There are three children in Uncle Zhang's house across the hall. The eldest is a girl and the second is two younger brothers. There is a strange phenomenon in his family. The youngest child is very unpopular and often quarrels with his parents. His sister and brother also bullied him. My brother, in particular, always punches and kicks this little brother. On one occasion, he even tied him to a chair. The neighbor's aunt couldn't stand it anymore, so she went to their parents, but their parents took it lightly and said casually, "Children are always like this." The poor little son wants to cry, that's all. No one in the family supports him. He repeatedly cried and asked his neighbor's aunt, "Why don't mom and dad quarrel with their brothers and sisters?" Aunt looked at him, speechless.
Yes, the poor child was treated unfairly. Perhaps, parents are not high-quality people; Perhaps, the existence of brothers and sisters has fully satisfied the freshness of parents to their children; Perhaps, his arrival is just an accident, and he has no place in his parents' hearts. Maybe ... but in any case, the child is his own after all, and it is the biggest mistake to be partial to other children invisibly.
Does every family with many children have this problem? Not exactly. Kiki is the third child in the family. She also has brothers and sisters, but her parents have the same attitude towards their children and have no obvious preference for anyone, because in their eyes, the palms of their hands are all meat. With this atmosphere, my brothers and sisters also take good care of this little sister. They never deliberately bully her because she is young, but try to take care of her when her parents are not at home, so the whole family atmosphere is happy. Therefore, how families with many children get along depends on their parents. Many such families are not harmonious because parents have completely different attitudes towards different children.
The same children at home, but they don't get the care they deserve. Children who grow up like this are full of holes in their hearts, and they all say that home is the warmest harbor for a person. The result of parents' preference is that children are resentful and are likely to make bad friends outside. Because those people can give him love satisfaction. For example, the neighbor's third child mentioned just now, he later contracted many bad habits in adolescence, such as stealing, smoking and clubbing. If ........................................................................................................................................ didn't prefer it, would the child develop so viciously?
Therefore, there must be a road behind the car. Everything develops for a reason. As a parent, if you think this is a minor problem, or if you do it improperly, it is a big mistake. Every child's mind needs sunshine, especially nutrients from the family. If you want your children to have a bright future, you must pour love into them.
Parents should pay attention to every child.
Yes, ten fingers are not the same length. Parents will inevitably be biased in dealing with their children. Sometimes, the preference for children is unconscious. When buying an item, what do you like or dislike, let alone a real person. In fact, parents' preference doesn't mean they don't love. Few parents in this world don't love their children. However, from the child's point of view, everyone wants mom and dad to pay attention to themselves. The feeling of being ignored is really unpleasant, depressing and even painful. Therefore, every parent should learn to treat their children fairly, which is also an art. You should make every family member feel that they are visible. Mom and dad do have their own place in their hearts. Many criminal records show that many people embark on this path because they are born in families and lack love.
② Be a man and strive for self-improvement.
There is a saying: "No parents are born to be parents." This sentence is very real. Every couple gets married for the sake of family happiness and harmony, and no one doesn't want their family to be good. Similarly, with children, parents expect each child to blossom and bear fruit smoothly. However, for some reason, your parents didn't treat you fairly. Son, at this time, you need to fully understand yourself. Especially after being sensible, don't blame your parents, no one will deliberately. The most important thing is to face the reality and stand on your own two feet. Being born into a family is only a temporary harbor for a person. To really fight the storm, you still have to walk in the society. Therefore, if neglected, we should study more and improve ourselves. Don't blame your parents, forgive them. No one is perfect in this life.
Some things are easier said than done, and this is the image of people. Perhaps there is no complete right or wrong in this world. I only hope that every family can live in harmony, and what each member is looking forward to and make progress together!