Question 2: Talk to boys on blind date. As a girl, you can be reserved ... the scene should be opened by boys!
If you need to take the opportunity to understand the situation of boys, you can talk about family and work ... if you have the opportunity, you will contact his family and work.
Question 3: What is the topic of blind date? Introduction: The topic of blind date is actually quite simple. First, we can introduce ourselves to each other. If the other party knows something about their work or has relevant experience, we can exchange views. If you have any questions or are unclear, please ask. Don't be embarrassed. There is a specialization in the industry. There is nothing wrong with modesty. After talking about work, we can talk about each other's hobbies. How do you usually spend your boring time? What activities do you like? If you think the conversation is speculative, or you like the activities and hobbies that the other person likes, it will be easier. You can enthusiastically ask each other if they have time to play badminton and climb mountains together on weekends, so as to pave the way for the next date, which can further strengthen understanding and make each other feel better, at least not feel like a nerd! Many boys and girls don't know what to talk about when dating, and they don't know what to say when eating with strangers. These exchanges are actually skillful. Sincerity is the most important thing in interpersonal communication. Talking about hobbies, food and childhood anecdotes can increase your familiarity and make it easier for others to remember you. It's just that the two sides have different hobbies, and the work is not related for eight generations. What should I do? At this time, are you depressed and distressed about chatting with your blind date? Suddenly I found that time seemed to have stopped and my head was blank. Why is it so difficult to improvise? The other party is silent, even serious. Is it embarrassing if you can't find a suitable topic for blind date at this time? Why not talk about references? Introduce how smart their children are, how cute their dogs are, and how friendly the references are. What? I haven't known the references for two days ... What were we talking about on a blind date? Sincerity is the first priority of interpersonal communication. Especially for men and women who are dating for the first time, sincerity is the first step to develop intimate relationships in the future. The so-called sincerity should be an undisguised confession, but it may be too abrupt and give people the impression of being too active to confess immediately on the first blind date. None of the words "blind date" are beside the words, which shows that this speech is actually not the key part of blind date. When we meet for the first time, we mainly look at the appearance temperament, manners and demeanor of both sides, as well as the reality and the situation introduced by the introducer. Speaking rarely adds points, but speaking badly sometimes happens. If you have no confidence in your eloquence, on the premise of avoiding silence, you'd better talk less ―― if you feel good at first sight, you'll have plenty of time to talk later. Talk about hot news, changes in hometown, siblings' study, popular movies, where they have been, where they plan to find time to play, which scenic spots they have been to, the farthest places they have been to, how upset their parents were when they were in college, what housework they like to do at home, what they are best at cooking and what they are worst at cooking. Remember to ask each other's skills and bring them up in time. If the other person really asks when to go to his home to try his craft, it's up to him how to deal with it! It is easy to identify and avoid embarrassing topics, don't mention emotional experiences, and don't mention any sexual topics. Family scandals and personal physical disabilities are all questions that should be avoided when talking with normal people. Nothing fancy, but sometimes a casual sentence is the most common situation. Sometimes, the differences between the two sides are so great that it is embarrassing to sit together and say anything, which is even more irrelevant. On the special occasion of blind date, it is easy for friends who are dating for the first time to be nervous on the spot and have to worry about whether it is appropriate to find a topic on blind date. When they are nervous, they will stutter, even break into a cold sweat and shake their hands. Remember to have a normal mind and treat each other as old classmates, so that the mentality will naturally be much more peaceful. Maybe the other person is more nervous than you. If the mind is not nervous, this person will naturally feel more intimate. If we can be fearless in times of crisis and guide appropriate topics, blind date will be more than half successful.
Question 4: I am a girl. What should I talk about on a first blind date with a boy? The man will take the initiative to find a topic to talk to you. You usually ask about work, the nature of work, hobbies and so on.
Question 5: What should I talk about with my blind date? Since it's a blind date, your focus should be on getting to know each other.
Background, personality, including the other person's bottom line, etc. And let the other party know everything about you as soon as possible.
Don't be afraid of embarrassment. Now that both of you have decided on a blind date, you should realize that the other person is likely to accompany you for life. Knowing each other is the most important thing. Know as soon as possible whether the other person is your type. If not, is it possible to be friends? If not, say goodbye to each other, of course!
