In the past two years, Li Xueqin has become popular, and her attention is comparable to that of some big-name shallow pool stars, because I like to watch Li Xueqin's talk show. Her talk show is not only a series of cheap hilarious jokes, but also an absurd way to embed ideas and convey opinions, expressing a mentality of contemporary young people.
Do I have to get married after I'm 30? On the discussion of this topic, I think many young people have been troubled by it. If you are not married at marriageable age, you will feel distressed and be forced to get married by your parents, relatives and friends. The work pressure from people around you makes you so anxious that you have the illusion that you must get married after 30.
Do I have to get married after I'm 30? Li Xueqin, a talented woman from Peking University, said to you.
At Li Xueqin's adult world defense conference, Li Xueqin mentioned this topic and said, "Getting married is a very, very crucial thing. You need to tell this man everything. You need to share half of this man's property. Everyone should work together to create the next generation. What's more, when you are already unconscious on the operating table, you have the right to decide whether to have another operation, which is equivalent to giving your general life to them. How can you hand over your life because of a data of 30? "
What is the practical significance of everyone getting married?
Not because of a certain age data, I married myself in a hurry, just looking for someone reliable. In other words, if you don't find a relatively reliable person, you might as well be single.
Marriage is not a destination, but who you marry.
Marriage is so crucial that you can't cheat blindly.
"More than 30 must get married? Of course not. Do people feel that they must get married when they are over 30? It's a bit weird to ask such a difficult question today. Your mother wants to get married at 30, and no one will marry me. I think she's getting married at the age of 26. No one. I won't or put this man aside. Am I in charge of this matter? That's not entirely true. If you think you want to get married, you can get married. If you don't want to get married, don't say,' Everyone else is married, I won't get married, and I look weird'. That's not easy. Your own mind is the most important thing. "
What does Li Xueqin mean by this long passage?
When you get married, you don't have to look at how people around you will get married. What matters is your intentions, and your intentions are the most important. You need to follow your heart, not because the people around you make your work pressure look nervous and uncertain.
"Theoretically, I don't think I have anything to do in this world within the scope permitted by laws and regulations."
Many young people will ignore their intentions because of the work pressure of their parents and people around them. When they got married because they couldn't stand the pressure of their parents' work, their marriage didn't go well and they gradually regretted it. So it's not as good as thinking clearly about your intentions from the beginning. What do you think about most? If you think clearly, do it unswervingly. You are not easy to regret it, because you love your own choice.
Li Xueqin is right. "After thirty, I suddenly felt that I could get married immediately and marry anyone. This idea is a bit weird. " Married life is irreconcilable, especially at the age of thirty, let alone reconciled. If you are unwilling and unwilling to enter the marriage life, then there is no doubt that your future life will be very bad.
If you want to understand this, you won't easily put forward the difficult problem of "you must get married over 30".
02
Recently, I talked about "marriage" with my illiterate mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law walked around the community with her daughter in her arms. She met an old woman her age and started talking. After chatting, my mother-in-law realized that the old lady had a daughter who was 40 years old and not married. When she got home, she said with emotion, "You think this woman is 40 years old and unmarried, and there are no relatives around her. Anyway, she has to find a boy to marry, but she can't leave without her children. A woman can live without a husband, but it's really pitiful to have no children. What if she gets sick in the future? Who will take care of her? "
My mother-in-law is 55 years old this year. She has never studied or read a book, and her ideas are more traditional.
"Mom, you look back, she is forty years old. If you find someone to get married at this time, it will mostly be a divorced boy. After that, she probably needs to be a stepmother, a divorced boy in her 40 s, and her parents are very old, and she is caught in a dilemma of unsatisfactory life. She has worked hard to make the boy's family better, and she is likely to be despised by others. She didn't give birth to the baby, and it won't hurt her. My parents-in-law are old. If she marries, she will be the nanny of that family. Serving the old and serving less, in the end, it is still someone else, or there is no home. "
My mother-in-law is puzzled. "It's okay to have another child."
"More than 40 years old, it is difficult to have a child of their own, and you don't have the energy. I have missed the best youth. For her, living alone is the best choice. Even if she can have a baby, she will be almost 70 by the time the baby 18 years old. At this time, children still have to find jobs through cultural education, and everything has not yet been finalized. Can she be taken care of? Even if you can have a child, it won't be her help. It is better to live alone, that is, those sad years. Earn more money yourself and find a better nursing home, but in this life. "
Mother-in-law or a woman who feels that way is so bitter.
I said, "Who will remember who in this life, with or without life?" Nothing is bitter, just look at your own mood and see if you are happy. You think others suffer, but others live freely and happily, and you won't suffer much. You like to enjoy your children and grandchildren, while others like to be free. Eventually, they will all return to the dust. People and people die the same. "
In fact, never getting married and having no children of our own is not necessarily as miserable as we ordinary people think. The key is to look at her own psychological state and how she works hard.
Everyday life is compared with your own situation. Being unmarried until she is 40 years old means that she really can't find the right person. It is better to get married than to find someone casually. It's the best choice for her, and your mother thinks she's sober about it.
Being single is also a kind of courage, so is being infertile at an advanced age, if you can bear it yourself.
I have unmarried women in my thirties and unmarried male friends in my thirties, and I'm still in the process of finding a "suitable married lover" again.
Yue Ling is 30 years old and not married. She said: "I also want to marry myself before the age of 30, but it is really difficult to find someone suitable for marriage. As I get older, I have dated all kinds of people. Do you think no one will say how to get married and have children? Can't live a daily life. If you step into the marriage life with an unwilling heart, then your marriage life is self-evident. There is no doubt about it. I don't live like that, so I'd rather be short than extravagant. Because I don't know when I will be single, if I haven't met it all the time, then being single is a wiser choice than getting married. "
I quite agree with her name. She thinks clearly about "the need to get married" and understands the adverse effects.
Brother Chun is thirty-five years old at this stage, and I think his own level is quite good. There are 985 universities for undergraduates and 985 universities for postgraduates. Their jobs are also very stable, with an annual income of 400 thousand to 500 thousand, and they have a house and a car in Hangzhou. When he left the countryside, he got everything by his own efforts.
Marriage, he also wants to lack.
"I brought a lot of girls, so far I haven't found a suitable one, mainly because it's really difficult to find someone who can chat with you and is suitable for being my wife. The hardest part of married life is having the person you want to marry. I admit that it is inconvenient to marry anyone, but the problem is that if you marry a suitable person, you want to be harmonious and resolve conflicts. If you marry an unsuitable person, you will immediately resist when you encounter difficulties. It is very painful for people to live in a natural environment without affection. The lover of marriage is still lacking. "
They often say, just like Li Xueqin's point of view, don't get married just because everyone around you is married. You need to find out your own thoughts and your own intentions.
Finally, it is the end of the sentence that Li Xueqin said at the beginning: "Marriage is a very, very crucial thing. You need to tell this man everything. You need to share half of this person's property and create the next generation together. What's more, when you are unconscious on the operating table, he still has the right to decide whether you want to have another operation, which is equivalent to giving them your general life. How can you hand over your life because of a data of 30? "