Because "recovery agency" itself is a neutral word, if you want to ask, it must be that the fraud agency is unreliable and the professional agency is reliable. But the fraud organization is completely imitating the superficial model of professional organizations, so how do you tell?
Many people have consulted my recycling agency, and I don't think many people know this industry better than me. I don't want to denigrate anyone, but I hope that the living space of fraud institutions is getting narrower and narrower, which is a little pollution to this industry. People who are committed to doing professional work are always implicated in rat shit. We Libra can't stand unfair things. )
At present, most people on the Internet say that the recovery agency is deceptive, which is obviously based on ignorance or a little knowledge.
Coincidentally, I contacted the first batch of people in this industry in China.
I was young when I first came into contact with the recycling agency. First love just broke up. Because I have been abroad, psychological counseling and emotional counseling have become more common. But because of the adaptability of the language, it is difficult for me to communicate with the teachers I found abroad. Or through the domestic website to find the domestic institutions.
It should have been 14. The emotional tutor I found in China feels very watery. At least compared with foreign countries, they are totally unsystematic and scattered vagrants. Later, through my own love and study practice, I vaguely came into contact with some things in this industry.
The turning point began when I broke up with my current girlfriend.
Because she is a girl I can't handle, she chased me first, and then I knew how to cherish it. Anyway, I lost her. At that time, my mental state was also very poor, and with the double pressure from home and school, my recovery was getting worse and worse.
After this breakup, I started frantically looking for recycling agencies, reported nearly ten, and owed a lot of debts. Little progress has been made in recovery, but it has basically contacted the industry.
Later, under the double pressure of economy and emotion, I wanted to commit suicide, and I met a noble man. At that time, I thought that man was stupid and didn't understand me at all, so I helped him wholeheartedly and wanted nothing. In fact, that person just lived a relatively transparent life, and also saw through me, with a long-term vision, regardless of immediate gains and losses.
Sure enough, human feelings are the most difficult to repay, "free is the most expensive", help me recover and help me solve the economic crisis. I can only "listen"
They became emotional organizations very early, and some of them were naturally eliminated. But they still intend to open up overseas markets, especially for international students like me, who need such services very much.
After my life got on the right track, my teacher introduced me to one of my brothers, who is also in Canada. His name is Adam. He is one of their earliest students. He studied astrophysics at the University of Toronto and studied with his teachers for a long time. Later, we all took the psychology exam.
Now I think it's funny that many people on the Internet would rather find a person than an organization. I thought if I found someone, I would find someone reliable. In the public's inherent impression, it seems that it is a liar who saves the organization, not a person who is willing to communicate. In fact, it is even more insecure. Finding a private person is actually more luck. Even with a little talent and ability, many people are just a group of scattered people who make a living from it.
You see, many people themselves say on the Internet that the rescue agency is not reliable. As a result, individuals are still in this business, charging more expensive prices than professional institutions and not paying taxes to the state. This may not be legal at first.
Even if you are looking for a private consultant, I hope you can find a personal studio and business license, followed by a psychological consultant qualification certificate. Moreover, this is a very private industry, and at least there should be standardized contracts and confidentiality agreements to ensure the legitimate rights and interests of both parties. It's not that people who have these things are necessarily reliable, but you should at least have a minimum screening threshold.
If you are not sure of your identity, let the country screen out some for you first.
These thresholds can basically screen out 80% of fraudulent institutions, and at least the rest are operating within the legal scope of the country. But there are several levels of screening, the most basic is compliance and legality, and then the professional level. Many institutions do not have perfect professional standards and training systems, which can only be considered legal and unreliable.
Reliability depends on whether they have systematic and strict safety and professional boundaries. On the professional level, people who don't understand the industry should see whether they provide targeted and personalized services and whether there is a systematic professional distribution for everyone's situation (because each consultant is good at different fields: such as male psychology, female psychology, chat and talk, emotional intelligence improvement, quick attack, charm building, marriage relationship, mother-in-law contradiction, subconscious analysis, trauma repair, etc. And the more powerful teachers are of course all fields.
To sum up, there are several ways to judge a regular company for your reference:
Does the counselor have a psychological qualification certificate? Does the company have a qualified business license and tax payment certificate? Is the remittance transfer a company account or a private account (related to the tax payment channel)? Does the founder of the company specialize in the emotional industry and solve everyone's emotional problems with the same set of templates?
One more thing needs to be added. Although you can be sure that it is a regular company, some companies will use consumers' low price trap to induce consumption, and then guide consumers to continue investing step by step. The more they spend, the greater the cost of consultants. Ta is hard to get rid of the psychology of continuing to consume. Thinking that we have spent so much, we might as well learn more, or we will learn nothing. Isn't it more loss?
