What about the strong man in the workplace now? As our boss, it seems natural for leaders to listen to his orders in the workplace, but some people have a strong attitude towards leaders. Let's share what happened to the strong people in the workplace now.
What about the strong man in the workplace now? 1 I saw an old colleague in a circle of friends saying, "In the workplace for decades, I found that the one who laughs last is the strong one." So in order to be winners in the workplace, should we all make ourselves stronger?
At this time, we need to look at our own definition of strength and then make our own choices.
In the workplace, people who can be "the one who laughs last" will have a strong performance:
1, dare to take responsibility, do not avoid your own mistakes, and actively face and deal with difficult problems. So such people will perform better in management positions.
Because of this quality, he can win the trust of superiors and subordinates, and he has the ability and confidence to make decisions quickly.
2, not afraid of offending people. If there is something unclear at work, I will definitely get to the bottom of it. If you find that your boss or colleagues have work problems, you will directly raise them and don't want to muddle along.
This kind of work style not only protects one's own work achievements, but also eliminates those unqualified work partners.
Another kind of strength belongs to the performance of "workplace anxiety", which we call "false strength". The performance of "false strength" usually includes:
1, can't listen to different opinions. Maximize your opinions and put your subjective will before the needs of your work.
2, often show off in front of colleagues, brush the sense of existence.
3. Don't change your temper even when facing the boss. Take this as the performance of "honesty".
Although this practice is very strong and seemingly firm, it often leads to interpersonal tension in the workplace, thus limiting its own work development. At the same time, this strong style will consume your own heart to a great extent.
In fact, the more you make a fool of yourself inside, the more you get used to being strong. Because of his strength, it is already a means of self-protection for him.
At a friend's party, Xiao Di, a former colleague, became the target of scolding.
Xiao Di's initial position was as a small commissioner. When she switched jobs, she changed the "specialist position" in her employment experience to the "supervisor position" on her resume. Finally, she stood out in the interview and successfully joined the new company with the title of "manager".
Being able to pass the interview of personnel and department leaders without being caught also shows that this little Commissioner is really flexible. However, after entering the post, Xiao Di has no team management experience, so her heart is full of fear and anxiety.
On the one hand, she is worried that she can't suppress the people below, on the other hand, she is afraid of meeting her colleagues in her previous company and exposing her resume to fraud.
The more afraid she is, the stronger she is, because she is too eager to play this role "truly". All the work instructions she gives, whether there are problems or not, will not accept other opinions.
This approach can barely get by in your own department, but it won't work in some work matters that require cross-departmental cooperation and communication. The result was stabbed to the boss by an inter-departmental leader.
When the news reached Xiao Di, Xiao Di said confidently, "To be a manager, you must have such motivation".
In the workplace, there are many people who can pretend to be strong like Xiao Di, but the result is contrary to what they want. Even, we ourselves will have similar performance at some point.
This is not abnormal behavior, but we have accumulated too much anxiety inside. This kind of anxiety will make our nerves tense all the time, and let us always be vigilant. To exaggerate, I have always been in a sense of defense that "there are always unruly people who want to hurt me."
Just like Xiao Di, as soon as she enters the working state, she will be alert to whether someone is challenging the majesty of her manager; Will someone reveal that she was just a small Commissioner before and never had a team management manager?
Perhaps you have met such a neurotic boss or colleague.
So they are "outspoken" in this state, not out of consideration for the results of their work; But it is more from the perspective of defending your position and face in the workplace. This strength will only shorten your career lifeline.
So, how can we let go of this anxiety and return to normal workplace performance?
The core step is to reduce your anxiety. Anxiety is like a timer on a time bomb. It ticks every minute.
The sound of this timer makes your heart beat faster and makes you afraid of the moment when the bomb explodes. Worst of all, you don't know when it will be detonated. Because in the workplace, there are so many variables that you can't predict and come so unprepared.
When you are anxious, you will have stress, and stress will release a lot of pheromones in your brain, reminding your brain that you need to expand your attention range and avoid danger.
So we can often find that when we are under pressure, it is difficult for us to concentrate, and all kinds of ideas will appear in our minds, which is very confusing.
Decisions made at this time are often not so accurate and wise.
Moreover, anxiety will lead to the contraction of the hippocampus responsible for memory, so people who are in a state of anxiety for a long time will have weaker memory than healthy people and will be more sensitive and concerned about negative events.
Therefore, "fake strong" people, with the passage of time, their work performance will get worse and worse. After leaving the company, colleagues will think that their actions have offended many people and they can't get along with each other, so they choose to resign or quit.
In fact, bad interpersonal relationship is one of the factors, and the inefficiency caused by anxiety is a "fatal blow" to them.
How to change it?
There is a simple, convenient and inexpensive way, that is: pay attention to the changes in your body and identify the thoughts in your brain.
What if you did?
You can do it through meditation.
There are many meditation softwares in the mobile APP now, so you can choose one you like to download and use.
Meditation can inhibit the activity in the posterior cingulate cortex of our brain. Once the activity in this brain area is reduced, you can improve your attention, relax your body and mind, and be free from distractions.
Because the posterior cingulate cortex is responsible for distraction and distraction.
We all know that real estate agents are under great pressure, so they are highly dependent on alcohol and tobacco. But it puts them in a negative cycle. Alcohol and tobacco will not help them improve their grades, but will increase their expenses and infringe on their health.
When I was a training manager, I suggested that sales could try to meditate and relax. But the salesman smiled and said to me, "it's okay if you let me go out for a run." Let me lie down and listen to those slow words. I'm not interested at all. "
Some people are not interested in static meditation, so you can choose: dynamic meditation. For example: yoga, swimming, walking and so on.
