What does it mean to be sensitive to inferiority? Suspicion is a very torturous character, which has a lot to do with the growing environment. Many sensitive people always live in an environment and a world of self-doubt. Let's share with you what is sensitive to inferiority.
What does inferiority mean? 1 Disadvantages:
1, I don't deserve everything, because I have no ability to solve it, and fear dominates all emotions.
I think I can never reconcile with myself and it is difficult to overcome the difficulties in my life. Just thinking about it, it will be horrible, and thinking that you won't do that is actually a lack of courage to change the status quo.
I don't accept myself, hate myself and cater to others.
4. Psychological torture. Individuals will constantly show superiority because of inferiority. In fact, I'm just making up for my own shortcomings and worrying that others will see my inferiority.
Sensitivity is sometimes positive and sometimes negative. On the insight into people's hearts, the dynamics of the world are excellent, and on its own fragility, there will inevitably be some adverse effects. Because of sensitivity, I am afraid that others will follow others because they are uncomfortable, because sensitive people will also have great inner conflicts with their own ideas.
6, extremely eager to be concerned, love, even if you don't admit it, at the same time you may not have the ability to love, just want to be loved, want to be supported, and make up for the desire not to be loved by your loved ones in the past.
7, the speech may be floating, lack of self-confidence.
8. The first step is always the hardest.
9, the face is depressed, otherwise. Actually, I'm just avoiding anything that might cause trouble.
10, severe cases may externalize all emotions, and others can see through them at a glance. It leads to inferiority and is more afraid of expressing yourself.
1 1. Keep silent even if you don't understand.
12, it is difficult to insist.
13, used to compare, but not to compare.
Advantages:
1, I may have many hobbies. Just afraid to confess.
2. Be compassionate. Can understand a lot of life truths. A little self-abased and introverted
Some people are suitable for writing, although they are not good at oral expression.
3, gentle and easy-going, but also extremely violent.
4. After realizing their own conflicts, individuals will persist in surpassing themselves and "get rid of the mud".
5, good attention. Make good use of it.
6, delicate heart, can help friends think of things they can't think of.
7, serious and responsible.
8. Reflective ability and analytical ability.
Reason: According to the butterfly law, a deviation will lead to disastrous development. Then you can look back and find the source. The disaster source of people's inferiority complex began after the age of five, the alienation of family ties and the neglect of education. For a long time, without support and encouragement, I was in the position of "I still have a bad life" for a long time, and finally completely lost confidence. Neglected children will do some abnormal behaviors to attract others' attention, use weaknesses to get care and love, and use violence to get attention and psychopathy. This is superiority.
What can I do:
1, self-suggestion, regular small gift reward. When others don't look good at me, I should look good at myself.
2. Take time out of chores, take a day or a few hours off, or think about what you have been thinking for the past few months. (It is to divert attention and enhance one's analytical ability)
3, the persistence of hobbies can also make like-minded friends.
4. Read books to solve mental confusion.
5. "the ruler is stronger and the inch is shorter." If you can't overcome your shortcomings, you'd better play to your strengths.
6. Because the moon also has black spots, it doesn't affect its light. Admitting your imperfections sometimes makes you look cute and approachable.
7. Do something useless once in a while. Don't think about living a tight life. Then go shopping, stay up late to play games, and release yourself from the nervous mood.
8. Be self-disciplined. Although there is no habit of absolute self-discipline. But self-discipline will make your spirit stable, have perseverance and self-control
Will inadvertently give you a kind of courage and confidence. Because most people who have self-discipline are in the minority. . .
9. Also encourage and praise others. Although the words stink, why does the classic really have its truth, because it will form a chain effect. If you do this, others will follow suit.
10, be kind to strangers or friends, and be kind to yourself. Because you don't know that any of your actions may make them want to stay away from themselves.
1 1. Finally, if conditions permit, psychological counseling can be considered for deeper communication and problem solving.
12, improve happiness.
What does inferiority mean? 2. Why are people sensitive?
Christopher Andre pointed out that being too sensitive can lead to three problems.
First of all, people will pay too much attention to the surrounding environment, especially those factors that are not conducive to their recognition, or those that are easy to make others doubt themselves. Secondly, it will make people make unfavorable judgments on even neutral information (for example, thinking that other people's smiles are ironic). Finally, it will make it difficult for people to respond properly to the environment. It is easy to sulk or attack others, which will prevent people from taking correct actions.
Another psychoanalyst, Jean Pierre Venter, also pointed out that overly sensitive people have defects in shaping their own image. "Especially when the daffodil complex and' self-image' are combined, external reactions begin to be harmful, and further adversely affect their own image-building and personality. Once treated unfairly, sensitive personality will make people feel that their existence is meaningless. According to the logic when the daffodil's character is hurt, at this time, overly sensitive people will think of ending their lives. "
Jean Pierre Venter also pointed out that when the words of blame accurately express what these people care about most, the more they inadvertently touch the sore spot, the stronger their reaction will be. "Although it is a simple sentence, the effect can make these people feel stripped."