There will be no pie in the sky, so be careful when you are tempted.
It also depends on your subjective feelings and luck. I am surprised at the ability of many people to brag. Although he is not a professional consultant, he will certainly be cheated. But if you don't know much about your major or industry, you can do it yourself.
At first, I will dodge a little, because many people will reject or abuse the aid agencies. Now when someone asks me, I will say without hesitation that I work in a rehabilitation institution. People who want to believe will always believe, and those who don't want to believe for the time being can't force it.
I want to explain what an emotional institution is again.
Emotional recovery organization is an industry dedicated to emotional service, and the internal members of the company are mainly composed of people majoring in psychology.
Emotional institutions provide a wide range of services. Personally, I think it can help students understand gender psychology, learn to get along with the opposite sex, and know how to provide emotional value for the opposite sex.
In the span, not only engaged in restoration services, but also focused on marriage repair and how to get rid of bills.
In short, emotional organization is to teach you how to fall in love, repair feelings, and let you enter intimate relationships at a deeper level.
Marriage and family restorers are the most common in western markets and have a relatively long history. Most of them are older scholars, and there are several in our company.
For example, gary Chapman, a doctor of marital psychology, set up a company to serve the quality of married life. At first, it was to mediate marriage relations, and then it gradually expanded to a wider scope, and it also accepted the service and mediation of love relations.
China is an emotional organization that only rose in recent years. In the early days, there were Le Jia, Qilu and their team, as well as Tu Lei's studio. , let people begin to understand emotional marriage and love companies. But they run a wide range of emotional counseling, and there is no special way to save this piece.
Some are also doing love and marriage first, and then transforming only for redemption.
This field is really small, and talents are scarce, not as much as it looks on the market.
Cultivating people is also the place where the most energy is spent. Taking psychology as the threshold is because there is no school offering rehabilitation major at present. Psychologists have received relatively professional theoretical knowledge education, but it is not enough to study psychology alone.
Although anyone can call himself a teacher in this emerging market, do you know how many psychological counselors can produce an emotional counselor? How many emotional counselors can have a professional recovery tutor?
Recovery is a very difficult emotional case, which is more difficult than emotional repair and pursuit of divorce. This is more demanding than the first level. Experience, interest, knowledge, talent, hard work. At present, I, I really belong to the middle reaches (not a slacker), and I dare not expect more in the professional circle.
The teacher told me that "anything new just appears, it must be a mixed state." People must have been skeptical at first. This is a habitual tendency and absolute insistence of people on things, limiting themselves to the lowest imaginable standard. "
Including every day when our article is written, even if my article is average, people will copy it, not to mention my teacher's article. Every time I get angry, there is nothing I can do. The teacher said that all the terms and concepts about redemption on the Internet were translated from abroad at first, and then processed twice. Capital-driven plagiarism has also promoted the spread of this kind of knowledge in China to some extent.
Some things are beyond our control, natural market rules will be eliminated, and people's ability to distinguish will continue to improve with the maturity of this market, including pua institutions that were once all the rage. Just be yourself, and keep professional and progress so as not to be eliminated.
Taobao was also rejected when it first came out, because no entity felt the quality of things, and many people felt unreliable. I didn't expect to become the largest e-commerce company in China in a few years.
In fact, the same is true of emotional products. According to our statistics, intellectuals are often the most receptive to this form at present, and most of them are in cities such as Beijing, Guangzhou and Hong Kong. You didn't feel any influence at first, but when you gradually get rid of anxiety, you won't lose your temper easily with your partner and learn to shift your attention from spreading negative energy to others.
At that time, you really felt the effectiveness of emotional courses as products.
I also know that it is precisely because the product is in a virtual state that many people have bad ideas and use the invisibility of the product and the anxiety of saving people to defraud a lot of money.
As a result, the rescuer lost both manpower and financial resources, and he was disappointed in saving the industry, which is why many people posted on the Internet that many institutions are liars. Because there is no uniform standard, the industry chaos is particularly serious.
Because the person who collects fees in disorder is not a professional, I will send you several course links after paying the money. In fact, they are all video links found online, and the consultation is over.
Some consultants think the cost is too expensive. In fact, the hourly salary of domestic psychological counselors is about 300~ 1000, and that of senior psychological counselors is about 2000~3000, and some are even higher.
(General Psychological Counselor Price List)
Because recovery is a step-by-step process, under normal circumstances, it is a month's fee to recover feelings or repair feelings, and the fee is charged according to the difficulty of the counselor's recovery.
