We have not been Buddhists for a long time, but the pure altruism advocated by the Ina couple is a better existence than any religious belief.
The Ina couple have been married for ten years. From the initial love period to the indifference period after the birth of the child, to the marriage breakdown period, and now to the state beyond the love period, what have they done right? I was lucky enough to hear their sharing last night.
1. We must first know what happiness is. Where does happiness come from?
Happiness is a kind of inner abundance. People are very satisfied and have been walking on the road of happiness. Therefore, happiness comes from our own hearts, not from the outside world, not from others.
Happiness is what I pay, not what I ask for, nor what I hope the other party will give me, but what I can pay and what I can pay with mindfulness. Once this mindfulness is implanted, there are not so many minor contradictions and disputes between partners. Marriage is to find someone you want to make happy, not someone who can make you happy.
But in reality, most marriages, especially women, have been completely devoted to the family, and their efforts are full of expectations, hoping that the other party can respond and give love. The result must be disappointing, so there will be complaints. When complaining, the relationship will become more and more tense. So, don't complain while giving. Keep your word, don't be mean. Respect each other and let them respect themselves.
Zhou Zeng said in an interview: "Happiness is the combination of a happy family and a successful career."
2. Teacher Yang is very knowledgeable. He shared it in the live broadcast. Why did ancient people worship heaven and earth first when they got married? In the traditional concept of our country, marriage has a very sacred significance, which is formed by the combination of yin and yang of heaven and earth, that is, the so-called "one yin and one yang is the Tao, and the successor is good, and the winner is also human." Since we got married in the spirit of Yin and Yang, the biggest thing is arranged by God. Naturally, we should worship heaven and earth in the wedding, and at the same time, with the help of the ceremony of worshipping heaven and earth, we will make a vow for the married man and woman Qi Mei to grow old together.
Second, worshipping Gaotang is to make both parents accept you and thank your parents for their kindness! Let them bless you! To parents' blessing and inheritance.
Three couples worship: represents a couple's expectation of future life. They hope to fall in love in the future. Be tolerant of each other. It is also the inheritance of the next generation.
3. In the intimate relationship, we should concentrate on protecting ourselves mentally, physically and energetically, and let everything develop in a positive direction. In marriage, being single and loyal is the best protection for yourself. We don't judge from the moral level. Scientifically speaking, your body has a memory. Even if you want to live a quiet life, that kind of energy affects you because of your messy relationship before. You can't stop if you want to. Memories are playing back, affecting your mood, your state and even your judgment!
Maintaining your own stability in the relationship is the lowest cost, the best investment and the shortest road to happiness!
May everything we see be happy!