You can recall whether the number of negative thoughts that usually bother you at work has decreased when you are asked to do yoga;
You can also imagine that when you are underwater in the swimming pool, is it as if you have entered another world? The buoyancy you feel in the water, even the hearing in the water, is so different. In this state, you temporarily put aside your anxiety.
For example, when you are walking, has your mind changed?
If possible, you can even take photos of yourself at work and during meditation with your mobile phone. Then through the film, observe the difference of your body. Most people can clearly observe that their facial expressions have changed.
This is what we say: pay attention to the changes in your body and identify the thoughts in your brain.
When you can identify the above two kinds of information about yourself, you can judge which decompression method is best for you. So as to reduce their anxiety and get rid of the state of "false strength".
What about the strong people in the workplace now? There will be many strong people in the workplace. There are two advantages in the workplace:
First, people who are truly capable and powerful are more pragmatic and pay more attention to efficiency.
They have their own ideas, viewpoints, countermeasures and implementation steps, as long as you can understand and support them.
For example, our company's HR recruitment is very strict, and the recruitment standards set by him can only be exceeded, and we must never make do with it.
Once the sales department wanted to recruit a clerk, and the manager said that as long as he knew basic office software, he would be obedient and not slow down. The standard set by HR is:
1, height 165CM or above, sunny and confident, walking or sitting with your head held high, you should be able to control both professional clothes and casual clothes, no matter what kind of clothes can shine in the crowd;
2. Know how to drink tea and listen to lectures, quickly and accurately grasp the core points of each conversation, and be fluent in English listening, reading and writing, with beautiful handwriting;
3. People who love to spend money and lack money, and earn money for themselves only by their own hands; Able to understand overtime, competition, grievances and running-in;
4. People who are not idolized, do not pursue drama, only pursue work goals and dreams, are ambitious, have execution, and are really willing to take practical actions;
As soon as the job requirements came out, the business department exploded, and everyone said that it was impossible to recruit such people. But HR's point of view is that such people are determined but demanding. Only those who set high standards for themselves can truly understand what they want, pay more attention to rules, responsibilities and have a bottom line. Such people don't waste time and pay great attention to efficiency. It seems that they spent a lot of time and energy in the early stage, even wages and benefits, but such people are very cheap to use.
Companies that want long-term sustainable development must keep in mind: pragmatic, competent, efficient, brave, enterprising, courageous and responsible people.
The second is: aggressive personality, or bullying people with background in the company.
1, new to the workplace, the water depth is unknown. Let's first find out whether this awkward, powerful and arrogant old employee is because of his strong ability and aggressive personality, or whether he has the support of key figures behind him.
2. If you are capable and really have no hostility, it is also a shortcut to improve yourself by letting go of your feelings, not treating others with things, and listening to his ideas and suggestions.
3, aggressive personality, some people really have nothing to say when doing things, and they are sincere and honest, but they are a little too aggressive, always want to win or lose, and they must win. No matter what you say, he can always find a reason to refute, even if that reason is far-fetched. Such people can be uncontroversial.
4. There is a leader to support him, or a relative of the leader. I suggest you resign, because, by doing so, he shows that this leader is also a confused leader, allowing his cronies or relatives to bully employees in the company, cronyism, and let them be cruel and enjoy success.
What about the strong people in the workplace now? 3. Smart ways to deal with strongmen in the workplace.
First, from the standpoint of the new director, think and analyze why she has such behavior.
1. Discover talents. Just parachuted into a new location, I don't know the whole office, so I can only find talents who can be used by myself through temptation, so I can test and find talents through the requirements of various things and see the effect they have achieved.
2. Show authority. If a new leader can't be strong in a place, especially women, he will be looked down upon by his subordinates. The appearance of strength and strength itself shows that she is not a strong woman, but she just doesn't want to be looked down upon by others and can't manage it later.
3. Personal character. It is no accident that a woman can be a leader, but she should pay a lot. Therefore, people who are strict with themselves are generally perfectionists and strict with others. There is no good or bad personality, the key is mutual respect, which is very important.
Second, after knowing why she has such strong leadership behavior, we can find corresponding coping strategies.
1, immediately familiar with the new leadership's working methods.
Everyone has their own comfort zone. When a new leader takes office, he must have new working methods. You should quickly get familiar with the style of the new leader, get out of your comfort zone and complete new working methods to adapt to the new leader. The so-called "one courtier a day" is like this. You should adapt to the new leader, not let the leader adapt to you. Put up with it or get out. Adapting to changes as early as possible can make your workplace smoother.
2. Take the lead in maintaining the prestige of the new leader.
Don't look at the new leader with hostility, especially don't do anything that will damage the authority of the new leader, because if the new official takes office, you may be victimized by the new leader as a bully. Take killing a chicken as an example. If you can't take the lead in defending the authority of the leader, you will be the one who will be cut off. Taking the lead in maintaining the authority of leaders will make leaders feel goodwill and see your loyalty. Have a loyal subordinate who will be close to you.
3, take the initiative to complete and report in detail the tasks assigned by the leadership.
Ask for instructions in advance, take the initiative and when to report. Familiarize the new leader with your work ability, attitude and method. Then, they can put you in a better position according to your ability, or have a position in their hearts, so that leaders can get familiar with you at work. This is the basis for promotion. Do you think you have a chance if you don't take the initiative to let the leaders know?
3. After understanding the above content and analysis, I want to point out that in the workplace, we should not complain that we are not valued by leaders, but consider whether we consider the problem from the perspective of leaders. If you can't look at the problem from the perspective of leadership, you will never be a leader.