Don't waste time on things you don't know. This is a suggestion.
Question 6: What substantive topics should I talk about with my blind date? Too many parents will make the other person think that you are an emotional dependent. Once you encounter unpleasant things in the future, you can complain to him! Under this negative psychological defense, few people are willing to have in-depth contacts with you. On the contrary, when we meet for the first time, if we only scratch the surface of personal situation, we can leave a mystery to each other and look forward to meeting again!
2. Always give the other person time to speak and fully respect his right to speak.
Social psychology research found that 27% of unsuccessful blind dates stem from the embarrassing situation that one party talks too much and the other party is speechless! In life, people with opposite personalities can also become lovers, girlfriends or blue confidants. But for the first time, the two sides are not familiar with it. Everything should be based on the principle of absolute fairness. I suggest that you leave as much time as possible for the other person to talk during the conversation, so that people can feel that you are considerate and equal. Humor is the most important thing in chatting. Blind date is a drama. Even if there is no ending, at least we should make the blind date as enjoyable as possible and make it a "comedy" instead of a "boring drama". But we must grasp the scale, otherwise it is not good to be empty talk.
Step 3 focus on the other person's "triangle"
Psychologists call it the "focus area", which is a triangle formed by taking the other person's eyebrows as the top angle and two cheekbones as the bottom angle. When talking to the other party, if your eyes have been drifting away from this "triangle", it will leave people with the feeling of being strongly concerned and becoming the focus, which will make people feel good about you! On the contrary, if you stare at the other person's eyes, it will make him hostile from the beginning.
4. Quickly find the intersection of each other.
If the person you meet is very different from your experience, and the thinking mode is completely opposite, and you can't find the same topic, you should repeat the other person's point of view appropriately to show that you share his position. In this way, the other party will feel self-satisfied and have a good impression on you!
5. Try to reduce gestures and spoken language when speaking.
Casual gestures and words will reveal your inner feelings. If the other person is proficient in psychology, your nervousness will be caught in an instant, thus losing a series of advantages and initiative.
6. Lower your strengths and attach importance to each other's expertise.
Don't just show off your strengths, it will make the other person feel depressed. You can ask more questions about his hobbies and specialties, which will also arouse your desire for new topics and communication.
7. Avoid talking about heavy topics
Don't get to the bottom of it in order to improve your understanding, and don't be curious about lovelorn, breakup, unemployment and other issues. Even if you are really curious, please wait until you are more familiar with it.
Please smile in the sun, and then smile.
The real smile is not as simple as the upturned corners of the mouth, but the relaxation of muscles. The study found that the infection effect of grinning is nearly 30% higher than that of grinning. Don't worry about your irregular teeth. 70% of Asian men said that they like girls who often smile and have small tiger teeth! And women like to see the sunny side of men.
9. Be bold and make your own profound actions.
Just like Julie and Pete, men are always so vicissitudes and women are always so gorgeous. In fact, you can also have your own profound movements, but don't be too artificial. If you really can't find a good signature action, you might as well give the other party a deep back. Girls need to be coaxed, but boys should not be too impulsive. If it's not a matter of principle, it doesn't hurt to make concessions first. Boys must strive to be broad-minded and inclusive, so that girls have a space to create small emotions. If you really encounter a big problem, calm down first and then seek a solution.
10. Trust the first sense and amplify the sixth sense.
When the first feeling tells you that the person in front of you is worth continuing to associate and get along with, you should enlarge your sixth feeling in time. When both the first and sixth senses work, you should know what to do next Some boys think that if you hold male chauvinism and ask girls, the other party can't run away. Boys with this idea tend to ignore girls' own ideas. No matter what occasion, we should respect girls' ideas and don't interfere with each other's choices too much. No matter who you are, you won't ... >>
Question 7: What is better to talk to the blind date? This is usually a question that boys think about. Why are you so active? Listen with a smile.
