After Eiko entered the third year of high school, Song Qian prohibited her from participating in all activities unrelated to the college entrance examination, and let her drink medicated diet and eat sea cucumber to supplement her nutrition on an empty stomach. Eiko likes astronomy and wants to apply for Nanjing University, but Song Qian insists that she apply for Qingbei. On the surface, their mother and daughter are happy with their filial piety, but in fact, there is an undercurrent of quarrel. Because Song Qianjing often used "one cry, two troubles and three complaints" to force Eiko to obey her. From the perspective of emotional blackmail, many of these behaviors belong to emotional blackmail in the name of love.
In the latest play, Joe was forced to jump into the sea and watched her cry at the top of her lungs: "I just want to escape from you!" " When, also can't help but follow sad. The biggest feeling is: why do so many parents always do things that you can't accept, or deprive you of your hobbies, or even make you suffer in the name of being good to you; More ironically, they finally moved themselves. In the plot, I saw Ji's family feel numb when they saw the wall full of "I hate", but the horror is that such families can be seen everywhere in reality.
No matter what kind of "emotional blackmail" is "killing one thousand and losing eight hundred", it is not a healthy parent-child relationship. Susan Forward provides some practical routines against emotional blackmail and some non-defensive communication skills in emotional blackmail. If you are also suffering from emotional blackmail in real life, you must read Emotional Blackmail to teach you how to rationally and scientifically stop the deepest harm from your loved ones, so as to build a harmonious parent-child relationship.
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