Analyzing the reasons for Wei's previous resignations, interpersonal relationship is the core reason.
Wei said that she likes relaxed and active interpersonal relationships, but colleagues in the finance department are often very serious, so it is difficult for her to make friends. After a long time, she even began to doubt whether she was suitable for financial work.
Two days ago, Weibo's last topic # Is it necessary for colleagues to have a heart-to-heart talk # caused a heated discussion among more than 654.38+04,000 people in the workplace. Around "Do you want to be friends with colleagues", netizens express their opinions.
In the comment area of Weibo, some people advised by personal experience, "Keep three points in everything, and the person you think you can talk to may stab you in the back."
This reminds me of Zhao Zhao's experience in my junior year.
After graduating from graduate school, she applied to an environmental protection company to do technology.
The personnel structure of this unit is quite complicated. Some "old people" are civil servants of the former Environmental Protection Bureau, and some employees in their thirties have career plans. In recent years, all the people who just came in are contract workers like Zhao Zhao.
Being in a foreign land and the great age gap between colleagues in the office make Zhao Zhao feel very lonely. After working for half a month, she finally got to know her only colleague, Meng Jie in the next office.
Meng Jie, who is one year older than Zhaozhao, is a local and bought a suite near his work unit. After Zhao Zhao knew her, she was often invited to visit her home, and sometimes she had a meal by the way. They were like sisters.
Unexpectedly, Zhao Zhao was dismissed as soon as the probation period passed. She doesn't understand that her work has been progressing smoothly and she hasn't passed the probation period in the unit.
When going through the resignation formalities in frustration, HR added a sentence to advise Zhao Zhao to stay away from Meng Jie, and said that Meng Jie's background relationship was very hard, and this inexplicable resignation was probably related to her.
At first, Zhao Zhao thought this statement was ridiculous. How can the best sisters deceive themselves?
However, the next thing confirmed the speculation of personnel-Zhaozhao's WeChat was hacked by Meng Jie, and she didn't answer the phone and hid for several days.
Zhaozhao stubbornly wanted to know what had happened, so she went to Meng Jie's house to stop her. For three days in a row, Meng Jie finally appeared.
In the face of Zhao Zhao's questioning, Meng Jie told the truth: "Why do you get paid more than me 1000 yuan?"? What's the big deal about a graduate degree? I have been working for more than four years! "
It turned out that in the process of getting along, Zhao Zhao spoke his actual salary defenseless, and the income gap made MengMeng psychologically unbalanced, which made Zhao Zhao fired.
Colleagues who used to be close and have nothing to say, because of the wage gap of 1000 yuan, their friendship completely collapsed.
We often overestimate feelings and underestimate the complexity of human nature.
A platform once conducted a survey: What unforgettable things happened between you and your colleagues? What good effects did Ta bring to you?
Ms. Yang, who has made management achievements, said that she met several good leaders in her career, who taught her a lot and tolerated her shortcomings. Even though they are no longer colleagues because of job changes, they still maintain a good relationship and support each other in the same industry.
Based on this experience, Ms. Yang believes that there is real friendship between colleagues, and it is this "workplace friendship" that has made her today's achievements.
Mr. Ou shared that he had never had anything unpleasant with his colleagues in his work for more than 20 years, saying that he had many friends in the workplace.
Mr. Ou said that the reason may be because he is a Buddhist and doesn't pay much attention to interests and power. He thinks the salary is enough to support his life. Plus, I'm tight-lipped and don't like gossiping about others, so interpersonal relationships develop smoothly.
Xiao Zhang, who works in a training institution, said, "My girlfriends all met at work!"
She feels that friends in the workplace can understand each other better than those in the school days, because everyone faces life independently and knows all kinds of difficulties in life and work. And colleagues' suggestions are often more practical and constructive.
Although human nature is complex, many people are full of hope, and feel that it is not that "colleagues" are not suitable for being friends, but that people who are not suitable for being friends bring their own liar attributes. Even if they leave the workplace and meet on other occasions, they will still lie to you once they have the opportunity!
Besides our own wisdom, there is still time to distinguish between true friends and fake colleagues.
A man knows his companion in a long journey and an inn.
Quoting positive and negative extreme cases and returning to the interpersonal relationship in the workplace we face every day, should we have a heart-to-heart conversation with our colleagues? Or should we be as vigilant as facing the enemy?
Xiong Taixing, the manager of Love Raiders, suggested that the best colleague relationship is not a friend, but an ally.
Allies can have proper heart-to-heart, but they should control the bottom line of exposure and draw a safe boundary of interpersonal relationships in the workplace.
For example, if you enter a new workplace environment, you must avoid making shallow remarks. When chatting with other colleagues, you might as well talk less and listen more, be a "high-power antenna", collect more information about others, and learn more about your colleagues' personalities from the conversation.
For another example, colleagues can talk about housing prices in Liaocheng, talk about children's education, and exchange their own outlook on life and the world. The parts that involve your personal privacy, such as the salary exposed by Zhao Zhao in the previous article, as well as your personal family situation and personal background, are all minefields for conversation.
In addition, when chatting with colleagues, you must learn from Mr. Ou and be a "tight-lipped" person to avoid revealing another colleague's information. If you say "I don't know if it's right", don't say it.
If you are unfortunate enough to meet someone who stabbed you in the back, you should not be willing to admit it, let alone tolerate it for the sake of so-called "team unity." True unity is not lasting, but for the benefit of the same group of people.
Look not only at people, but also at things.
Don't get along with colleagues quickly at the beginning in exchange for getting closer, but keep a proper social distance from each other, talk about work first, and then talk about personal education.
In short, when getting along with colleagues, we should follow the rules of "being polite, enthusiastic, hardworking and wary".