The sorrow of an oversensitive person is that he doesn't know how to laugh at himself. Psychoanalysis shows that their characters are mixed with shyness, guilt and the desire of self-punishment. Jean pierre Venter pointed out: "Don't forget that excessive inferiority and superiority are essentially the same. If a person thinks he/she is the best, then everything in life that makes him/her feel like a member of all beings will make him/her suffer. "
Second, how should self-sensitivity be adjusted?
1, adjust your reaction
Pay attention to your health and try to express your emotions normally when you want to lose your temper. For example, tell the person who makes you feel uneasy about your understanding and feelings, have a heart-to-heart talk with him/her and ask him/her to explain. Stick to the facts and ask him/her "What's going on?" "Why did you say such things to me?" "What are you dissatisfied with me?" Wait a minute.
2. Don't attack easily.
In order to avoid misinterpreting the words and actions of others, it is necessary to ensure that the information received is true at all times. You can solve the problem by asking others some simple questions, such as: "I think you have been avoiding me recently." Am I mistaken? " Wait a minute.
3. Do some self-tests.
If you feel that life is unsustainable and your daffodil complex has been deeply hurt, you should seek the help of a psychologist. In fact, psychoanalytic tests or psychotherapy can help you understand why there is guilt and shyness in your subconscious.
Third, being too sensitive means feeling inferior.
Being overly sensitive means expressing "I am in pain because I am not respected" in an inappropriate way. Establishing communication with people who are too sensitive can help them solve their inner troubles.
We can say to them, "You have been angry with me since that incident. You seem to be in pain. It's hard for me to watch you like this. Can you tell us something about this? " Don't pretend you didn't see anything, because it's like telling the other person not to trust his eyes ... in addition, you can make full use of self-mockery. Prove to each other that people can make fun of themselves, which will not only kill people, but also help people look at things from a relative perspective.
Too sensitive _ Why do people feel sensitive and inferior? As the name implies, the subject looks down on himself, which is a negative emotional experience. In psychology, inferiority is a kind of personality defect, which is manifested in the low evaluation of one's own ability and quality. Inferiority and complacency are exactly two completely opposite psychological qualities, both of which are common psychological manifestations of young people.
The premise of inferiority is self-esteem. When people's self-esteem needs are not met and they cannot properly and realistically analyze themselves, it is easy to have inferiority complex. After a person forms an inferiority complex, he often goes from doubting his ability to being unable to express his ability, from being afraid to associate with others to being lonely and self-enclosed. The goal that can be achieved through hard work will also be considered as "I can't do it" and give up the pursuit. They can't see the glory and hope of life, experience the joy of life, and dare not look forward to that beautiful tomorrow.
Fourth, how to overcome inferiority complex
1, cognitive method is to treat others and yourself dialectically through comprehensive and objective understanding. People with low self-esteem often have strong self-esteem and self-motivation, and their self-evaluation is highly consistent. When they get into trouble due to improper methods or lack of social skills in their study and life, their self-esteem is damaged and their sense of superiority is seriously lost, so they go from one self-esteem and self-confidence to the other extreme and become a person who completely loses self-confidence.
As the saying goes: "Gold is not full of red, and no one is perfect." Everyone has his own weaknesses and strengths. We should accept our own advantages frankly, but we should not be afraid of our own shortcomings. Without them, our advantages can be revealed. Only in this way can we correctly compare ourselves with others, and when we see that we are inferior to others, we can also see that we are like people or superior. Great men are difficult to climb because you are kneeling and watching. In fact, the most important comparison is the comparison between yourself and yourself. Everyone should establish their own career and life path according to their own interests, hobbies, abilities and characteristics. And strive to make progress, and finally realize the value of life. This kind of life is a positive and meaningful life.
2. Homework inferiority complex is often caused by setbacks in the process of expressing oneself and doubts about one's ability. Students with this kind of psychology may wish to do more things within their power and grasp bigger things, and there will be a kind of joy after each success. Every success is an enhancement of self-confidence. The recovery of self-confidence needs a process, so don't worry. We should start with a series of small successes, express ourselves through decisive success, establish self-confidence, and thus eliminate doubts about our abilities. When expressing yourself, don't expect too much, don't be too hasty, exercise your ability step by step, and gradually replace inferiority with self-confidence.
Most people with inferiority complex are introverted, sensitive and suspicious. Therefore, if you want to express yourself, you must start with exercising your personality. College students with low self-esteem should take part in more group activities, cultivate their excellent qualities such as tenacity, decisiveness and enterprising, and establish self-confidence, so as to gradually overcome their inferiority complex.
