I expect the counselor to tell me directly how to do it and how to interact with people. For example, you should take the initiative and be patient. This is the suggestion. Expect counselors to love and understand themselves. Counselors don't have to directly tell and advise themselves what to do. Through the expression and words of the interview, the clarification and inspiration of the psychological counselor, the interview psychology clarified a lot of thoughts and feelings, and they knew how to do it without the advice of the psychological counselor.
I expect the counselor to tell me what to do, and then I will understand and ponder in my life and solve the problem myself. I don't want to rely on every consultation of a psychological counselor. There are also different understandings of solving problems. Some people think that solving is to change others and eliminate their emotions. Some people think this solution is satisfactory. Others think that the solution is to improve practical problems.
Different understanding of the solution will also affect the expectation and understanding of the consultation and what kind of consultant we are looking for. Consultants in different schools may adhere to different principles of setting up, so that visitors have different feelings. Some consultants will follow the consultation, get to know the visitors, meet their needs appropriately, and guide them to gradually enter the psychological level and see their inner conflicts.
? Second, according to the psychological level of the patients, the evaluation of the counseling effect is also different.
After analyzing the essence of the problem and finding the core conflict, a suggestion from the counselor may make the visitors understand a lot, feel confident in their epiphany and solving their own problems, and recognize the consultation. For long-term emotional interviews, the consultant's advice is generally invalid. The interview was overwhelmed by a lot of emotions and rational thinking was blocked. First, we should deal with the visiting emotions a lot, and wait until the visiting sense of reason is gradually strengthened, so that the visiting can see the effect.
If you give advice to a visit with strong emotions, it is impossible to visit under the emotional drowning. Therefore, an emotional visit feels that the advice to the counselor is invalid. Only by appeasing the visitors' emotions, helping them to understand their own emotions and helping them to gradually calm down these emotions can visitors feel that counseling is effective when their emotions gradually subside. The process of this emotional fading varies from person to person, with long and short.
? Third, you can make an appointment to communicate in advance, discuss your expectations and understanding with the consultant, and see if you can reach an agreement when the consultant has a general evaluation of your problem.
If your problem can be alleviated through analysis, explanation and suggestions, the consultant will be willing to adjust the pace of consultation. If your problem needs a lot of exploration, you can see the direction of solution, so you need to explore yourself first and adjust flexibly according to the situation.
? Fourth, marriage and family involve relationship issues. This relationship problem can be seen from the percentage that needs to be adjusted on your own side, which accounts for a large percentage. As long as you improve your relationship a lot, you will naturally improve a lot.
If your side accounts for a small proportion, it will be difficult to improve if the other side does not cooperate with the improvement. No matter what genre you choose, consultation and interview are cooperative relationships. As long as the consultation objectives are consistent and the conversation methods are consistent, I believe that consultation will help you. In consultation, both sides will have feelings for each other, which involves the topic of trust and love. These topics can be discussed directly. Let's see if we can continue talking after the discussion.