1, emotional dissatisfaction is the first inducement.
It's time to stop talking about men stealing sex. Only 8% of men said that dissatisfaction was the main reason for their cheating, while 48% of men thought that emotional dissatisfaction was the primary reason for their cheating. "Our culture has always believed that men speak with their lower bodies." Newman said: "But in fact, men are also emotional animals. They want their wives to appreciate them and women to understand their efforts to do everything well. " The problem is that men, unlike women, seldom talk about these feelings, so when your husband needs a little affirmation, you may not feel it. Newman said: "Many men feel that seeking comfort from others is detrimental to masculinity, so their emotional needs are often ignored." "But you get the feeling that most men feel guilty when they cheat.
Most men feel guilty when they cheat.
According to the survey, 66% of men feel guilty when they cheat. This conclusion is a bit scary: it's not just shameless bastards who steal vegetables. Newman pointed out that, in fact, 68% of cheating men never thought they would be unfaithful, and almost everyone wished they hadn't cheated. But obviously, guilt can't stop a man from cheating. Newman explained: "Men are very good at dividing emotions. "They can suppress an emotion (such as guilt) and deal with it later." So, even if your husband swears that he will always be loyal, don't expect that to come true. It is very important for you two to work together to get the ideal marriage.
A good friend who has had an affair will add fuel to the fire.
Among men who cheat, 77% have a good friend who has an affair. Hanging out with friends who steal vegetables will make men feel that this kind of derailment is normal and logical. His subconscious told himself: My friend is a good man, but he just happened to betray his wife. Probably even good people will inevitably cheat. Newman said, it's hard to forbid your husband to associate with Mr. Gourmet, but you can advise them to spend their time in places with less temptation, such as exercising and eating in restaurants, instead of going to bars or dance halls. Another strategy: make friends with happy families who share your values and establish social circles-this will create an environment that protects marriage.
4. Women who admire men are most likely to be the objects of their infidelity.
40% of cheating men meet another woman at work. "Usually, he steals food from women in the office who appreciate him, respect him and praise his efforts." Newman said. "This is another important reason for' making him feel valuable at home'." Fortunately, when your husband feels too comfortable at work, there will be obvious warning signs: if he praises or mentions a female colleague too much, far more than mentioning a male colleague, then it is time to touch your sensitive tentacles-define the scale of interaction between colleagues and him. Is it acceptable to work late if it's just him and her? Will they travel alone because of the meeting? Have dinner together to discuss a project? Ask him how he feels if you do these things with your male colleagues.
5, the object of a man's infidelity is not better than his wife.
Only 12% of the cheating men think mistress's body is more attractive than his wife's. In other words, men are unlikely to cheat in order to get better sex from more beautiful women. "In most cases, he steals food to fill emotional emptiness," Newman said. "He has feelings for another woman, and sex follows." If you are worried about his infidelity, you should concentrate on making your's relationship more sweet and intimate, instead of just caring about whether the other person is physically satisfied and whether his sexual life is fresh enough. But you also need to understand the importance of sex life-it is an important way for your husband to express his intimacy and love for you, so please make sure that this matter has a certain priority in life. )
6. There are always some clues before men cheat.
Only 6% of cheating men had sex with another woman on the day or night they met her. In fact, 73% of men cheat after knowing another woman for more than a month. This means that you can see the warning message before he betrays you-you can even foresee it before he cheats. Pay attention to these common signs: he is getting farther and farther away from home, he no longer wants to have sex with you, he travels more frequently, and he will hang up on you. Your first reaction may be to question him, but most men will deny it or even claim that he never wanted to steal food-especially before having sex with her. However, Newman's advice is to manage what you can control-your own behavior-and lead your marriage to a better situation.
Don't hesitate to praise him, give priority to your time together and be more active in sex. Give him a reason to put you first. Tell him frankly how you feel about marriage (again, never mention another person. ) Try telling him: "About our relationship, I think we are losing something important, but I don't want them to disappear." At the same time, pay close attention to your's relations and do something to keep it good.