In most people's minds, it seems that as long as you don't jump off a building and go to a mental hospital, you won't have mental illness. As we all know, almost everyone has different degrees of mental illness.
When children complain that they have not been taken good care of, parents will always argue: "Why didn't you take good care of you and lack food and clothing?" I never seem to realize that children still have hearts and need a healthier personality. Love should be more complete and have a different look, but not many people know love.
Psychology allows people to salvage the appearance of love from trivial life and lead people to learn to love and have the ability to love. All this requires self-exploration. In the corner of the subconscious, we can see the gifts and surprises that life gives us.
Sometimes, gifts are presented in the form of pain, or hidden under pain.
People who don't understand psychological exploration and perception can't identify the growth opportunities behind pain, and subconscious conditioned reflex chooses to escape pain. So the pain itself can only be hidden there as it is, or jump out at any time to interfere with normal life. In fact, all experiences can be your resources and used by you.
People, or people, are composed of different relationships, and people live in relationships forever. Psychological exploration is a key to explore interpersonal relationships. Between parents and children, husband and wife, colleagues, friends and so on. Like air, it permeates every corner of life.
It is also like a "willow machete" in the hands of a doctor, which removes the focus and revives the human soul.
Spiritual exploration in the field of psychology is a magical and powerful field, and solving the mystery of the soul is an effective way to get happiness.
Happiness and happiness are the ultimate pursuit in the eyes of the public, and psychological interpretation shows that happiness and happiness are a kind of ability! Good wishes!
Evian Psychology 20 19 July 14
If we want to use psychology to create a better life for us, we don't need to be experts in psychology, and we don't need to be familiar with various schools and detailed viewpoints of psychology. But we must have a general understanding of the views of some major schools, try to integrate them as much as possible on the basis of understanding, and finally know how to use them concretely.
Among the schools of psychology, psychoanalysis (psychodynamic orientation), behaviorism therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, visitor-centered therapy (humanistic therapy) and gestalt therapy are more important.
Among these schools, except behaviorism therapy, all schools focus on cognition and self-rehabilitation or self-growth. In psychological counseling, all psychological problems can be attributed to relationships. In order to gain a better life, a good attitude is an indispensable condition, and these must be implemented in interpersonal or social relations.
In fact, it is our careful observation that many problems in life are related to our cognition. Unreasonable cognition can be summed up as absolute requirements, excessive generalization (generalization) and extremely bad. Reasonable cognition can be summed up as empathy, multi-angle view of problems (comprehensive evaluation) and positive development view.
Unreasonable cognition: 1. Absolute requirement: that is, self-centered belief that something will or will not happen. If I am good to you, you must be good to me. 2. To sum up: take one thing or several things as all the criteria for evaluating others. If others treat you well nine times and fail to satisfy you once, you will come to the conclusion that others are not good to you. 3. Terrible: It is an irrational idea to imagine and infer the possible consequences of things as very terrible, very bad or even catastrophic results. If you fail in the college entrance examination, you think your life is over.
Reasonable cognition: 1. Empathy: consider the problem from the other side's point of view or from another angle. If I talk to him, he ignores me. Most people will think that he doesn't care about himself, but maybe others didn't notice anything at that time, or he was in a bad mood and so on. And he doesn't care about you. 2. Look at the problem from multiple angles. If a salesman fails in a business, we can't say that he has no ability at all. Because although his business failed this time, he was successful before.
3. Positive development concept. For example, we failed in the college entrance examination, but we can choose to repeat or continue studying in other ways.
In addition, in the theory of psychological dynamic orientation, when it comes to the causes of psychological problems, it talks about fixation or childhood trauma or even the subconscious. In fact, these reasons are inseparable from cognitive problems.
In addition, although some theories of behaviorism therapy are extreme, they still have many merits, such as the positive reinforcement method of shaping good behavior, the regression method and punishment method of educating children, and the token control method of encouraging students or businesses to attract customers, which need to be applied flexibly.
There is no shortcut to success, and no matter how you apply psychology, you can't gain a better life.
First, many people study psychology because they are curious about other people's psychology at first, but also about their own psychology;
Second, some malicious people want to understand others through psychology, and want to control others and make them obey him. In short, they want to be the overlord in life and the master.
Third, in order to gain a better life, we must be kind and beware of villains while doing good deeds.
In short, people who want to write big should take the right path, take the right path, do not take advantage of small things, do not covet shortcuts, haste makes waste! A thief may succeed for a while, but a thief will always be a thief and will be unhappy sooner or later.
The heart is like a rock and cannot be changed. To cope with all the changes, choose it (Zhongkang) and follow it!
Psychology, know yourself and accept yourself.
Self-love, self-esteem, self-improvement and self-confidence.
If you love yourself, you can love others and life better ~