3, compensation method-correct compensation for yourself The compensation method is to try to compensate for your own defects with some achievements. Physiological compensation phenomena, such as the blind being particularly bright and the deaf being particularly clever, are common. In fact, people also have psychological and talent compensation ability. Diligence can make up for the deficiency, which can be said to be a psychological and intellectual compensation. Hua said: "Diligence can make up for mistakes. It is a good training, and one point of hard work is one point of talent." Remember: as long as you work hard, you will catch up with others. Secondly, everyone has his own strengths and weaknesses, and we should learn to make up for each other's weaknesses. Alexander and Napoleon were born short, which is their shortcoming, but they didn't feel inferior because of it. Instead, they saw their own strengths and decided to get a commission in the army. After continuous efforts, they all succeeded in the end. Therefore, some of people's defects and deficiencies are not absolutely unchangeable, but depend on whether they are willing to change. As long as the correct compensation object is found, on the one hand, we can overcome our own defects, on the other hand, we can also mention compensation.
4. Comprehension method-psychoanalytic comprehension method means that college students with inferiority take the initiative to turn to psychological counseling teachers for psychological counseling and psychoanalytic treatment. With the help of psychological teachers, the key point is to find out the deep-seated reasons of inferiority through free association and memories of early experiences. After psychological analysis, the master realized that the reason why a person has inferiority complex is not that his actual situation is very bad, but the crux hidden in the depths of consciousness. Obviously, people with low self-esteem will feel that it is unreasonable to be influenced by the shadow of past lives, so that they will feel suddenly enlightened and finally get rid of the shadow of low self-esteem.
5. Hinting-Self-encouragement Hinting is a way for individuals to help themselves through positive self-suggestion and self-encouragement. A man's self-evaluation is actually a hint to himself. Has a lot to do with people's behavior. Negative self-suggestion leads to negative behavior, while positive suggestion leads to positive action. Everyone's intelligence is not too different. When we do things, we should constantly hint to ourselves that I can certainly do what others can do. Always believe in "I can do it" and "I can do it well". Success strengthens self-confidence; If we fail, we should not be discouraged. We might as well tell ourselves that "victory or defeat is a common occurrence in military strategists." I will figure out a way slowly. "
6, successful personality training method-self-training inferiority people often show inappropriate personality, such as introversion, not interacting with people, sensitive and suspicious. So we might as well have a successful personality training.
Its specific practices are as follows:
Find four acquaintances at random, ask them what they think of you, determine whether you like their answers, and judge why you like or dislike the impression left by others.
Second, determine what role you would like to play if you were an actor and why you like this role.
Third, choose a person you admire and list his characteristics and qualities that you admire.
Fourth, combine the second and the third into the personality of your choice.
Fifth, change what you don't like in your image, behavior and personality, and strengthen what you like.
Sixth, show your new personality.
What does it mean to be sensitive to inferiority? 3 the performance of children's inferiority complex
1, children are sensitive.
There is a kind of children who are very concerned about the evaluation of their parents, classmates and teachers. A casual remark can affect him for a long time. This is actually a sign of self-distrust. If this sensitivity affects his normal life, his mother will pay attention to it and need to enhance his confidence and divert his attention.
2. I want to be noticed, but I am afraid of being noticed.
A child with low self-esteem is not confident in his ability. Sometimes when others show it, he will feel that he is not as good as me, but he will not take the initiative to show himself, because he is afraid of others' disdainful eyes. In the face of failure, he can only hesitate in the hope of being concerned and the fear of being concerned. When the child is always inactive, the mother needs to pay attention to the child's heart. Has he already felt inferior?
3, the eyes are very timid, like to be alone.
Confident children always like to be lively, and only in the crowd can they feel the embodiment of their sense of value. On the contrary, children with inferiority always look around and dare not look directly into each other's eyes. When encountering disputes, they always like to follow the crowd and prefer to be alone. Such children have some communication barriers and dare not get along with others. Their inferiority complex is quite obvious.
4. Dare not express dissatisfaction
If children dare not express their dissatisfaction, they are always calm on the surface, and it is easy to give people a sensible impression. Look how smart and sensible the child is. In fact, he is afraid to vent his emotions, regardless of expressing his true feelings. When others are angry, he will choose to forbear and put himself in a depressed state.
5. Please type your personality.
The deepest sense of inferiority is that you can't see your own value and don't believe that you can win the love and support of others. Therefore, you should forbear yourself as much as possible and make yourself transparent, but you should be attached to others, and you will habitually please others and prove that you are needed for gregarious. But the more I do it, the less I know what I want. For a person with such inferiority complex, encouragement is useless. Helping him find a sense of value is often the most important thing.