Divorce without consent shows that this mother-in-law is not only strong, but also unreasonable. Although her son is her own, can she interfere or even decide his life at will? Obviously, the old man regards his son as his private property.
The eldest son is his mother-in-law, and he can't say anything against his parents' arrangement. This made his daughter-in-law Xiaoling suffer. If she directly retorts, there will be a big fight, and she may be called an outsider, but she will not be happy if she doesn't say it. What about the mother-in-law relationship?
First, the mother-in-law's irrationality puts the daughter-in-law in a dilemma.
Xiaoling and her husband worked together in the city after they got married. Later, under the persuasion of her mother-in-law, she and the old man went back to the countryside to plant orchards. Although we have separated, the income from the orchard can be planted by her mother-in-law. Because the apple market is good and the income is objective, it is no problem to divide it into tens of thousands at the end of the year.
But by the end of the year, I only gave Xiaoling and them 30 thousand, my brother-in-law took 40 thousand, and the rest of my mother-in-law kept it for herself Xiaoling has grievances in her heart. You know, brother-in-law is fun and likes to spend money indiscriminately. She usually asks her mother-in-law for money, even if she buys a bottle of soy sauce and a box of toothpaste.
When her sister-in-law gave birth to a child, either Xiaoling and her mother-in-law took care of the orchard together. At that time, she got up at 5 o'clock every day and got home at midnight 12. She hasn't seen her brother-in-law for more than a month.
Xiaoling wanted to buy a house and asked two old people to help her with the loan, but her mother-in-law refused. Whatever! Who can afford to buy? . Not long after, my brother-in-law spent more than 200 thousand to build a two-story building, but my mother-in-law took the initiative to borrow 50 thousand and helped pay it back.
Xiaoling's mother-in-law is really too eccentric. In fact, the yard built by my brother-in-law was originally for her husband, and the old house was for my brother-in-law. It stands to reason that the old house should be given to the eldest son. At that time, Xiaoling and his wife felt nothing. Anyway, a person has a house, and they don't care.
Later, my brother-in-law wanted to build a house, and my mother-in-law wanted to go to her yard, saying that the old house was difficult to tear down. Xiaoling and his wife feel that everything in the family is easy to discuss, and these things are nothing, but the uneven end of the bowl of water by her mother-in-law makes her mother-in-law see Xiaoling's reluctance.
However, my mother-in-law actually said that she would divorce if she didn't agree. This makes Xiaoling couple, especially Xiaoling, particularly uncomfortable. Xiaoling blames her mother-in-law and hates her husband's incompetence. She was led by her mother-in-law and brother-in-law. Finally, Xiaoling persuaded her husband to go back to work in the city.
Second, the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mainly caused by men's inaction.
Everyone likes to be a good person in life. When dealing with relationships, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men blindly obey their parents' wishes, but they will fail their wives. Smart people need two heads? Coax? More importantly, we must adhere to the bottom line and principles.
Xiaoling is really angry. Brother-in-law's building repair is a loan from her parents-in-law. The old couple are reluctant to eat and drink, leaving everything to their youngest son. They have no money to repair the house, but they have money to take care of their youngest son's family. Now the old house belongs to Xiaoling, but it has been in disrepair for a long time, and the house has collapsed, so it has to be repaired at its own expense.
Xiaoling was rejected by her mother-in-law when she bought a house. Her mother-in-law in turn gave her brother-in-law a loan to build a house. It is okay for brother-in-law to need money urgently. The key is whether her husband dares to express his opinions and clarify his own interests. His brothers also want to settle accounts and give Xiaoling a statement. After all, there is Xiaoling in the couple's property.
Xiaoling is very wronged. Her kindness to her parents-in-law will never change their sincerity. In fact, when a woman marries, who doesn't want to live a good life? Many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are largely due to the weakness of husbands. At first, she didn't have enough courage to mediate, and some contradictions grew bigger and bigger.
Third, adhere to the principle that women should strive for self-improvement.
I don't think Xiaoling did well in the first place. First of all, since we are separated, we can be together economically when Xiaoling comes back with them to manage the orchard, but the interest relationship should be made clear first. Once the sharing of money is unfair, they will break up early so as not to suffer indignities step by step.
If you are financially independent, you are truly free. In fact, you should see that the eldest son is weak, or the younger son is strong, or the elderly always prefer the younger son. In short, my mother-in-law doesn't treat you like a passerby.
When you meet such a mother-in-law, you should communicate with your husband in advance, make a decision in advance, and then let your husband come forward to deal with her mother-in-law to avoid direct conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Women should be self-reliant and live their own lives.