starts with the multiple identities of women, analyzes the various restrictions and constraints on women in the present society, reveals the emotional conflicts in women's inner world, and gives the theoretical basis and specific methods for improvement.
In terms of how to enhance self-confidence, the author provides us with four concrete and practical methods in her world.
First, learn to accept compliments and enjoy them.
Many female friends get nervous when they are praised by others. When you hear compliments from others, your first reaction is "Really?" Or "no, I'm not that good." Although my heart is a little exulting, my mouth is always euphemistic and I dare not admit it generously.
Xiao Min is such a person.
She wore a new coat to work and all her colleagues praised it. Instead, she nervously asked everyone, is it too fancy and really suits me?
The leader praised her for her good PPT. Although she was very happy, she said that everyone did a good job. Let the leaders down.
Actually, you don't have to do this. Accepting others' compliments and compliments frankly is a sign of self-confidence, which is not only an affirmation to oneself, but also a positive feedback to the other party, which will make both sides feel happy.
Second, do more exercise and take exercise as a part of your life.
Exercise plays a vital role in cultivating self-confidence. Dopamine and endorphins produced during exercise will make you feel happy. In the process of exercise, instinctively exceeding your expectations can make you more energetic. And the joy after achieving your goal will undoubtedly enhance your self-confidence.
At the age of forty-five, Wei got divorced. At first, she felt inferior and anxious, and didn't know how to face the life behind her when she reached middle age. With the help of her friends, she learned to play badminton. Now playing hearty badminton three times a week not only makes Wei's body better, but also makes a group of friends on the court, and Wei gradually becomes confident and cheerful.
Exercise is like a new beginning. It can bring you satisfaction and help you build a more positive self-image.
Please write a letter thanking those who have said hurtful things to you.
In the process of growing up, we often encounter all kinds of problems, being misunderstood, being scolded and being hit.
In the sixth grade of primary school, Xiaolin's music teacher once said in front of the whole class that she "sings badly." This sentence became Kobayashi's mind. After work, Xiaolin met a musician by chance, and she began to learn to sing.
After a period of study, Kobayashi mastered many singing skills. When KTV friends karaoke, she is no longer a bystander. Kobayashi said that she thanked the primary school music teacher. His evaluation has been stimulating her, making her have the idea of breaking through the knot and getting rid of the shadow, so she experienced the joy of singing.
Ask yourself, what fatal comments make you instantly depressed? If you are slandered by a sentence, please write a letter to the person who said it. You don't have to send this letter to the other party, just write it down and motivate yourself, and you can cross this hurdle.
Fourth, take stock of your skills and talents, reposition yourself and rebuild your inner sense of security.
There are often sudden storms in life, which hit our self-confidence. At this time, you should learn to take risks and reinvent yourself.
Xiaoqing was dismissed by the company because of layoffs. On the day of leaving, when she packed up her personal belongings and left, she felt that everyone's eyes were full of ridicule and disdain, and her heart was full of shame and failure, and her self-confidence was greatly affected.
Under the care of friends, Xiaoqing slowly adjusted herself. She used her expertise in writing to try to contribute to various media. When her articles appear in the media repeatedly, when she gets the payment, her self-confidence is increasing day by day.
Summing up one's past experience and finding one's past successes can encourage oneself well, which is very important for enhancing self-confidence.
abstract
Self-confident people have lofty ideals, believe in their own abilities, and think that they can completely achieve their predetermined goals.
The book "Her World" tells you that as a woman, only by facing up to her own problems, making efforts to improve and making fundamental changes in her consciousness can she become a confident self.