When Ms. Tang is middle-aged, she feels that the greatest happiness is to marry her lover and her children. Ms. Tang has all these. Ms. Tang's husband is a manager of the enterprise, and both of them are children of cadre families. My daughter went to college in Australia, worked there after graduation and got married. I will come back to see them during the Spring Festival or the holidays. Now that the internet is developed, Ms. Tang and her daughter usually call, chat and video. After retirement, there was nothing to do, so Ms. Tang raised flowers, cooked healthy meals and danced with her sisters, and her life was very moist.
Ms. Tang and her husband have always been very loving and are model couples in the eyes of many people. Some time ago, Ms. Tang also heard from her sister that she had a relative who was old, her husband was still cheating, and there were people outside. Ms. Tang was surprised and happy, and her husband only had her in his heart.
After returning to China, Ms. Tang did not intend to mention it again. Unexpectedly, her husband admitted to cheating for more than half a year and filed for divorce. Ms. Tang's soul seems to have been taken away I can't believe this is happening to me. Soon he moved out to live with a third party. How did Ms. Tang send him a message to save him? He was indifferent, just saying that she had had enough of Ms. Tang. Ms. Tang completely lost her clue and found happiness to help herself.
The process of helping to restore happiness:
1. Separate the third party
After 1 month counseling, Ms. Tang has a new understanding of husband and wife. A third party harassed her husband, causing him to be injured. Her husband was adamant and broke up with the third party completely.
2. Healing of extramarital trauma
After 1 month counseling, Ms. Tang's emotional state has greatly improved, but it is still unstable and prone to conflict with her husband.
Improve the communication between husband and wife.
① Heal childhood trauma and accept the limitations of yourself, your parents and your husband.
Because of her family background, Ms. Tang has a low sense of security and value, and is often in a defensive state of self-protection. She is very strong at home and often blames her husband, which makes him feel frustrated.
By interpreting the traumatic events of childhood, reconciling with her mother and feeling the love of her parents, Ms. Tang has been helped to improve her self-confidence and become a woman with high self-esteem and security.
At the same time, knowing that everyone is imperfect, the most important thing is: I have done my best at every moment; I can be better than yesterday every day.
2 know how to appreciate yourself and your husband and become a confident, optimistic and attractive woman.
Give Ms. Tang the homework of "Feeling of Love" and insist on writing 100 days: write down three advantages of herself and her husband; And spend a little time every day writing down three things that make you happy that day.
In the feeling of love, learn to appreciate yourself and your husband's advantages, and strengthen his sense of value and existence at home.
(3) Improve communication methods and enhance the ability of love.
Express your feelings in a consistent way, understand and tolerate your husband; Know how to express your thoughts in positive and effect-oriented language and interpret your husband's words and deeds; Know how to use questions, respect husbands, send invitations, and let the husbands of big men scramble to do housework. Know how to use empowerment language, affirm her husband's efforts, and support the old open and innovative cause.
It is not terrible to encounter a marriage crisis in middle age. If you encounter a marriage crisis and don't know how to solve it, you can seek the help of a legal and formal emotional counseling agency.
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The so-called love is having someone who can easily control your emotions, making you cry one second and laughing the next. True love is like this: when you are old, you will still remember the way you excited each other for the first time.
Teacher Sasha is good at creating happy women and families from the inside out, and has rich experience in emotional recovery, marriage recovery, separation of third parties, intimate relationship recovery, parenting education and adolescent psychological counseling, guidance on marriage and love, and wound healing from families.