Question 8: What should I pay attention to when chatting with boys online on blind date? As a person who has the same experience as you, I had this problem at night, and it all went away in the end. However, I later saw an explanation. Because two people didn't meet face to face, they didn't dare to ask many questions and didn't know each other's likes and specialties, so there was no topic, and it was the same with phone calls, which would lead to silence. In other words, you should meet. After meeting, there will be more topics. Only by getting to know each other better can we chat.
Question 9: What should men and women say when they meet for the first time? Men and women who meet for the first time may be confused and don't know what to do to become a successful blind date. The following is the specific process and precautions of blind date. Don't talk big when you meet for the first time.
When boys and girls meet for the first time, no matter which side, try to say: Stop it, stop bragging. The best state is: awkward, giving people a very comfortable feeling, feeling that this person is very cultivated. Last week, when I asked the man with a question on a blind date, he always answered irrelevant questions and unconsciously extended the question. Obviously, he asked him: I take the liberty to ask who introduced our aunt to you. He
To sum up: whether a person has self-cultivation or not, the first contact is with words. Or one of the most important factors in blind date.
Wearing clothes for the first time.
Boys and girls must pay attention to their clothes. Once they met a man wearing a down jacket in winter with an empty cotton sweater inside, which gave a very bad impression. Everyone likes to be respected and valued. If so, they will definitely deduct points for blind date. Girls, too, will dress themselves up beautifully. No matter how you look at it, the result of plain face will only make men dull. Remember: men always like beautiful women, and women always do.
No matter what you look like when dating, you must pay attention to your clothes. Last time we talked about dress, now let's talk about how to dress appropriately. First of all, you should dress according to the season. Whether you are a boy or a girl, don't blindly follow the trend, and don't wear any clothes of Hari Hahan. Don't wear professional clothes. Of course, you can choose the former under the age of 25 and the latter over the age of 35. Or not all men are suitable for wearing pink shirts.
When you meet for the first time, avoid talking about your parents.
Today, I will introduce the taboo words in dating: Try to talk less about your parents when dating. Why? Talking too much will make the other person feel that you are not mature enough, and secondly, you will feel insecure with you. If you are a man, you will be associated with 24 filial piety. If you are a woman who wants to be king at home in the future, you can sum up one sentence: If you want to fail in blind date early, then move your parents out. Nine out of ten sentences are about parents, and the tenth sentence is about them. Congratulations, you will be eliminated by T.
Generally speaking, people who meet on blind dates should know something about their parents and family. There is no need to ask them when we meet for the first time. You can't help asking: Are your parents still working? Click here. There was once a GG who said: at home, parents' words are imperial edicts. It is absolutely unpleasant and even disgusting for a 30-year-old to say such a thing.
Suitable topic for first blind date
There are often problems with TF. Since there are so many things you can't say or mention on a date, what should you say? In fact, when we meet for the first time, we should talk about each other's work as much as possible. For example, you can introduce where you work and what you mainly do. This is usually said by men first. First, MM can understand what you do. Second, MM can also observe your speech through this. TF said that my job is poor and my income is not high. How can I express it well? The method is simple. You can just say: I think young people should practice more. I will read some similar books or study in my spare time. The following TF is free to play, but one thing is that this is only applicable to TF under 30 years old. If you are a male TF over 30 years old with a low salary, you need to put it another way. See tomorrow's post for details.
Time control of first blind date
It is often important to control the time of blind date. The best time to meet for the first time is about two hours, and 2-4 pm is the best. Why? For one thing, lunch has already been eaten, and for another, this election will not be too expensive. According to psychology, when men and women meet for the first time, the best time for them to talk is about 1 hour, because they usually decide to meet again after the first time. I'll talk to you tomorrow about the choice of blind date location.
The prologue of the first blind date.
Today I want to talk about the prelude of blind date. Many times, when men and women meet for the first time, they always like to ask: Have you eaten? Is it convenient to come over? In fact, such words should be placed in the third and fourth sentences. The first and second sentences should be: Hello, nice to meet you, with a natural smile when you speak. Don't underestimate this sentence. It's far warmer than how I feel about you. It's not that you can't say those words, but that you should speak some natural languages on this occasion. > & gt
Question 10: What do you want to talk about when you meet a blind date boy for the first time? First of all, introduce yourself when we meet for the first time, briefly talk about work, daily life and tell some jokes.