It is very important to find a suitable psychological counselor. If you don't find a suitable counselor, it will even bring secondary harm to the helper! After consulting me, many help seekers said: I found a consultant online before, but it turned out to be a liar. After receiving the money, I can't find anyone! Others said that although people were there, he just listened and said "I understand" without providing any valuable guidance. Another helper was told by the psychological counselor how serious it was and fell into greater pain!
In fact, most people who seek psychological help are not confident, insecure, sensitive and fragile, so it is very important to find a good psychological counselor! We should carefully examine his qualifications and read his consulting cases and articles.
Second: the problem of the helper himself!
People's psychology is very mysterious. Sometimes it takes a long process to walk into a dead end and lead it out, which can't be done overnight. Therefore, psychological counseling is mostly carried out according to the course of treatment, but in my feeling, many clients feel suddenly enlightened after consulting once, thinking that they don't need guidance and know everything, so they stop consulting at will, so that their previous efforts are in vain.
At the same time, counselors often encounter obstacles in the process of guiding the growth of help seekers, because growth is a process of abandoning the old and welcoming the new, just like phoenix nirvana, which is also very difficult and painful.