Some people have been trying to save the success rate of compound chasing people. If I say so much, you still can't judge what a professional recovery agency is, so remember one thing, as long as you guarantee 100% success, you must be a liar.
The premise of professionalism must be objective and rigorous. No matter how professional or even fierce, I don't consider myself a human teacher. I can't say that I am a god, and there is no panacea to cure diseases. The success rate of recovery really depends on the plasticity and environment of the parties themselves. It can only be said that you can maximize the possibility of recovery under the conditions you have now (or improve all possible conditions) and repair psychological problems and possible emotional problems at the same time.
Just like an educational institution for postgraduate entrance examination, the educational institution said that it had been packed before the exam, and it would be returned if it was not packed.
In fact, there are not more than half of the students in a class, and there are still many who fail in the postgraduate entrance examination.
Do you think that everyone can go ashore after class, then everyone will have to spend money to learn so much day and night?
The same is true for reporting to the recovery agency. The organization teaches you how to get along with the opposite sex. You only read a little, and you think you will. In fact, you have only learned half. How can you speak? How can we save it?
Because you don't have enough knowledge reserves, you always expose your sense of need in the face of your predecessor, completely losing the opportunity and failing to recover it. Finally, you blame division for lying to you.
In this case, you need to trust the organization you signed up for and follow the footsteps of the other party when you confirm that the other party is formal.
Some people are simply cheated, but many people don't want to To save face, they said they had been cheated. In fact, their understanding ability needs to be improved. People who don't believe in professional institutions operate in secret, pass the buck to teachers after making mistakes, and finally save the failure.
I am also a conceited person, and my family is passable. I don't work to survive. However, entering this circle and getting to know many bosses made me see the possible height before entering this industry.
No matter who is outside, there are still people who have high aspirations for this major. Teachers continue to train our professional skills around the clock, assess at different levels, and constantly adjust the model with real-time feedback such as psychological growth analysis, recovery success rate evaluation and customer satisfaction survey of each student. And work 24 hours a year.
There are still people in this world who do things with their hearts.
I love my job very much. Perhaps the field itself, as well as people who have reached a certain height in this industry, has a magic power. In such an environment, no one can stop the pace of self-improvement, including those who feel great about themselves, but learn more than us every day. I didn't pass the exam last month, and I may be angry to some extent recently. I need to vent my anger and come here to write this article.
I said a lot, but this is my personal number in Zhihu, and not many people will read it. Just keep a diary.
Finally, what is the significance of emotional institutions?
Many people say that emotions are very private things. How can such a thing be handled by a company?
Intimacy is closely related to psychology, and psychological counseling is also needed to solve emotional confusion.
Many people always suffer from loss and insecurity in love, which is related to one's psychology and family.
As a result, many people are always in love and avoid it. The two always hurt each other.
Psychological counselors will find out your core things professionally, so that you can know yourself better and enter intimate relationships better.
Because there is no compulsory course about love in China, only some universities offer it, which is difficult to get. Wuhan University began to offer the compulsory course of love from 20 12, which is one of the most difficult public elective courses in the whole school.
The course of love is not simply to teach you how to fall in love, but to hope you have a correct understanding of love, how to judge sexual orientation and so on.
However, there are too few such universities, which have only emerged in recent years. Too many people don't face up to their problems in interpersonal relationships. Whether it is marriage or love, it is difficult to handle, and many people will cheat.
According to the survey, half of them admitted that they had been in love and cheated in marriage, especially in middle age.
Most of the reasons are that emotional needs are not met, so they will seek extramarital love to fill their inner vacancies.
There was a counselor who was troubled by extramarital affairs. He said that he could not be comforted by his wife at home, and her wife only knew how to revolve around her son all day.
The elderly are a generation older than us. Many families maintain marriage, but there is no love between them, which makes it difficult for their children to feel what the real feelings are like. Children will imitate their parents' mode of getting along, suffer from feelings and cannot really enter intimate relationships.
In view of the lack of emotional education resources in China, emotional companies came into being to help everyone find the most suitable partner. Knowing how to deal with relationships is really the greatest wealth in a person's life, which is closely related to his happiness in life. When I come into contact with this industry, I sometimes sigh that really everything can be bought with money, including the ability to be happy. This is also a kind of social progress, and I myself am a beneficiary.
I hope everyone will keep their eyes open when choosing rehabilitation institutions to avoid being deceived. Besides, according to my own tolerance, this kind of consultation is really expensive. After all, the time cost of talents is high, and most of the cheap ones are unreliable.