Huahua is the least likable girl I know: slightly fat, dressed simply, and even rarely wearing makeup, but she has the best sense of happiness: her husband picks her up at work on time every day, gentle and considerate, diligent and capable; The son is lively and lovely, smart and sensible; My mother-in-law dotes on her like a daughter, and her daily necessities, fruits and vegetables are well prepared. Huahua's life full of love often envies the students around him.
Once, several classmates got together, Xiao He joked: I gave you such a good cousin as a husband, and you have to thank me for a lifetime (Xiao He is an introducer, and Huahua's husband is Xiao He's cousin). Huahua said with a smile, it is because your cousin found such a good wife that she became better than before, but you have to thank me first!
In fact, before that, Xiao He had introduced two other classmates to her cousin. In her words, a good man should "digest internally" because rich water does not flow from outside. As a result, both girls finally abandoned the man.
Classmate A dislikes that the other party's house is a unit welfare room, which is small and shabby. Although it has a car, it's a tattered Li Xia, and it's embarrassing. So he encouraged his cousin to sell his house and car and add some money to buy a big square meter house. Cousin said that the conditions are not yet available, and it will take several years. So, the two parted ways.
Then, my cousin kissed classmate B, who is a typical perfectionist. It is said that the first time I saw each other, I stepped on a pair of high heels of ten centimeters. As a result, I could see at a glance that the hair on that man's head was no longer thick. Md, you are bald before you get old. Besides, this height, girl, I wear shoes 1.7 meters, and the other person glances from head to toe. Visually, this fellow is almost up to standard. Ahem, although uncle and Lori are more suitable, this is obviously uncle's standard.
After a listless dinner, the cousin went out.
However, when my cousin went to see Huahua with an almost desperate heart, things got better. Huahua didn't ask her own small square meter welfare room. When he deliberately lowered his head and fiddled with his steak for a long time, he found that the other party didn't frown because of his "smart head". On the contrary, the more we talk, the more speculative we are, and the more we want to talk. When they parted, they agreed on the time for the next meeting.
In this way, in the long run, the two fell in love.
Three months later, the two married in a flash.
two
Until now, they have almost never blushed in their marriage for nearly ten years. In the past ten years, they have owned a second house and two private cars in their lives, and this cousin's career is getting smoother and smoother, and his status has soared.
And former classmate A, now 35 years old, is still struggling on the road of being single. In her words, not to mention a man with quality, even a particularly normal man can't be fished out.
Classmate B finally found a handsome boy two years younger than himself two years ago. Small fresh meat looks really handsome, but he only has this pair of skins left. After two years of marriage, Xiao B turned himself into a woman, grasping outside and grasping inside. I can't help it, but the perfectionist met an embroidered pillow with a high eye and a low hand. Can I do it myself?
three
There are girls to talk to. Do women choose partners? How can they find the right one without choosing one? Therefore, students Xiao and Xiao B are right, but they are lucky. The ugly cousin they happened to meet is a potential stock.
Actually, it's not. Where can you be born with a good life? Some women's so-called "good luck" is only based on their acquired keen observation and thinking ability, and they have achieved happiness beyond expectations.
When I once talked to Huahua about the topic of marriage, I heard her talk about how she approached happiness step by step. In her words, I can't help but be deeply impressed by her wisdom. It turns out that only such a girl deserves the best home-
1 ? Have their own unique vision.
What do you look for in a man? In the eyes of about 10 thousand girls, there will be 10 million standards. However, there are some mined areas that need special attention:
1) "Find a rich man" ≠ Happy marriage. Simply looking for wedding sister papers for "rich people", most people will be hurt by money
2) Handsome appearance ≠ Inner beauty
Although you are appearance-oriented, don't neglect other aspects of your partner because of external factors when choosing a husband. Otherwise, it's useless to find an embroidered pillow.
So, how can we cultivate our own unique vision? Learn to judge whether the other party is a potential stock from the details of getting along.
Speaking of which, Huahua is very emotional:
I remember when we first dated, when he talked about some interesting things about his parents and his younger brother when he was a child, his eyes were full of warm love, and his tone was soft and gentle, so I judged that he must be a kind man with a sense of family responsibility.
As soon as he talks about his hobbies, he talks endlessly, running, climbing mountains, playing ball games and fishing. I can talk to you endlessly about every item, so I think he is a person full of enthusiasm for life, and the people cultivated by these hobbies must be interesting and calm, so he will definitely bring happiness to people around him.
When he talks about his work, he doesn't talk about his lofty ideals in general, but specifically about his short-term goals, which shows that he has no ambition, has clear and practical goals for his work, and is a person who can make a difference in the future;
More importantly, he didn't deliberately hide his shortcomings. When he generously showed his bald head to others, his expression was calm. How confident a person can do this confidently shows that this person is not simple.
After listening to the above analysis of Huahua, I can't help but marvel at myself: this guy, seemingly calm, turned out to be a girl with a deep heart.
2 ? Don't look, just "wait"
Here, Huahua tells the story of a female writer's later life with deep affection:
In the early 1990s, Tie Ning visited Bing Xin in the rain. Bing Xin asked, do you have a boyfriend? Tie Ning replied shyly: Not yet.
"Keep the change and wait." 90-year-old Bing Xin said to Tie Ning.
At that time, Tie Ning was 35 years old, which was the most difficult time for gold leftover women. This sentence of Bing Xin's old man is like a wake-up call, which makes the impatient Tie Ning calm down and enjoy the beauty of being single.
Until Tie Ning was 50 years old, she met her current husband, economist Watson, and had a lot of anecdotes.
"Don't look, wait" doesn't mean that you are in a passive position in the search process, but that it is not easy to find the "right one". Therefore, no matter how embarrassed you are, you should greet love with a natural attitude. On the contrary, you will be more likely to meet happiness.
A girl said I was lonely and cold without a man.
That's good. There are many ways to relieve loneliness, such as writing, reading, drawing, playing ball and training, to see what you like. Isn't it said that being single is the best appreciation period? It is true, even clear.
How nice it is to manage yourself and meet love with a better attitude under the condition of stable mentality!
3 ? Don't hide when you meet true love, but rush.
I just told you to "wait". Then, when your Mr Right finally comes, you must win decisively.
My classmate Ruhuahua spent three months with her big cousin, and then won each other quickly. Is this the result of impulsive disregard? Of course not. Because you have a good impression on each other when you get along for the first time, make sure that the other person is the one you need. So "slow and steady" is a must. Even if you take the initiative, create more opportunities for two people to get along alone, so that the other party can get more points for themselves, so that this relationship can blossom and bear fruit more effectively.
Therefore, girls, sometimes, not all good girls can have a good home, but those girls who have brains and are good at thinking will know how to create happiness for themselves.