This sentence is often heard in psychological counseling training. After three months of training, some psychological counselors got the second-class certificate and read several psychological works. I wonder where they got the courage to consult independently! Although I am a cautious person, I will not pass several months of training, read a few books and consult independently. But I think there will be exceptions. The school teachers haven't trained in the past few months, and they haven't read any psychological works. They are still excellent in dealing with students' problems! Why can't there be exceptions?
I have a complex. Always believe that talent and diligence are greater than experience. An excellent teacher will be sharp-edged and heroic when he first becomes a teacher. An ordinary teacher, no matter how many years and times of training, is an ordinary teacher after all. The same should be true of consultants, but today's independent practice makes me deeply feel powerless as a consultant.
When I first learned psychological counseling, my position was to help solve the problems of primary and secondary school students. Because I always think that solving students' learning problems is my strong point, it is just around the corner to become an excellent consultant to solve primary and secondary school students' problems through hard work. Today's consultation undoubtedly brought me pressure.
Five times in four days, three of them were observers, which made me feel good. After sharing the observation results, psychological counselors and visitors asked me to use psychoanalysis to help them solve their own problems or friends' troubles. After I explained my qualifications and experience to them, they still insisted that I be a consultant. I think this is recognition and encouragement, which makes me full of confidence. The feeling now is that the society is full of people who need psychological counseling, and it is difficult to solve the problem!
I have been telling myself to solve students' problems and not to get involved in other problems, especially marriage and family problems, because that is not my strong point! But the current cognition, the so-called student problem, is ultimately a marriage and family problem. It seems that my positioning is no problem, but achieving the goal is far from simple. It is my character to work hard and face difficulties!
Today's consultation, facing the troubles of visitors, endless troubles and helplessness after repeated efforts, can't realize the expectation of a bright future, which brings me a crazy feeling and makes my mood particularly heavy. What can be done? Comfortable? Comfort can solve the problem, but what should a counselor do? Besides, I have always had a bad impression on people who are good at comforting people. Comfort can sometimes solve immediate problems and sometimes act as a catalyst for emotional outbursts. Even if the current problem is solved, it is also a seed for the next problem, but the parties don't know who planted it. The visible effect is that the parties are extremely grateful to the comforter!
What the hell can I do? Before the consultation, I was full of confidence, shattered by reality, and expected the problems that would arise in the consultation. I didn't play cards according to the routine, and my thoughts were chaotic. Bad feelings, untimely self-opening, respect for superiors' mentality, self-made explanations and unacceptable emotional reactions filled the whole consultation process. I don't know how disappointed my teacher is to see this level of establishing consulting and visiting relations!
Unexpectedly, at the end of the consultation, I suddenly heard that the sound quality of the visitors had changed. The consultation process is full of frustration and helplessness, but at this time it has become a faint pleasure and a sense of hope. The heavy mood brought to me in the consultation process has been relieved a lot at once, which has brought me a little comfort. It is often heard that form is greater than content, and it is often echoed that it is reasonable and reasonable. Today, I want to reconsider this sentence. Even if it is not perfect, it has a directional influence.
Before the sharing was over, two appointments floated over from mobile QQ, and all kinds of worries before sharing suddenly disappeared without a trace. Rehearsal means recognition of yesterday, and a sense of accomplishment arises spontaneously! Haha, the defects of personality are exposed. Someone asks for help, readily agrees, and then tries to keep his promise! Type nine personality, which one do I belong to?
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